36 Somerville, MA
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My self-summary
I'm an introspective man who puts an awful lot of stock into kindness, sincerity, independence, charity, and creative expression.
What I’m doing with my life
I spend much of my life coaxing sounds out of the collection of wood, wires, and electronics known as the electric guitar, whether playing out with local acts or working on my craft at home. Coaxing a living wage out of it is a different matter, though, and for that, I work as a researcher in the development office of a local university. I have been at this for a little over a year -- I'm a former long-time legal researcher -- and am finding that the new job shine has yet to dull, as I seem be learning interesting things from my work every day. I'm also taking classes (hell yeah, tuition remission!) with the prospect of earning a master's in mind, and though criminal justice is the early frontrunner, I have yet to settle firmly on a path.

I'm a semi-regular at a prison book program in Quincy, I keep physically active with visits to the gym and weekend jogs and swims, I uncle to the best of my ability -- I have two tremendously awesome nephews -- and I make my way outside of the city whenever I can. I also bike to work and most places around here and thus finally feel like a proper Cambervillian/Somerbridgian after years of relying on the T.
I’m really good at
- Reading people's sense of humor and working with it to find smiles
- Unearthing quiet moments every day
- Noticing insane behavior in public settings
- Coming up with hooks and evocative textures on guitar
- Making homemade BBQ sauces, ketchups, and mustards
- Nicely-timed deadpan and measured doses of understatement
The first things people usually notice about me
Personality-wise, it's probably that I'm fairly soft-spoken. In terms of looks, probably my eyes. I've been told that they are "kind" and "beautiful" ... words of such potency will stick with you.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Moby-Dick, Snow Crash, A Death in the Family, The Things They Carried, Redemption Song: The Ballad of Joe Strummer, The Magus, Homicide: A Year on the Killing Streets. Anything by Raymond Carver, David Foster Wallace, Cormac McCarthy, Haruki Murakami, James Lee Burke. It also probably bears mention here that I really, really enjoy reading Gawker and Harper's Magazine.

Gritty 70s thrillers and deceptively poignant supernatural flicks from that decade, too; irreverent comedies that aren't too cutesy or self-satisfied about their own irreverence; documentaries that pique my interest with odd subjects and end up delivering surprising big picture observations on life and/or the world. Most Coen Brothers, Kubrick, Herzog, Aronofsky, Cronenberg, and Hitchcock.

Indie pop with sublimely beautiful choruses; meat-and-potatoes hard rock; soulfully expressive guitar playing and angular, outside-of-the-box six string alchemy; druggy garage; dark, lustful rock and dream pop; heart-wrenching, gut-punch country; jazz both meditative and sprightly; hip hop with deep grooves. College radio is a godsend: I am absolutely in love with WMBR and am also quite fond of WERS and WMFO. Locally, some bands I like are Hammer & Snake, Cooling Towers, the New Highway Hymnal, DCDR, Duke Levine, Tim Gearan, Hallelujah the Hills, and the Baker Thomas Band.

One of my favorite things in life is the smile that comes to the lips of someone watching the delight slowly dawn on someone else trying a bite of something unexpectedly delicious for the first time. It's like the sharing of a wonderful secret.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
- New sounds, lyrics, riffs, and grooves
- The modern preoccupation with meta and irony
- The bigness of joys that come unbidden
On a typical Friday night I am
Likely checking out live music, catching up with friends over some dinner, playing a show, or splayed out on my couch with a book or streaming Netflix.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
Given its popularity on here, admitting this may be the kiss of death, but I don't care for NPR. As a liberal, it's less a content thing and more a tonal one - there's this dainty, wine-and-cheese party air about the way so many people speak on it that I just find incredibly irritating. I think Bob Oakes's inexplicable insistence on inserting the letter 'H' into his pronunciation of the letter 'W' kind of exemplifies the problem for me.
You should message me if
You find yourself at a good place in your life to be dating, and you're either open to pursuing things seriously at some point if you sense ample promise or upfront about wanting to keep things casual if that's where you happen to be at.

I also want to borrow and paraphrase something I read on another profile that feels worth saying: I think it takes a certain brave vulnerability to send a (thoughtful!) message to a stranger on a dating website. If you message me and don't hear back, please don't envision this stranger haughtily turning up his nose at you -- for whatever it's worth, I'm flattered!