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35 Oakland, CA Woman


I’m looking for

  • Everyone
  • Ages 23–38
  • Near me
  • For new friends, short-term dating, casual sex

My Details

Last Online
Feb 5
Asian, Hispanic / Latin
5′ 8″ (1.73m)
Body Type
A little extra
Other, and laughing about it
Gemini, and it’s fun to think about
Graduated from masters program
Art / Music / Writing
Seeing Someone
Strictly non-monogamous
Has a kid
Has dogs
English, Spanish (Okay)

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What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
caring for myself, making magic, playing, reading, writing, teaching, parenting, loving, indulging, enjoying, balancing, laughing, crying, surviving, healing.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
that my ethnicity and gender are ambiguous. that i'm pretty. :)
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
been a speculative fiction nerd since i was 10 years old. the two performers i have seen multiple times in concert are erykah badu and jose james. i like to cook and eat tasty food and believe that food is medicine.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
1. friends that are family that are friends
2. sex
3. love
4. transformative conversation that verges on ecstatic intercourse
5. creating
6. magic
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
struggle n praxis n transformation
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
doing whatever the hell i want.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
i am a trans man that may never transition.
You should message me if
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you think the gender choices on this site are totally inadequate to express the writhing gender chimera that you are and the kind of engendered beings you like to rub your tentacles on.

you are a person of color.

you consistently act to end white supremacy and all other forms of domination and wanna fuck things up together.

you can appreciate that love is infinite and can only grow the more people you love.

you regularly experience compersion (the act of feeling joy and happiness when the people you love experience joy and happiness for themselves and with others) and know what to do with your jealousy.

you love your body.

you think that people who bother to actually write things like "must be height weight proportionate" are dumb assholes.