Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
I'm at a cafe with a friend right now. I just asked him for three
words that describe me. He said sincere, loyal, and affirming. I
guess that's more objective than anything I could say about myself,
but I'll give it a try.
When it comes to social interactions, I tend to prefer quality to
quantity. I would much rather have a few close friends than many
casual acquaintances. I believe that growing up a shy child
actually prepared me to appreciate the value of listening and being
fully present to another person. I think shy people are cool.
I enjoy the excitement and aesthetic beauty of intellectual
discovery. The birth of an insight. An epiphany. A shift in
perspective. Observing or realizing new connections and
interrelationships. Seeing something with a deeper level of
clarity. The most exhilarating form of discovery is finding out
something new about myself.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
I've spent most of my adult life as a teacher. I've taught in a lot
of fascinating settings. I've taught improv to shy people and as
well as inmates. I was an inner city elementary school teacher, and
I've also taught at the graduate school level. I co-founded a
Servant Leadership School, where I taught leadership skills to
inner city residents. For several years I facilitated a lucid
dreaming program. In lucid dreams we are aware we are dreaming, and
can think and act with the same amount of clarity that we posses
while awake. Lucid dreaming can change the way you see the world.
Are you dreaming or awake right now? How do you know?
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Teaching. I love to teach.
Creating community. Ironic. As I said before I was a very shy
child. The psychologist Alfred Adler had a good explanation for
this. He sided more with Jesus (the meek shall inherit the earth)
than Darwin (survival of the fittest). He argued that the
meek/nonfit must struggle, which gives birth to a perseverance that
often allows them to overtake those who start out as the
Taking naps in my (parked) car. This is an amazingly practical and
convenient skill. I feel sorry when someone tells me they are
unable to take car naps.
Finding lost cats. I once spent 10 days searching for my former
roommate’s lost cat. Eventually someone who had spotted him saw one
of my fliers and called me. I followed the lead and spent the
morning camped out by a vacant pool, and the cat finally showed up.
He had been chilling by a pool this whole time!
Abstract and imaginative thinking. Many people might not think
these two things go together, but with me they do.
Spinning a frisbee on the tip of my finger. I taught myself to do
this as a teenager. Turned out to not be as useful of a life skill
as I first thought.
Mental arithmetic. This was probably a wonderfully handy skill to
have before the invention of the calculator.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
My smile. Also, I look younger than my actual age. Although I guess
that's not the first thing strangers notice about me because they
don't know my real age. If I wore a t-shirt that said 'I'm 43 years
old' then my youthful looks would be the first thing people noticed
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
Books: The Time Traveler's Wife, Lying on the Couch, The Discovery
of the Unconscious, Flow:The Psychology of Optimal Experience
Movies: I tend to like dark comedies and mind bending films. Some
of my favorites are Eternal Sunshine of a Spotless Mind, Juno, Life
is Beautiful, and 12 Monkeys.
TV: Arrested Development, the Office, Curb Your Enthusiasm,
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
My dreams, books, friends and loved ones, alone time, together
time, figuring out the meaning of my life.
I also enjoy the relaxed feeling I get after riding my bike.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
- Why certain song lyrics pop into my head at certain times. My
hunch is these song lyrics are much like dreams, potentially giving
me information about my self and surroundings that are not
completely within my conscious awareness.
- The difference between self actualization and self-image
- How to move beyond the boundaries of the world I've created for
- Why okcupid thinks people who have different opinions from me are
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
On the Internet? Is this a zen koan?
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