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ngámeen

29 / M / Bisexual / Married

Redmond, Washington

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Ethnicity
White
Height
5' 9" (1.75m).
Body Type
Average
Looking For
New friends, Activity partners
Smokes
No
Drinks
Drugs
Never
Religion
Sign
Aquarius and it’s fun to think about
Education
Graduated from masters program
Job
Computer / Hardware / Software
Income
Kids
Likes children
Pets
Owns cats
Languages
English (Fluently), C++ (Fluently), German (Poorly)

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I am friendly, thinking, and thoughtful.

My Self-Summary

My username is a slightly mangled transliteration of "it is me" from Sumerian. No, I don't *yet* speak/read/write Sumerian. Working on it. Slowly. If your first reaction to the notion of speaking Sumerian was "What? No one alive knows how to speak Sumerian!" Then you and I might get along. If you accept my response of, "So?" then we have even better chances.

If you are waiting for the pun between "summary" and "Sumerian" then we will DEFINITELY get along, as long as you don't also eat babies or something. Baby carrots OK.

Note: It is OK if you were not waiting for the pun or if you know nothing about Sumerian.

So, yeah. Lessee... Label time? Vegetarian, but I usually don't preach about it, unless you ask me to. Freedom-leaning liberal, ditto. Software engineer by trade and somewhat by training. "Real" engineer by schooling. (To this point) amateur writer. Polyamorous. Bi-ish*. Social dancer. Questioning teetotaler. Podcaster. Married, in a polyfidelitous V (for linkin' purposes: polyfi and polyfidelity).

I am here for friends. Really. Not kidding on that one.

I have a funball pit.

*: "Bi-ish" means that I am not a 0 on Kinsey. More than that, hard to say at this point.

winkyank: If you wink at me, I will interpret it as "please make up a pun about my profile." UPDATE: I've turned winks off. I am trying to limit the amount of time I spend on here, and I don't get notified about winks, which means I have to log in all the time to see if anyone has winked. The offer is still open, just send me an email that says "wink" or something :)

What I’m doing with my life

Lots of things.

One of the things that I'm doing is running a podcast called "Polytics." Its about a fictional community of about thirty people in the pacific northwest who live on 40 acres of land outside of the city. It is basically a sex-positive poly pagan hippie soap opera. In addition to running things, I also play the character Bernie, who has a fun profile on OKC: bernie_kanawi. Feel free to talk to him, but please indicate [perhaps, e.g., in "out-of-character" brackets] that you are aware that he is fictional, because my first response will otherwise be to break character and ensure you know that he is.

I have a software engineering job, doing my best to avoid being a stereotype about it, mostly.

I am interested in intentional community as a long term goal, and we've got a start of it with a house that can fit more than just my wife and I and our hypothetical kids.

The first things people usually notice about me

For awhile, it was probably my crazy beard. Now that it's gone... maybe my aloha shirt (known to mainlanders as a Hawaiian shirt)... I don't wear them all the time, but I definitely wear them more often than the typical Seattlite.

My favorite books, movies, music, and food

I used to love making lists for questions like these, but I don't anymore.

I like all kinds of music. Seriously. Not in that "everything but rap" or "everything but country" or whatever. John Cage is the bomb even though he secretly wanted to be a botanist. Toby Keith and Eminem are total asshats but play some catchy tunes. I like things that I can dance to or that I can play in the background while I write (words or code).

I usually have at least one book that I am reading at any given time, but I realized recently that I don't read quite enough to have books that I loved two years ago but am embarrassed of now, unlike some people that I know. As of this writing, I am reading "Name of the Rose" after being recommended it because I liked "Anathem." I read mostly genre fiction. UPDATE: I've read a number of books since I wrote that; currently I'm enjoying "MultiReal."

I am a pretty picky eater. Don't take it personally. Sounds like a funny thing to say, doesn't it? Why would someone take it personally that I was a picky eater? And yet... people do. I love to cook, probably partially because of that. I like many spices, but I'm not a huge fan of spicy. Can't abide dill, though. Except for pickles. Mmm, pickles. Cheese-wise, I like me a good cheddar, unless it's melted. I'll eat eggs if they are in something else, but omelets are a no-go. I can go on like this for hours, but I won't.

More importantly, you could ask, what are your favorite...

Games: Dominion (the card game from Rio Grande Games). I <3 the paraphernalia from Seaside even though it is kitschy and not totally needed. I sort of want to make my own paraphernalia-linked cards, now, to add to my favorite personal mod: "Illusionist" (Costs 5, acts like any of the 4-or-less action cards available, but only for their actions (i.e. no reactions or durations or treasure or land). Agricola is fun, too. Blank white cards is awesomeness, although I have yet to play a debauchery-focused version, which I am assured is even better; I have my doubts, but we shall see. I helped write and write about PerlNomic, although I like python more than perl and blank white cards more than nomic. I have recently discovered Race for the Galaxy, which is lots of fun but still hasn't bumped Dominion for the number one spot.

Dances: I have recently discovered blues dancing. OMG awesomeness. I have a background in waltz and such, and although I've been exposed to salsa, swing, tango, etc., nothing has felt quite the same as blues dancing. Tuesday nights at Waids is a blast. I've been meaning to make it to the Abby at some point, but I record on Wednesdays, so I haven't made it yet; soon, hopefully!

On a typical Friday night I am

Up to something.

On a typical Sunday afternoon, I hope to be, in the future, hosting a game day / open house. I like having people around, and getting lots of folks together for games and chillage is relaxing and fun for me. So, yeah. If you like board games or just hanging out, drop me a line, we can meet 1:1 for coffee/juice/whatever to mutually make sure we are not crazy, and then come on by!

You should message me if

You've got interesting things going on or would like to. (Does that sound like a pickup line? It isn't meant to.)

You have questions about anything I wrote here.

As I noted in my hijacked Friday night box, I will want to meet up with you to chat before I bring you to any group stuff. To be clear: this is not a date. I really am looking for friends. I'm not saying that I'm looking for friends and then using that as cover to get into your pants. It's OK if you *want* to get into my pants, but please don't use this as an excuse to try to do so; I won't either, so it all works out :)