I guess I place less value on who a person is and what they have, and more on the choices they make, on what they do. For me, it is a truly amazing and wondrous person who grows beyond their inherited gifts and limitations, and challenges the world around them in an attempt to make it a better place, and who embraces what the world gives us and lives fully. I try to surround myself with people like that, to try to inspired to be the same.
I am very much into self improvement, but I don't always need to talk about it. Actions speak louder than words, and all that. I strive to make the world a better place by supporting others to live according to their values, by challenging systems that harm others or hold us back from being as wonderful as possible, and by creating new systems that are true to my my vision of what makes a good world. I try to live fully by creating meaningful connections with others, and by finding peace, joy and meaning in simple things like playing board games and riding my bicycle.
Hey, did you know that if you rate someone 4 or 5 stars, OKCupid sends them an email and a link from that email lead them to a few people to rate. I'm not going to rate anyone, as it seems kind of objectifying, so if you are interested in me, send me a message!
-Must be open-minded. I'm not your ordinary guy, and my brain works in unusual ways, so I need someone who can handle that.
-Must be politically "left". I know some people will judge this, but I mean I want to be with someone who thinks that people are capable of creating a better world, and that puts their money where their mouth is. If you have any of the following thoughts, you're going to drive me crazy: if you think that climate change isn't a problem, that birth control is against God, that having a lot of money means you should be able to do whatever the hell you want, or that people are nothing but selfish ***holes who need to be treated like sheep.
-Must be sex positive. When I use this expression, I mean that you think that sex is good and ultimately enriches our lives. I see sex as an act of celebration and a tool for building intimacy, when done responsibly. If you want to be sex positive but have hang-ups, that's great too; we can go from there.
- Must enjoy conversation. My wife is an introvert and I'm an extrovert, and I would like more conversation in my life. I am not against small talk, and I like connecting deeply through conversation.
P.S. People seem really hesitant to go on dates, I guess because of the expectations and pressure and whatnot. If you are interested, we can always just get together and not call it a date and just see if a relationship or friendship develops.