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  • Ages 55–72
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

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Last online
Today – 5:40pm
5′ 7″ (1.70m)
Body Type
Mostly anything
Atheism, and laughing about it
Entertainment / Media
Rather not say
Has cats
My self-summary
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"Virtute enim ipsa non tam multi praediti esse quam videri volunt." (Cicero)
Translated: "Few are those who wish to be endowed with virtue rather than to seem so." In Yiddish, it can be boiled down to a single word: Mensch --- a kind, decent and reliable person, sensitive to other people's needs and seeking out ways to help them. In Judaism, to call someone a mensch is one of the highest compliments that can be given. I am that man.

I'm the guy who has your back. The first to come to your aid, even before you ask, if you even ask at all. I don't ask, “Is there something I can do for you?” I'm the guy who says, “I'm going to do this for you.” I know in my heart you would do the same for me were the situation reversed. I give from, and of, my heart, secure in that knowledge.

Need proof? When a co-worker began to rebuild her life in order to escape an abusive relationship, she had no money for a deposit on an apartment; I provided it. She had no furniture, just a few clothes. I donated several rooms of furniture so she would have a bed to sleep on, rather than a blanket on the floor; dressers to put her clothes in, rather than live out of boxes; kitchenware, dining table and chairs; a living room set, including a lounge chair, so she could come home to what is a sanctuary, not a reminder of what she left behind.

Incidentally, my co-worker is a devout Christian and I am an atheist, and yes, I have integrity, scruples and morals and I live them. But please, do not proselytize. You will need to respect and honor what I believe, regardless what your belief system is, which I do honor and respect (and the proof of that is my winning first place in the 2015 Florida Press Association awards for a series of articles written in 2014 on a church in the community undergoing changes).

I also participate in a program called Care to Dance. We are a confederation of ballroom dancers who visit assisted living facilities whose residents are faced with memory and mental issues, as well as those with limited mobility. There are few things more beautiful than when a spark of recognition and joy comes to the faces of those who connect with the music, even though it is only fleeting.

So yeah, I'm tooting my own horn and I make no apologies for it. Granted, I'm not the most handsome of men on this site, only average. Nor do I boast a physique of a bodybuilder, but I'm not fat. I'm not wealthy, but I do live comfortably. I own my own home and I am free of most debt. Finally, I'm not a nice guy. Nice guys are doormats. What I am is a great, decent and honorable man. Now, am I someone you might want to meet?

If so, here goes: In me, you will find a man of character whose principles don't change with the prevailing whims of popularity. Whose visage reflects all that's been taken in over the years; filled with gratitude to those who have had a role in that process, including the hurts and healing. All have brought me to this place and time and I give thanks, because those people and events aided me growing to know, like and most important, love the person I am and have yet to become and to be.

Three Talmudic instructions guide me:
* Tikkun Olam: Repair and heal the world
* Tzedek, tzedek tirdorf: Righteousness, righteousness shall ye seek
* Tza'ar Ba'alei Chaim: Acknowledge and prevent the suffering of living creatures, people and animals, for deliberately causing others pain darkens our souls.

With that, I am rife with colorful yet positive contradictions. My nuances make the simple complex and vice versa. In short, a “Regular Joe” at that point in life where I know exactly who I am and what I want.
What I’m doing with my life
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I currently am a journalist, and no, it is not a career, it is a passion. One of the greatest rewards being a journalist is knowing I have made a positive difference in someone's life.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Bringing out the best in others, and being there in good times and bad; and when there is a crisis, knowing I am there, "having your back."
The first things people usually notice about me
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That despite the hardships and setbacks, I persevere, and I thrive.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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My favorite film is "Casablanca," and believe it or not, although I am a journalist, I have never been impressed with "Citizen Kane." Other films include "The Godfather I & II," Woody Allen movies, "Animal House," "Monty Python & the Holy Grail," "Rocky and Rocky Balboa," and any well made film that leaves me feeling uplifted (yet isn't preachy). I enjoy the theater, and was a former professional actor. As for books, I prefer non-fiction. I love to cook and experiment. In addition, my passion is ballroom dancing (though I am still a neophyte).
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
1) Compassion toward others.
2) The arts, for good art, be in fine or performing, lifts. As it is attributed to Picasso: "Art washes from the soul the dust of everyday life."
3) Being chivalrous and courteous. My parents raised me to be respectful toward women. (It also means my eyes don't roam.)
4) A smile.
5) Laughter.
6) Love.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
On a serious note, how to make things better for others. On the fun side, I love engaging in wordplay, especially puns, and my sense of humor ranges from the droll to the sardonic to slapstick.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
There is no typical Friday night, but most times I can be found on the dance floor.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
Pets and career limit taking off at the "drop of a hat," so if you love traveling to far away places on the spur of the moment, cast me not as an anchor weighing you down, for I'd rather be the wind that powers your sail. However, I do have my passport ready.
You should message me if
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You (are):
* Know, love, respect and take care of yourself
* Emotionally healthy with a balanced sense of self, strong and assertive, who extends that gift to others through generosity of spirit and a giving, loving heart
* Will neither relinquish your dreams nor demand I give up mine. Rather, encourage and support each others hopes, goals and aspirations, as well as our pursuits in achieving them
* Intuitively recognizes true chemistry is often imperceptible at first and not a snap judgment based upon initial infatuation; rather, a faint spark that needs patience and encouragement in order for the heart to grow all-encompassing
* Understands a relationship is not to make one "whole" or "fulfilled," but to add color and light, depth and dimension to one anothers lives.
* Accepts none of us are or can be 100% what the other wants/needs
* Celebrates that our differences neither compete, diminish nor detract, but instead compliment and complement
* Will safeguard a valued treasure: the unfurling of our hearts, for there is no force more destructive than deliberately betraying that which is most precious: the confiding of our hurts, our fears, our hopes, our dreams

How about you? Do you seek what I seek? Are you ready to, would you wish to, join me on this most exhilarating adventure?