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46 Burlingame, CA Man


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  • Ages 30–50
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My Details

Last Online
Feb 25
5′ 11″ (1.80m)
Body Type
Strictly anything
Graduated from Ph.D program
Doesn’t have kids
Likes dogs

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My self-summary
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Gourmet lemonade maker
Ex cook for hire (still cook for self-nourishment)
Recovering academic
Current cycleholic
Avid people watcher (in a completely non-voyeuristic way)
Professional car*, hipster and bullet dodger (daily bike commute to city, not actual profession)
Skilled dog walker (also not profession)
Not skilled at using punctuation marks for facial expressions

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*Pulled a TJ hooker over a trunk a while ago when a black BMR turned left in front of me the other day. Though my quick reactions saved me from serious harm, I may need some more professional development in the car dodging area.
What I’m doing with my life
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Apparently trying to complete the never-ending OK Cupid exam. It might go a bit more quickly if I did not feel compelled to explain every answer, or have to go back 24 hours later when I realize I clicked the wrong radio button.

But on a more serious note, after a somewhat late start, I'm settling into my career as a public policy analyst (closest description that some might understand), working with a great group of people. We do analysis, evaluation, and provide technical assistance for public agencies that provide services for people developmental disabilities, at risk youth, child welfare, and health care access and services. While I sometimes have to pinch myself at times to stay awake while trying to tell a story when staring at the sets of numbers I've produced (think The Matrix, but with much less adventure), I feel lucky to have a healthy and rewarding job, and have to pinch myself at times to make sure it is real (which pill did I swallow, the red or blue one?).

On a more whimsical/childlike note, after moving back to California (my strange academic journey took me away to Texas then Kansas), I've reconnected with my competitive side and started racing bikes again after a 12-year hiatus. I say whimsical/childlike, because come on, I really am too old to be playing around on bikes (I have several), right? This, though, is something I'm trying to figure out how to manage, as I can't seem to resist wearing myself out in pursuit of weekend warrior glory and a t-shirt on days that start with S during months February through September. Please help.*

And on another note, I am working on rounding out my life a bit more (beyond work, bike racing and dog walking). More music. More food outings. More people watching. More outdoors. More traveling (other than road tripping to races). Please help.

*Racing is something I do a lot because I have both the time to do it and some damn good sponsorship. I also have a close knit group of friends around the sport, and it has a personal history for me (something about getting me off the wrong path and setting me on the right path, blah, blah, blah). Please don't read this and think that I'm some super-competitive, OCD kinda guy; I'm only slightly OCD. I'm kinetic, but I also like to lounge. I'm more concerned with post-race beers than standing on the podium post-race. I like being fit, but I don't count calories, miles, or heartbeats. And I'm certainly open to doing things on the weekend that don't include getting sweaty with a bunch of spandex-clad guys.
I’m really good at
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The first things people usually notice about me
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I don't want to know; I'll get self-conscious
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Favorite food: What ever my stomach desires; he's the boss. Spicy is good. Ethnic is great. And who can resist an occasional deep fried delicacy, though that can sometimes bring on Texas reflux.

Shows: Daily Show, Colbert Report, Top Chef, Mad Men, Breaking Bad, and my DVR just reminded me that I like South Park, too.

Books: As a recovering academic, I am in the process of relearning how to read for enjoyment. My new Kindle is helping. Currently on the e-reader: David Sedaris, Naked.

Music (trying to keep it brief): Massive Attack, Neil Young, Twilight Singers (who played a Massive Attack cover and a Neil Young cover when I saw them. Awesome show), Me'Shell Ndegeocello (though not sure about where she is going lately), Bowie, and much much more. Putting my taste into genres: anything that the above fit into, neo-soul and old soul, electronic and accoustic, straight-up rock, indie rock or punk rock, latin jazz, acid jazz and straight-up jazz, and whatever might fit the mood I'm in or trying to achieve or maintain.

And I can't help to give props to the bands from my past, such as The Cult, Siouxsie and the Banshees (they nearly cost me a high school diploma, but I had front row seats so of course I was going to blow off finals), Bauhaus and the Cure. (Just in case you are wondering, yes I did have black hair in high school.)

Some recent/upcoming shows (which looks largely like a flashback tour): Mazzy Star (good show, though over-chatty crowd); Matthew Sweet (good show), The Cult (sadly, Ian Astbury is washed up), Jesus and the Mary Chain (good), Peter Murphy, The Hives (surprisingly good), Jane's Addiction (who I first saw as a no-name opening band for Peter Murphy ions ago,; Afghan Whigs (two nights in a row, cuz they rocked), The Faint, The Specials, Nick Cave and the Bad Seeds, Johnny Marr (awesome, especially when Billy Duffy came out to close out the set), Black Rebel Motor Cycle Club, Killing Joke, Savages, Greg Dulli + Steve Kilbey. Upcoming: Dum Dum Girls. Afghan Whigs (yes, again). Care to join or suggest an upcoming show?

Movies: Yes, I like them. Some of them I like a lot.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
A good laugh
My health
Getting outdoors
A happy dog*

*Just lost this constant source of joy, but I'm keeping a placeholder in this top-six list for when the next rescue comes.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Jack Handy
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
finding a clean race kit for a Saturday adventure, although I've got that down to a speedy science, and would never let that get in the way of a little Friday night fun.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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You should message me if
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You have:
A healthy sense of humor
A good balance of confidence and humility
No allergies to dogs
An understanding that the left lane is for passing