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32 F Bryant Pond, ME

My Details

Last Online
Yesterday – 3:44pm
White, Other
5′ 6″ (1.68m)
Body Type
Strictly anything
Not at all
Atheism, and laughing about it
Gemini, but it doesn’t matter
Dropped out of university
Art / Music / Writing
Less than $20,000
Relationship Status
Relationship Type
Mostly monogamous
Doesn’t have kids, and doesn’t want any
Has dogs and likes cats
English (Fluently), Irish (Okay), Latin (Okay), French (Poorly), Spanish (Poorly)

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My self-summary
I'm an artist/jewelry designer who has an obsession with tentacled creatures. Ia! Ia! Cthulhu Fthagn! I'm a huge geek if that wasn't already obvious by quoting Lovecraft. I'm very independent (or stubborn, take your pick) and for me relationships enhance my life but do not define it.

I'm looking for a man who secure in himself and is content single or partnered. Someone who is equally happy debating whether Hawkeye or Black Widow should get their own movie as they are having a serious discussion of the latest exoplanet discoveries. Who isn't afraid to try new things. I'm not the traditional type, so while I'd like a committed relationship settling down into a conventional marriage just isn't what I want out of life. I find kids to be too overwhelming for me to be around and I never want to have any. If you're a parent I have loads of respect for taking on that huge responsibility but we're not going to be a match.

BDSM is a pretty important aspect of my life. I don't put this here to get anyone's hopes up that I'm just looking for kinky sex (BDSM isn't about sex for me), just as a warning to people who are squicked out by it. I play pretty hard and not everyone is up to it.

About the "mostly monogamous" thing. I'm open to dating someone polyamorous but it's not something I actively seek out or need. I'm also perfectly content being monogamous. However, I do expect to keep playing with other people in a BDSM context, especially if my partner is vanilla, but the extent is negotiable.
What I’m doing with my life
Mostly I'm running my own business, it's a lot of work and I'm not making a lot of money doing it (just enough to get by) but it's the most satisfying thing I've ever done. I make weird and geeky jewelry and sculpture. I also do a bit of illustration and graphic design work. My job is extremely satisfying and gives me the excuse to write off attending comic cons and other geeky events as business expenses. I've got a pretty flexible schedule but I still work a lot of hours.

Other than that I'm usually hanging out with friends or my dog (she's my big floppy eared sidekick). I enjoy cooking a lot and I think I'm pretty good at it. I've also recently started writing fiction again, I'm not as good at that but it's great stress relief.
I’m really good at
Cooking, sculpting, art, writing, random trivia, quoting geeky tv and movies, playing tabletop RPGs (and the occasional LARP).
The first things people usually notice about me
Physically I think people notice my hair first, it's this thick mass of bouncy wavy curls. Currently those curls are bright pink which is pretty hard to miss. Conformity is not my area. Good thing for me my job lets me indulge that.

As far as my personality goes I think they notice that I'm very outspoken about issues I care about even though I'm not always the most social person. I'm an introvert but I'm not shy.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
I love food in general, especially cooking it. It's a lot of fun to experiment with ingredients and new styles of food. I'm pretty omnivorous but I try to eat healthy whenever I can.

My taste in books, movies, and music are pretty varied. I could have Louis Armstrong and Beethoven back to back with the Sex Pistols and Flogging Molly on my ipod. I'll listen to just about anything except Justin Bieber.

I love movies, I couldn't list all my favorites but a sampling are Pan's Labyrinth, The Dark Crystal, Hellraiser, Rocky Horror Picture Show, Alien, A Clockwork Orange, and The Life of Brian. Sherlock, Doctor Who, Torchwood, Monty Python, Blackadder, Firefly, Buffy, Star Trek (in it's many incarnations), Warehouse 13, Arrow, Mythbusters, and Hannibal are some of my favorite TV shows (yes, it leans heavily towards British television, the BBC just has great shows)..

I'll read just about everything except romance novels (nothing wrong with them, I just don't find them that entertaining, probably because I'm not terribly romantic) but Science Fiction is my favorite genre. Some of my favorite authors are Isaac Asimov, Douglas Adams, Sir Arthur Conan Doyle, Neil Gaiman, Carl Sagan, JRR Tolkien, Dashiell Hammett, Jim Butcher, and Mercedes Lackey. Of course no one with a cephalopod obsession can truly say they love all things tentacled without being an H.P. Lovecraft fan.
The six things I could never do without
Creativity, books, chocolate, music, tentacles, air. Especially air.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Cephalopods, squid, octopus, and cuttlefish are just fascinating animals. Also the benefit of open communication, how fucked up gender norms are, and why our society has such a dysfunctional approach to sexuality.

And of course world domination, though my evil laugh still needs improvement. I'm working with a vocal coach.
On a typical Friday night I am
Usually home decompressing from the week. Saturday I'm well rested and ready to have fun.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I'm self-conscious about the fact I can't drive. I have a vision problem that prevents me from getting my drivers license. For some reason the State of Maine objects to giving drivers licenses to people who can't read road signs until they're 15-20 feet away. I can't imagine why?
I’m looking for
  • Guys who like girls
  • Ages 25–39
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating
You should message me if
1) You enjoy geeky conversations and RiffTrax Live sounds like a great date.
2) You are sex positive, kink friendly, and pro-LGBT.
5... no... 3) BDSM and my Fetlife profile don't weird you out.

If I haven't scared you off yet drop me a message.