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I’m looking for

  • Women
  • Ages 25–40
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

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Last online
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5′ 8″ (1.73m)
Body Type
Agnosticism, but not too serious about it
Graduated from university
Doesn’t have kids
My self-summary
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Heya. Let me be up-front, summer is here and I'm feeling frisky. I'm not really into 1-night stands, I prefer more conversational and intimate hookups.

I have near future travelling plans so can't commit to anything long-term. I think it's best to say this all here so you know.

If you want a direct and chilled out adult conversation with potential for kinky antics then read on.
What I’m doing with my life
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My day job is basically writing about science for a museum. No prize for guessing which one.

I am learning Korean. 한국어 흥미있어요! 그리고 한국어 말하기 재미 있어요.

I like board-games and do that quite a bit. I perform improvised comedy.

Basically I like talking/learning about the nuts-and-bolts of things like storytelling in comics, theatre and all that stuff. I'm looking for more people to share that with.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
The first things people usually notice about me
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I have a working class saff-east/kentish accent, which surprises people apparently.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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The full list is ridiculous, I will just put down recent fascinating things I have experienced. The Ape and the Sushi Master by Frans De Waal. Lords of Light by Zelazny. Castaway on the Moon. Sex Criminals. Rat Queens.

Favourite things of all time. Imajica by Clive Barker. Promethea by Alan Moore. Goonies. Almost Famous. I really love Idries Shah's writing and Cordwainer Smith's.

Favourite Passionate Clinch:
Daniel Day-Lewis and Madeline Stowe in Last of the Mohicans.
Mmm, dat clinch.

Poor quality clip if you haven't seen it:

Music-wise I grew up listening to heavy metal, Devin Townsend and Opeth. Listen to everything now. I love the soundtrack to O Brother Where Art Thou. Tori Amos, They Might Be Giants, Arethra Franklin, Detroit Emeralds, RIlo Kiley, Neko Case, Ravi Shankar. All good.

I consume a lot of media and love talking about it.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Empathy and fun.

If you want to know where my antenna are focussed then see Brene Brown's TED talk on vulnerability.

Also I dig Mr Rogers. My role models are him, Bill Hicks and Sam Beckett from Quantum Leap.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Improvising. I'm obsessed. Even when I work on other things I keep thinking about running classes and doing shows.

I am an improv geek I will talk about it a lot if you let me.

Also Non-Violent Communication, I have been using that for about 5 years. It's fundamental to how I see the world.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Come on, there isn't one.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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I really like being emotionally supportive. I worked with the Samaritans for a while and have done lots of other similar training. So finding a woman and looking after her emotionally and physically is my basic idea of commitment.

In any long-term relationship I expect the same to be reciprocated. Emotional warmth turns me on. Does this make me an oddball? Who knows.
You should message me if
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"I want to live darkly and richly in my femaleness"

Hopefully from my profile you dig that I like to be very honest and direct. If that is refreshing and attractive to you then we will get along. Whatever happens I like to know where boundaries are and respect them. That's the fun part of getting to know people.

In terms of long-term commitment I'm emotionally available, but I plan to leave the UK next year. So I doubt I will find a long-term partner here.

Unless you are an intelligent, independent woman who loves being submissive, and has a creative calling. Then you can come with me. I have to be reasonable about these things.