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30 M Oakland, CA

My Details

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Yesterday – 10:22pm
6′ 0″ (1.83m)
Body Type
Mostly anything
Libra, and it’s fun to think about
Relationship Status
Relationship Type
Doesn’t have kids

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My self-summary
I love art, food, people and community. I am consistent, grounded, passionate and easygoing. I am often quiet in larger groups, and I love long one on one conversations where the rest of the world fades away. I love to get to know new people and learn about their lives. I think I strike a good balance between realism and optimism. I am widely accepting of people and am excited by diversity and uniqueness.

I enjoy both masculine and feminine parts of my nature, and I don’t fit into gender stereotypes very well. I am bored and confused by many aspects of gender roles, and I prefer to connect with people who can see past preconceptions and relate to each other as people first.
What I’m doing with my life
I love to cook. I learn the core principles behind different dishes, then improvise and develop my own recipes and variations. I am continually fascinated by the mysterious magic of cooking, and the power of sharing a delicious meal to bring people together.

I love to make pottery on the wheel. I have done production work and taught classes. Now I am spending my time developing new designs striving to breath more feeling and expression into my work.

I manage a small branch of my fathers business. As long as I make it work, he gives my complete freedom and independence. I hired a good friend, and me and him have made the business more and more efficient over the years. We have decided to keep it small, and now have plenty of free time to pursue other interests.
I’m really good at
Seeing the potential in others, loving people for who they are, being positive, being realistic, building things, strategy games, being dedicated, thinking things through, being silly.
The first things people usually notice about me
Someone told me their first impression was that I was expressive with my body language.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
I listen to a wide range of music and going to shows is a fun activity. The Independent is my favorite venue in the bay so far.

Reading books is also fun. I love cuddling up on the couch with someone, each reading our book; there is something so comforting about spending time in silence, both having our own experience.

I listen to a lot of podcasts, and love to chat about the last episode of This American LIfe, Radiolab, etc.

Exploring new exciting restaurants, going to a movie in a small local theater where they don’t play a bunch of terrible ads, and watching a good show together can also be fun ongoing activities.

Besides that, there are like a milion activities that I would love to do with enthusiastic participants. If you want to know, just ask.
The six things I could never do without
There are more then six things that without, my life would be hard and sad. I usually just try to adapt and keep going after new things as life changes...

Some things that are important to me at the moment: close friends/family, bike, smart phone, well equipped kitchen, farmers markets, computers, pottery studio membership.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Work, art, relationships, people, how life works, the world.
On a typical Friday night I am
The day of the week doesn't have all that much influence on my choice of activity. Often times I forget it is Friday and wonder why the restaurant has such a long wait...
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I am pretty open and enjoy talking about feelings, relationships and sex. Exchanging personal stories over drinks is another great activity.
I’m looking for
  • Girls who like guys
  • Ages 24–32
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating
You should message me if
If you want to get together for a low pressure conversation over a coffee or beer. I am okay with messaging too, but I find it a lot easier to get a feeling for someone face to face. I have no shortage of fun activity and adventure ideas, but having an initial meeting to feel things out makes sense to me. So far I have had some of the best conversations upon first meeting someone from here.