I was faithful throughout my marriage; if you want to have an affair or cheat on your spouse, I am probably not the person you are looking for as a match. I value honesty too much. (Obviously, an open, poly relationship is different- it isn't cheating, as there is no lie involved.)
I'm very serious when I say I'm looking for friends first, and we will see what develops. I am looking for someone that wants to be a priority in my life and to make me one in his (not necessarily the first priority- with a child, I cannot promise that, and it would be hypocritical to ask for it). I love long random chats, watching old series on Netflix (or old episodes trying to catch up with a current series), cuddling, and having fun. Of various kinds...
I'm not terribly athletic, but I'm open to learning within reason. Rock climbing, sure; Ironman, probably not. I have yet to find someone that could convince me running is fun- it is what you do if someone is chasing you and you don't think you can handle them! Which isn't to say that YOUR version of teaching won't take the prize!
I'm a very left-brained person, smart in books, learning people as I go. I was a chemist for many years and still miss benchwork occasionally. I will always probably miss actually mixing chemicals to some degree, but I promise not to blow up your house!
I read. A lot. Anything from George R R Martin to Michelle Moran to Phillipa Gregory to Laurie Garrett.
8/24/13- I saw this today and loved it:
I am a handful!
I am strong willed, independent, a bit
outspoken, and I tell it like it is.
I make mistakes, I'm sometimes outta control
and at times hard to handle.
But, I love and give with all of my heart.
If you can't handle me at my worst, then
You sure don't deserve me at my best!
It is pretty true- I can be a handful, but I love the people in my life deeply, even when it isn't probably a good idea anymore. This isn't just partners, but friends as well. I don't believe people are disposable- they come into our lives for a reason, each is special in their own way and should be treated as such. As you can imagine, my heart has a few scars from this, but I don't regret loving anyone I've cared about, despite the pain at the end. When I say I'm hard to handle or out of control, it is rarely if ever directed outward in deliberately hurtful behaviors towards others. Hurtful/hateful/ derogatory comments directed at myself is my emotional weapon of choice, as I can only truly know my own plans, desires, and future action, and will do what we can ro peovide the poisoning found on his church can be purity thr anabke and gwt tho nack on trach. I'm all for child-LIKE, but child-ISH is a waste of time better spent snuggling!
September, 2014 addition-
I'm exploring nonstandard versions of relationships, including some kink and the concept of polyamory. I don't pretend either is going to be everyone's cup of tea, but I have always said the heart can hold more than a single person at a time. (Or at least mine can.) So if my snuggling with an ex is going to be an issue, we may be best off friends. I don't know if I will decide to attempt multiple, long term romantic relationships, but I won't rule it out right now, either. That will obviously depend on not just my needs and desires but those of the others involved as well.