I was faithful throughout my marriage; if you want to have an affair or cheat on your spouse, I am probably not the person you are looking for as a match. I value honesty too much. (Obviously, an open, poly relationship is different- it isn't cheating, as there is no lie involved.)
I'm very serious when I say I'm looking for friends first, and we will see what develops. I am looking for someone that wants to be a priority in my life and to make me one in his (not necessarily the first priority- with a child, I cannot promise that, and it would be hypocritical to ask for it). I love long random chats, watching old series on Netflix (or old episodes trying to catch up with a current series), cuddling, and having fun. Of various kinds...
I'm not terribly athletic, but I'm open to learning within reason. Rock climbing, sure; Ironman, probably not. I have yet to find someone that could convince me running is fun- it is what you do if someone is chasing you and you don't think you can handle them! Which isn't to say that YOUR version of teaching won't take the prize!
I'm a very left-brained person, smart in books, learning people as I go. I was a chemist for many years and still miss benchwork occasionally. I will always probably miss actually mixing chemicals to some degree, but I promise not to blow up your house!
I read. A lot. Anything from George R R Martin to Michelle Moran to Phillipa Gregory to Laurie Garrett.
8/24/13- I saw this today and loved it:
I am a handful!
I am strong willed, independent, a bit outspoken, and I tell it like it is.
I make mistakes, I'm sometimes outta control and at times hard to handle.
But, I love and give with all of my heart.
If you can't handle me at my worst, then you sure don't deserve me at my best!
It is pretty true- I can be a handful, but I love the people in my life deeply, even when it isn't probably a good idea anymore. This isn't just partners, but friends as well. I don't believe people are disposable- they come into our lives for a reason, each is special in their own way and should be treated as such. As you can imagine, my heart has a few scars from this, but I don't regret loving anyone I've cared about, despite the pain at the end. When I say I'm hard to handle or out of control, it is rarely if ever directed outward in deliberately hurtful behaviors. I don't become hateful or derogatory towards others, putting them down to prop myself up- I see such things as pointless and childish. I'm all for child-LIKE, but child-ISH is a waste of time better spent snuggling!
September, 2014 addition-
I'm exploring nonstandard versions of relationships, including some kink and the concept of polyamory. I don't pretend either is going to be everyone's cup of tea, but I have always said the heart can hold more than a single person at a time. (Or at least mine can.) So if my snuggling with an ex is going to be an issue, we may be best off friends. I don't know if I will decide to attempt multiple, long term romantic relationships, but I won't rule it out right now, either. That will obviously depend on not just my needs and desires but those of the others involved as well.