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40 Oakland, CA Man


I’m looking for

  • Women
  • Ages 25–42
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For short-term dating

My Details

Last Online
Yesterday – 7:33pm
Black, Native American, Hispanic / Latin, White
6′ 1″ (1.85m)
Body Type
Mostly anything
When drinking
Other, but not too serious about it
Pisces, and it’s fun to think about
Graduated from university
Science / Engineering
Relationship Status
Relationship Type
Strictly monogamous
Doesn’t have kids, but wants them
Likes dogs and likes cats
English (Fluently), Spanish (Fluently)

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My self-summary
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I am originally from Connecticut and I am part of the tech bubble. I recently learned the term 'brogrammer'. I am not one of those. I think we all know what it means.

I play guitar and sing. It is a particular challenge to read people and pick covers that get them rocking out like they're alone in the bathroom.

I am back after a hiatus in Austin. It did confirm that the Bay Area is a better fit for me, though I have become a card-carrying libertarian (yes, we have a two-party duopoly; yes, I think gay married couples should be able to defend their weed and adopted kids with guns if they so choose, though I don't own/want/need firearms). Just sayin' I am secure enough for everybody to have their freedom.

I am Old School, like if Sinatra were raised by a First Generation Feminist. So, love yourself, and I will, but ladies - we're different.

I don't wear beanies and ride a bike or have a beard; I am not one of those guys who has no backbone or identity or who is in the 'politically correct' line in life (or the other vitality-lacking male option: the Sensitive New Age Guy or SNAG). If you liken a stand-up guy to a sexist, alas, I am not your cowboy.

That was some of my dry humor. Come on - you know that soft dude crap gets old. Well, it gets old for us guys, too.

I have my own style, but I am not stylish. I don't automatically love everything you do. I want to pay for stuff and make money and let the woman I am with *know* she is special.

Note: all men want to do this. Some just actually do it. I don't judge you if you are exhausted at swapping gender hats and might want to be a stay-at-home wife/mom. Duh.

I am just an Old Fashioned *guy*. If it seems weird that I have to explain that, imagine my dating experiences. If we go out, I will share some stories.

Old School strong. So, I don't lie. I don't cheat. I don't exploit. I am here to protect the least of us, because that is me. And you, too.

I know myself. Good times or bad, I will always *be* myself. I don't give in to social pressure for convenience. I believe strength makes for peace.

I like taking care of people.

I believe in cherishing a woman, and being honored (not necessarily obeyed - that's a little dated and sexist).

I am pretty intense, very intelligent. Artistic. Not the most well-read guy on earth, but I can hold my own; very articulate but not nervously talkative. I am a ringer at trivia.

I am down to have drinks with anybody who likes what I wrote here. I didn't tailor or edit it. There's an truth in that, no?

My failings: I come off as cocky to some. I'm not. I just see a lot, and I'm honest with myself. You have to know yourself and be sort of badass to get me.At the end of the day, I love everybody (yes, everybody - even that douchebag at the bar), and I am here to remind people of their own greatness, somehow

Surprises: I draw. I can cook, and I am actually a sensitive and empathetic person.

These are strange times, where everyone is apologizing for themselves, and clipping their own wings. Calling a spade a spade is 'judging', and people are hiding, in quiet desperation.
What I’m doing with my life
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Getting better and better at being me.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Being a confidante. Getting people to open up. Being funny.
The first things people usually notice about me
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I look like Drake. Or the president.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Music: Anything from Big Sonic Chill on FM 94.9 in San Diego, on Sunday nights at 10 pm. Otherwise, soulful electronic music. Dance music with a 4:4 time signature. 90's Brit Shit (Radiohead, etc.). Classic rock. Classical.

Movies: sort of mainstream, with some auteur stuff thrown (Kurosawa, Kubrick).

TV: I stopped watching TV in 8th or 9th grade. But I do slum and watch The Walking Dead.

Books: Nonfiction. Popular science stuff (Selfish Gene, Guns, Germs and Steel, etc.)

Food: Thai, Korean BBQ, a good old-fashioned hamburger.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Love, strength, honor, beauty, faith, connection.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
What the fu** people are thinking when they do some of the stuff they do. No really, like what I see as blue might not be to you. Clearly, many people don't have the same 'baseline' or definition of normal or healthy as I do. I wonder what their experience of life is.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Dumb question. Who really does the same thing every Friday night?
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I once drove a car naked.
You should message me if
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You're a down-ass person. You can just go out and see if there's a connection.