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nik9t

52 Carmel Valley, CA Man

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I’m looking for

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  • Ages 33–99
  • Located anywhere
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating, casual sex

My Details

Last Online
Dec 9
Orientation
Straight
Ethnicity
Other
Height
5′ 11″ (1.80m)
Body Type
Average
Diet
Mostly other
Smokes
No
Drinks
Socially
Drugs
Sometimes
Religion
Other
Sign
Scorpio
Education
Graduated from university
Job
Art / Music / Writing
Income
More than $1,000,000
Relationship Status
Single
Relationship Type
Offspring
Doesn’t have kids, but might want them
Pets
Has dogs and has cats
Speaks
English (Fluently), Spanish (Fluently), French (Poorly), German (Poorly), Swedish (Poorly)

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My self-summary
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Ok, so I have been exploring being single for a couple of years now and it's gone pretty well. I fell in love twice in the last year (see how easy that is) and got thrashed on the rocks - and now I am looking more to myself first. But... I love women, as much as I love the earth, and I love the feminine. I love curves. And, yes, certainly I love companionship, sharing, intimacy, the tender and erotic thrill of sex and the sensuous, the loving, the connection, excitement, magic, all of the above, in which ever order they may come.

When I dig deep in the still moments, what I see in my future consort, is a liberated, self possessed, competent, adventurous of spirit, fully embodied, sex positive woman who knows who she is and takes shit from no one - a person who loves them self first - and knows how to love a dedicated partner - someone with whom to go out and conquer the world brilliantly - a partner in love, spirit, play and the business of evolution.

Or else any trickster nymph who can steel my heart (really not that hard to do as I said - but you need the magic key)

I'm a natural born lover (committed and faithful when caught, an ethical slut when on the loose.)

I have a shadow. Can be as distant as present - and therein lies the dance of relationship. The quivering strings, together or apart.

I will migrate for love.

Cutting loose in December after 16 years in Big Sur / Monterey and hitting the road, looking for the next place that sparkles. Thinking of a move to Santa Monica or Montevideo, but spirit and the wind and you will dictate.

Next: It goes without saying that text on a page - labels, belief definitions and okc yes/no questions are not going to define me, or anyone, but you can think of me as a nonconformist, evolutionary, pansexual, pantheist if you like.

I have also found photos to be invariably misleading (so it seems a good idea to make them as representative of the whole physically manifest being we are, as that's all we have to go on till we breach the chasm this platform facilitates. (arty, fuzzy-flattering, pretty landscape and doggy / group shots are all very nice but are not realistic or helpful - just sayin.) And one other thing - if you squeeze your toothpaste tube in the middle - don't even talk to me - ya hear?

I've been exploring okc since mid-june 2013, and this is version 0.687b of me.

NB: this 4.5 min vid is rather good and poignant regarding social networks, authenticity, loneliness and connection - take a peak!

And hey - if you are in the area and practice Orgasmic Meditation (OM) - say hey!

Meanwhile...
What I’m doing with my life
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...designing gardens and websites; doing bodywork; studying herbalism, taking random classes; breathing deep; cultivating beauty wherever possible; growing medicinal and culinary plants; floating on sublime drifts of Wagnerian brass and strings and mixing them into funkyass dance tunes.

Writing an irreverent and lyrical novel (involving a wily alchemist of the steppes, a student of sacred architecture in London (my home town) a lonely gene splicing biologist in Peru, sex probably, perspective enhancing plants possibly. They all meet. Evolutionary things happen)
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
retreating
coming forward
seeing through façades
seeing into the distance
growing things
touching humans
fiddling with words
getting sucked into vortices...
bringing serendipitous things back out
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
good listener, intuitive, reserved, responsive, fucked-up, sensuous, sensual, good hands, need a hair cut, probably a wanker. I don't know, you'll have to ask them or tell me.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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I love Arvo Pärt, Beethoven and Bach, old school blues with gospel roots; funky soul and tech-house, subliminal and articulate electronica; a little psy trance, twisted wompy dubstep, and just about everything in between so long as it's truly inspired. DJ / producer / hero of the moment is (still) Nicolas Jarr.

I love the alchemy of great film, mostly not made in Hollywood. You really want a list? I doubt it, I'd rather watch them with you, but, like Yes (dir Sally Potter) - a rare and exquisite masterpiece; The Fountain - visionary, profound, beautiful; Renegade - wild, quirky, mystical, mad; Melancholia - simply sublime; etc... so much good film, so much formulaic garbage - no time for that, or similarly, commercial music, or lame literature.

I love adventurous and exotic cuisine, but tend to eat wholesome, simple food, almost none of that industrially processed shite america seems to love so well. Experiment a lot in the kitchen, have a garden full of edible things.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
music & dreaming, mountains & rivers
wind
stars & sex, love & tea
woman, moon
me
great expanses of light
this magical earth
rules to break
cardamon
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
thoughts, women, feelings, clouds, sex, breakfast, lists, solutions, not thinking.

Here's a recent poem wot i rote (needs brutal editing) that intimates deeper musings:

Our one world will be saved by beauty
when we remember how to see
with the eyes of a child
into the golden heart of every living thing.

We will feel deeply
the earthly memories
etched into the mountains of home
the forgetfulness in the oceans heave, the forgiving

even the resilient oak,
resisting great winds and time, falls
to the wisdom of ages...

and thus we stand
with the aching of our souls
to behold the wondrous stellar nights

and before us now
and at every moment dancing

beneath the obscure shroud of
indignant hype, and mercurial spin

the simple saving grace

of a bird or a bloom or the heart
behind the eyes of an adversary, who
will be none other than our own shadow
dancing in anguish, waiting to be seen...
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
performing alchemy in the kitchen (you should be afraid)
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
Really? I love burying my nose in ruffled pink roses and having a mouthful of wet pussy (not necessarily at the same time)
There are other things too.
You should message me if
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you're still reading / open minded / not afraid to be honest / curious about life / openhearted / bored / mutually abstracted / feel the spirit / looking for someone to play with - for an hour, or a life, or a song...

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