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JonBonMotvi

35 Somerville, MA Man

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I’m looking for

  • Women
  • Ages 26–42
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For long-term dating, short-term dating

My details

Last online
Today – 6:30am
Orientation
Straight
Ethnicity
White
Height
5′ 10″ (1.78m)
Body Type
Fit
Smokes
No
Drinks
Socially
Drugs
Never
Religion
Other
Sign
Libra
Education
Working on masters program
Job
Education
Status
Single
Type
Monogamous
Offspring
Doesn’t have kids
Pets
Likes dogs and likes cats
Speaks
English
My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
I'm an introspective man who puts an awful lot of stock into kindness, sincerity, independence, charity, and creative expression.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
I spend much of my life coaxing sounds out of the collection of wood, wires, and electronics known as the electric guitar, whether playing out with local acts or working on my craft at home. Coaxing a living wage out of it is a different matter, though, and for that, I work as a researcher in the development office of a local university. I have been at this for a little over a year -- I'm a former long-time legal researcher -- and am finding that the new job shine has yet to dull, as I seem be learning interesting things from my work every day. I'm also taking classes (hell yeah, tuition remission!) with the prospect of earning a master's in mind, and though criminal justice is the early frontrunner, I have yet to settle firmly on a path.

I'm a semi-regular at a prison book program in Quincy, I keep physically active with visits to the gym and weekend jogs and swims, I uncle to the best of my ability -- I have two tremendously awesome nephews -- and I make my way outside of the city whenever I can. I also bike to work and most places around here and thus finally feel like a proper Cambervillian/Somerbridgian after years of relying on the T (ugh).
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
- Reading people's sense of humor and working with it to find smiles
- Unearthing quiet moments every day
- Noticing insane behavior in public settings
- Coming up with hooks and evocative textures on guitar
- Making homemade BBQ sauces, ketchups, and mustards
- Nicely-timed deadpan and measured doses of understatement
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
Personality-wise, it's probably that I'm fairly soft-spoken. In terms of looks, probably my eyes. I've been told that they are "kind" and "beautiful" ... words of such potency will stick with you.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
Moby-Dick, Snow Crash, A Death in the Family, The Things They Carried, Redemption Song: The Ballad of Joe Strummer, The Magus, Homicide: A Year on the Killing Streets. Anything by Raymond Carver, David Foster Wallace, Cormac McCarthy, Haruki Murakami, James Lee Burke. It also probably bears mention here that I really, really enjoy reading Gawker and Harper's Magazine.

Gritty 70s thrillers and deceptively poignant supernatural flicks from that decade, too; irreverent comedies that aren't too cutesy or self-satisfied about their own irreverence; documentaries that pique my interest with odd subjects and end up delivering surprising big picture observations on life and/or the world. Most Coen Brothers, Kubrick, Herzog, Aronofsky, Cronenberg, and Hitchcock.

Indie pop with sublimely beautiful choruses; meat-and-potatoes hard rock; soulfully expressive guitar playing and angular, outside-of-the-box six string alchemy; druggy garage; dark, lustful rock and dream pop; heart-wrenching, gut-punch country; jazz both meditative and sprightly; hip hop with deep grooves. College radio is a godsend: I am absolutely in love with WMBR and am also quite fond of WERS and WMFO. Locally, some bands I like Viva Gina, Hammer & Snake, DCDR, Cooling Towers, the New Highway Hymnal, Poor Everybody, Duke Levine, Tim Gearan, Hallelujah the Hills, and the Baker Thomas Band.

One of my favorite things in life is the smile that comes to the lips of someone watching the delight slowly dawn on someone else trying a bite of something unexpectedly delicious for the first time. It's like the sharing of a wonderful secret.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
- New sounds, lyrics, riffs, and grooves
- The modern preoccupation with meta and irony
- The bigness of joys that come unbidden
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Likely checking out live music, catching up with friends over some dinner, playing a show, or splayed out on my couch with a book or streaming Netflix.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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This used to be about my distaste for NPR, an admission that elicited an array of feedback ranging from bemused to incredulous. TL;DR version: I'm put off by the dainty, soporific tone of most NPR programs.

But I think it's worth fessing up to something a little more pertinent to dating, so here goes: I'm sometimes given to shy silences on dates, especially when I'm just getting to know someone, and especially if I'm attracted to her. That might sound like either a bland, underwhelming cop out to the "private thing" issue or, worse, a transparent attempt at disguising overwhelming social awkwardness, but I assure you, it doesn't mean that I'm a colossal bore, or that I'd become a sputtering mess à la a young Jerry Lewis when getting close to you -- I may just take a little time warming up to you, that's all!
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.
You find yourself at a good place in your life to be dating, and you're either open to pursuing things seriously at some point if you sense ample promise or upfront about wanting to keep things casual if that's where you happen to be at.

I also want to borrow and paraphrase something I read on another profile that feels worth saying: I think it takes a certain brave vulnerability to send a (thoughtful!) message to a stranger on a dating website. If you message me and don't hear back, please don't envision this stranger haughtily turning up his nose at you -- for whatever it's worth, I'm flattered!