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41 Hackensack, NJ Man


I’m looking for

  • Women
  • Ages 29–45
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating

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Last Online
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Black, Native American, Other
6′ 0″ (1.83m)
Body Type
Mostly anything
Atheism, but not too serious about it
Sagittarius, and it’s fun to think about
Graduated from masters program
Politics / Government
Rather not say
Relationship Status
Relationship Type
Mostly monogamous
Doesn’t have kids, but wants them
Likes dogs
English (Fluently), Spanish (Poorly)

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My self-summary
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I could almost leave it a ditto to Mary Oliver:

"You do not have to be good.
You do not have to walk on your knees for a hundred miles
through the desert, repenting.
You only have to let the soft animal of your body
love what it loves."

But nah...Some (most) things should be said plainly. If you are an avid church goer, you should know from the door I am the kind of man they warn you to stay away from on any given sunday.

Don't get it twisted, I am not a devil worshiper, a compulsive liar, nor a camel thief. I am a loving heart, full of joy, who honors my word. I'm also an insatiably curious, irreverent, open minded, skeptical, liberal, "type A," ragamuffin intellectual, with a hedonistic streak as wide as the Nile. If you are a dedicated good girl who seeks to follow other people's rules and "the good book" in all things, I appreciate you and I have mad love, but we are likely not a match. I will lead you, gleefully, down the path of "sin."

I have a soft spot for the raw bite of straight Tennessee bourbon, sumptuous (read "life-shortening") feasts, well-told inappropriate jokes, and the insouciance of sassy, strong, brilliant women in high heels, who curse shamelessly. Devoted to pursuing the strumpets of dangerous ideas, experiences that tease my senses, and adventures that require a poet, a philosopher and a mystic to capture and describe completely. I am in awe of life and humanity; that we are here, what we are capable of as individuals and what we can share and create together.

I'm here on OKC in search of that ineffable connection we (fairly well-adjusted humans) all crave. Someone to laugh with, know, and be known by, to share a leg or two of this journey. If you recognize you are looking for the same, I quite possibly wanna do all that with you.
What I’m doing with my life
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Empowering others; advocating for equality, justice, compassion, understanding and self expression. Appreciation of arts and culture, intellect, stimulating conversation, wine, and the company of great family and friends to share all of the above, are all driving forces of my nature.

Finding a committed romantic relationship is high on my list of priorities right now. Though, given I'm a man, I suppose custom suggests this should be in my "private thing I'm willing to admit" box.

[See above for my views on custom.]
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Being a grown and sexy ass renaissance man at all the right times, and at all other times being a precocious pubescent 12 year old boy.
The first things people usually notice about me
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How I set nearby objects ablaze with my radioactive hotness.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Books: "The Time Machine" ...Since I was a boy that book fired my imagination..Oh and also Carter G. Woodson's "The Miseducation of the Negro", which is about a century old and could have been written yesterday...Brilliant.

Movie: I will watch a zombie, vampire, alien, monster, space battle, comic book superhero, gladiator, robot, kung fu, shoot'em up, western, documentary flick, and any combination thereof, any day of the week. But I will fall for anything well written and acted, with compelling plot and characters, that deals authentically with what it is to be a human being. My favorite movie is "The Shawshank Redemption." Though if you go by genre, there are a few surprises.

Show: Any acrobatic, physical, skillified, wonder inducing spectacle that makes me laugh and clap my hands like a two-year old girl (Cirque, Momix, Traces, Beijing monks etc.). Any concert by Motown artists and anything at all Alvin Ailey.

Music: All about old skool baby. Jazz, blues, soul, hip hop, some international flavor, with bouts of Annie Lennox, The Black Keys and Florence and the Machine. I am very open to music but there is definitely a core of what I like. I invite you to expand my musical vocabulary. Sharing music is a highly underrated way to truly get to know someone.

Food: Toss up between Sushi, Chuletas (Cuban style), Chicken Pad Thai and CTM. Just thinking of those gets me to jonesin. Oh, and fried chicken (Damn you genetic predisposition!).
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Toxin free air. Clean drinkable water. Nutritious food. Shelter. Access to quality medical care. Freedom.

Not a fun list, 'tis true. But c'mon you can't be totally surprised. Is the above the self summary of a dude who's gonna say "Pop tarts, my medical marijuana prescription, contraceptives, body shots, tube porn and earbuds?"

Shit... I suppose in fact it does. And truth be told that's not a bad (nor wholly inaccurate) list. But thats not my point here!

My point is, I strive to maintain awareness that the majority of people in the world lack things I (we) take for granted, and could never do without.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
The people who lack things I take for granted and could never do without.

If the Human Genome Project ever maps the "total and complete asshole" gene, what the morally responsible thing to do about it is.

How gangsta it is in Westeros and the 7 Kingdoms.

If isolating butt muscles to "twerk" properly is a genetic thing like being able to curl your tongue and tie a cherry stem with it.

How (person X) did (thing Y)...And what I can learn from that
[Note: This apparently includes twerking.]

How I can arrange my schedule this week so I spend the maximum amount of time back home in NYC.

This is water. This is water.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
I am in a leadership program that meets on Friday nights three Fridays out of the month. Yay self development.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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My vision of healthy relationships has been shaped considerably by Richard Dawkins, old blues songs, Dan Savage, and Pixar.

Oh and my top two love languages are "Word of Affirmation" and "Physical affection."
You should message me if
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You're real, open-minded and willing to walk on the skinny branches with a hand to hold.

I appreciate most in people what I appreciate most in art; diversity, depth, passion, opinion, self-expression, irreverence, fun, being occasionally too loud and sometimes hard to follow, but full of heart and soul. You should message me if this resonates with you.

…Or if I messaged you and you're interested.

...and interesting.

...and/or your milkshake brings all the boys to the yard.

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