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36 Winnipeg, Manitoba, CA Man


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I’m looking for

  • Women
  • Ages 25-45
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

My details

Last online
Aug 28
Open relationship
Relationship Type
Strictly non-monogamous
5' 7" (1.69m)
Body Type
Special Diet
Two-year college
Doesn’t have kids
English (Fluently), French (Somewhat)
My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
Disclaimer: I am married and are polyamourous (My partner as well. I'm not here looking for someone to cheat on my wife with). If you think we could be compatible and want to send me a message, I'd love to hear from you. :)

I guess I place less value on who a person is and what they have, and more on the choices they make, on what they do. For me, it is a truly amazing and wondrous person who grows beyond their inherited gifts and limitations, and challenges the world around them in an attempt to make it a better place, and who embraces what the world gives us and lives fully. I try to surround myself with people like that, to try to inspired to be the same.

I am very much into self improvement, but I don't always need to talk about it. Actions speak louder than words, and all that. I strive to make the world a better place by supporting others to live according to their values, by challenging systems that harm others or hold us back from being as wonderful as possible, and by creating new systems that are true to my my vision of what makes a good world. I try to live fully by creating meaningful connections with others, and by finding peace, joy and meaning in simple things like playing board games and riding my bicycle.

Hey, did you know that if you rate someone 4 or 5 stars, OKCupid sends them an email and a link from that email lead them to a few people to rate. I'm not going to rate anyone, as it seems kind of objectifying, so if you are interested in me, send me a message!

Must haves:
-Must be open-minded. I'm not your ordinary guy, and my brain works in unusual ways, so I need someone who can handle that.
-Must be politically "left". I know some people will judge this, but I mean I want to be with someone who thinks that people are capable of creating a better world, and that puts their money where their mouth is. If you have any of the following thoughts, you're going to drive me crazy: if you think that climate change isn't a problem, that birth control is against God, that having a lot of money means you should be able to do whatever the hell you want, or that people are nothing but selfish ***holes who need to be treated like sheep.
-Must be sex positive. When I use this expression, I mean that you think that sex is good and ultimately enriches our lives. I see sex as an act of celebration and a tool for building intimacy, when done responsibly. If you want to be sex positive but have hang-ups, that's great too; we can go from there.
- Must enjoy conversation. My wife is an introvert and I'm an extrovert, and I would like more conversation in my life. I am not against small talk, and I like connecting deeply through conversation.

P.S. People seem really hesitant to go on dates, I guess because of the expectations and pressure and whatnot. If you are interested, we can always just get together and not call it a date and just see if a relationship or friendship develops.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
Right now I'm working at the library.

I have Chronic Fatigue Syndrome, so a fair amount of my time is spent resting and doing whatever it takes to get better.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Listening and empathising, communicating my needs, giving massages, not sweating the small stuff, sweating the big stuff, expressing and working through dark emotions, taking responsibility for my "stuff", caring about others, conversation, socialising, understanding people
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I think people might peg me as a hippie because of my scruffy appearance. After talking to me, I think they would notice that I am genuinely interested in them, and can easily articulate who I am and what I'm about. People would notice that I talk about pretty deep stuff, but am generally fairly relaxed.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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My favourite books: Healing Through the Dark Emotions, The One Thing Holding You Back and Nonviolent Communication are very important to me. For fiction, I read a lot of graphic novels (like Fables and Ex Machina) and some urban fantasy (like Neil Gaiman, Charles DeLint and Jim Butcher)

My favourite movies: I haven't been watching a lot of movies lately, but am normally drawn to philosophical or otherwise meaningful movies, as well as fantasy and science fiction. Some movies I could watch over and over are The Matrix (and the sequels), American Beauty, Amelie, Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind and Monty Python and the Holy Grail

Music: "College radio" describes it best. Indie rock or pop, blues oriented rock, folk... I listen to a Pandora Radio station that is built around the Black Keys, Spoon and Gomez. Sadly, they don't have Son of Dave.

Food: I'm a semitarian. I eat largely vegetarian, and the only meat I eat is ethical meat, like free-range chickens and whatnot. I avoid dairy, but not strictly. Going out I enjoy Mexican, Thai and Ethiopian, and the various vegetarian restaurants. At home I tend to make a lot of stewy things with beans. Come to think of it, Mexican, Thai and Ethiopian all have stewy things with beans or lentils!
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
1. Friends
2. A sense of purpose
3. my wife
4. Board games
5. the library
6. a computer connected to the net
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
I don't have a "typical Friday night". I might be hanging out with my wife, or have friends over for board games, or if I've been social during the week, I might just stay home and hang out with my rabbits, Lucy and Levi.

On a Saturday, there's a decent chance I'll be playing Dungeons and Dragons.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I guess it often seems like the world is against me. I need my friends, community, my wife and possibly (future) partner so that I know I'm not alone.
You should message me if
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you can come up with *any* reason to! I won't bite, and I promise to reply to your message, unless it's complete gibberish *and* there's nothing in your profile that interests me (that only happened once)