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35 Somerville, MA Man


I’m looking for

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  • Ages 26–42
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For long-term dating, short-term dating

My Details

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Today – 7:00am
5′ 10″ (1.78m)
Body Type
Graduated from university
Relationship Status
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Doesn’t have kids
Likes dogs and likes cats

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My self-summary
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I'm an introspective man who puts an awful lot of stock into kindness, sincerity, independence, charity, and creative expression.
What I’m doing with my life
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I spend much of my life coaxing sounds out of the collection of wood, wires, and electronics known as the electric guitar, whether woodshedding on my own at home or playing out with local acts. Coaxing a living wage out of it is a different matter, and for that, I work as a researcher in the development office of a local university. This marks a recent career shift for me -- I'm a former legal researcher -- and I'm absolutely thrilled to be back in academia. I'm preparing to take advantage of the heavily discounted education available to me through my employer and embark on a master's program, most likely in social work.

I'm a semi-regular at a prison book program in Quincy, I uncle to the best of my ability -- I have two tremendously awesome nephews -- and I also nurture a latent-but-growing wanderlust, making my way outside of the city whenever I can. I'm also becoming acquainted with getting around the city and its immediate environs on two wheels, as I'm biking to my new job. I think I'm finally an official Cambervillian (or is it Somerbridgian?).
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
- Picking out thoughtful gifts
- Reading people's sense of humor and working with it to find smiles
- Unearthing quiet moments every day
- Coming up with magnetic hooks and evocative textures on guitar
- Detecting and avoiding bullshit
- Barbecuing pork shoulder and making homemade BBQ sauces, ketchups, and mustards
- Noticing insane behavior in public settings
- Nicely-timed deadpan and measured doses of understatement
- Inventing tee shirts
- Making up band names, particularly ones that would work well for nutty punk rock groups
The first things people usually notice about me
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Personality-wise, it's probably that I'm fairly soft-spoken. In terms of looks, probably my eyes. I've been told that they are "kind" and "beautiful" ... words of such potency will stick with you.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Behold! A veritable cornucopia of delights:

Moby-Dick, Snow Crash, A Death in the Family, The Things They Carried, Redemption Song: The Ballad of Joe Strummer, The Magus, No Country for Old Men, Cathedral, Homicide: A Year on the Killing Streets, Dave Wallace, Haruki Murakami, James Lee Burke. It also probably bears mention here that I really, really enjoy reading Gawker and Harper's Magazine.

Gritty 70s thrillers (The French Connection, The Taking of Pelham 1-2-3, Taxi Driver, Dirty Harry) and deceptively poignant supernatural flicks from that decade, too (The Haunting of Julia, Don't Look Now), irreverent comedies that aren't cutesy/self-satisfied over their own irreverence (Dirty Work, Cheech and Chong's Next Movie, Fletch, This Is Spinal Tap), documentaries that pique my interest with odd subjects and end up delivering surprising big picture observations on life and/or the world (The King of Kong, Cave of Forgotten Dreams). Most Coen Brothers, Kubrick, Aronofsky, Cronenberg, and Hitchcock. Pretty much anything Paul Newman was ever in.

Indie pop with sublimely beautiful choruses (Guided By Voices, the New Pornographers), meat-and-potatoes hard rock (Zeppelin, AC/DC, Band of Skulls), soulful, sexy guitar players (John Frusciante, Jimi Hendrix) and angular, outside-of-the-box six string alchemists (Andy Gill, Tom Morello), druggy garage (Crystal Stilts, the New Highway Hymnal, the Black Angels), darkly lustful rock and dream pop (the Kills, PJ Harvey, Warpaint), heart-wrenching, gut punch country (Cowboy Junkies, Townes Van Zandt), jazz both meditative (Miles Davis) and sprightly (Django Reinhardt), hip hop with deft grace and deep grooves (Jurassic 5, Nas). Local college radio is a godsend: I am absolutely in love with WMBR and am also quite fond of WERS and WMFO.

One of my favorite things in life is the smile that comes to the lips of someone watching the delight slowly dawn on someone else trying a bite of something unexpectedly delicious for the first time. It is a little like the sharing of a wonderful secret.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
- New sounds, lyrics, riffs, and grooves
- Memories that connect to smells
- The bigness of joys that come unbidden
- Most of the major themes covered here, even if I'm annoyed that the author tacitly grants snark a free pass when it's just as hollow a manner of engaging the world as smarm:
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
... making a compelling slow-motion entrance at the local pub/club/whatever with the effortless cool and classic, five o'clock-shadow masculinity of the sorts of young dudes featured on billboard ads for Bushmills Whiskey. (More likely, though, I'm either checking out live music, catching up with friends over some dinner, playing a show, or lying comatose on my couch with a book or streaming Netflix.)
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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... is that i don't like NPR. I say this at the risk of putting off at least half the women with whom OKC matches me up, so I'll qualify it at length: I am liberal -- I read Talking Points Memo, Matt Taibbi, or Charles Pierce when I'm feeling a political itch and generally keep up with news via the Globe and the New York Times, I tend to enjoy watching PBS shows and specials online or on Netflix, particularly Frontline and Moyers & Company (Bill Moyers strikes me as wonderfully humane and a model of responsible, fair journalism), I think John Oliver's satire pretty flawlessly balances humor, education, and outrage, and I find myself strangely and unexpectedly simpatico with Russell Brand as of late -- and I occasionally read offbeat human interest stories that come down the pipe this way or that. My beef with NPR is pretty strictly on tonal grounds; I feel like there's a droning, soporific lethargy to talk radio in general, and to the deliberate, dainty, wine-and-cheese party tones on NPR in particular. Many of my best friends love NPR, and I don't think any less of them for it -- i just know that it's not for me.
You should message me if
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You aren't so jaded by your adventures in online dating that you don't still get a little excited by the prospect of really clicking with someone by way of it.

I also want to borrow and paraphrase something I read on another profile that feels worth saying: I think it takes a certain brave vulnerability to send a (thoughtful!) message to a stranger on a dating website. If you message me and don't hear back, please don't envision this stranger, like, haughtily turning up his nose at you. For whatever it's worth, I'm flattered, and for whatever it's worth, I've sent plenty of my own unanswered messages, too!