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I’m looking for

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  • Ages 22-35
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

My details

Last online
Online now!
Open relationship
Relationship Type
Strictly non-monogamous
6' 1" (1.85m)
Body Type
Atheism and laughing about it
Doesn’t have kids
English (Fluently)
My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
I spend most of my days considering electrons and the people that need them to move. In the evenings I write and do interactive art. I host an experimental dinner series called Appetite Obscure. We're about to print our first book.

I think being earnest is cooler than being cool.

I have a soft heart.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
I have a lot of projects going on. These days I
ensure wireless things can hold conversation with each other;
create an illustrated cookbook of symbol-laden meals;
explore storm drains, beachfronts, and abandoned areas;
am the squarest guy at the party;
pop, strut, boogaloo, mime, and contact dance;
close one eye and spread my fingers against the sky, remembering that the boundary between self and other is artificial;
play the same song over and over;
stare at monolithic industrial structures; and
express emotional information with lists of mundane things.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Mirroring movement. Vicarious enjoyment. Eating the whole burrito.

Every few months I dive into a new pursuit really hard. I really like the steep part of a learning curve. Current obsession is financial automation and designing playground games based on the culture of art openings.

I will notice and appreciate how your hands move and your mouth quirks.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
Someone once described my voice as a cross between Carl Sagan and They Might Be Giants.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
My writing role models are Borges, Kafka, Italo Calvino, and Ian MacEwan. I love short stories, especially Chekhov and George Saunders. My favorite play is Cyrano de Bergerac, and my favorite children's story is The Nightengale And The Rose by Oscar Wilde because it is omg so sad. I also like Neal Stephenson and pulpier sci-fi a la Alfred Bester.

Graphic novels: Blankets, Habibi, Bone, Zot!, and all things Chris Ware.

Movies: Her, Stranger Than Fiction, Pan's Labyrinth, and 80's rom-coms where the guy eventually falls for his punky girl best friend. I really liked The Fall.

Music: Historically I've preferred indie longhair sad bands that tell elaborate stories (Okkerville River, Arcade Fire, Mountain Goats). Lately though I just want turn up the bass and dance.

Visually I dig on clean lines, high contrast monochrome, and calligraphy, especially Arabic and Chinese calligraphy.

If it's food I'll eat it, the weirder the better.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
1. Strangers
2. Space and time to be alone
3. A guitar
4. A few good friends
5. Dance moves
6. The books
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
The transit of light, lichen patterns, artifice.

The intersection of systemic and poetic.

Is freedom from consequence the only difference between fiction and fact?
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Designing experiences for other people.

Or out somewhere weird, usually with a hypercognitive cadre of collaborators, constructing unuseful false histories.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I'm susceptible to peer pressure. I use this to my advantage through careful peer curation.
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.
If you make things, or comment on things that are made with such intention and care that your commentary is as much a thing as the thing commented on, or are an every-rock turner-over in the hopeless comedy that is humanity's effervescent collective yawp into the cosmos, then can you please tell me what these clauses mean because I think this compound sentence just went off the rails please send help.

If any of the above describes you we're likely to get along famously, platonically or otherwise.

If mutual platonic pique percolates into full-blown flirtation though, pro-poly disposition is a prerequisite.

Practicalities for said pro-poly people:
I do boundaries, not rules.
I negotiate each relationship independently.
For me, emotional connection is a prerequisite for physical connection.
I live with my fiancee, sjandra_kei. I love her mega hard.

If, having read all this, you harbor some potential ardor, please holler.