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34 M Somerville, MA

My Details

Last Online
Mar 20
5′ 10″ (1.78m)
Body Type
Graduated from university
Relationship Status
Relationship Type
Doesn’t have kids
Likes dogs and likes cats

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My self-summary
I'm an introspective man who puts an awful lot of stock into kindness, sincerity, independence, charity, and creativity.
What I’m doing with my life
I spend much of my life coaxing sounds out of the collection of wood, wires, and electronics known as the electric guitar, whether woodshedding on my own at home or playing out with local acts. Having yet to figure out how to coax a livable wage out of it, though, I also spend much of my life researching and resolving conflicts of interest at a law firm in downtown Boston. The legal world being as cynical as it is, I seek some balance as a volunteer at a reading program at an elementary school in East Boston and as a semi-regular at a prison book program in Quincy. I uncle to the best of my ability -- I have two tremendously awesome nephews -- and also nurture a latent-but-growing wanderlust, making my way outside of the city whenever I can.
I’m really good at
- Picking out thoughtful gifts
- Reading people's sense of humor and working with it to find smiles
- Unearthing quiet moments every day
- Detecting and avoiding bullshit
- Barbecuing pork shoulder and making homemade BBQ sauces, ketchups, and mustards
- Noticing insane behavior in public settings
- Nicely-timed deadpan and measured doses of understatement
- Inventing tee shirts
- Making up band names, particularly ones that would work well for nutty punk rock groups
The first things people usually notice about me
Personality-wise, it's probably that I'm fairly soft-spoken. In terms of looks, probably my eyes. I've been told that they are "kind" and "beautiful" ... words of such potency will stick with you.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Books: Moby-Dick, Snow Crash, A Death in the Family, The Things They Carried, Redemption Song: The Ballad of Joe Strummer, The Magus, No Country for Old Men, Cathedral, Homicide: A Year on the Killing Streets. It also probably bears mention here that I really, really enjoy reading Gawker and (on the opposite end of the spectrum) Harper's Magazine.

Movies: Fletch, The Hustler, When We Were Kings, Taxi Driver, The Survivors, The King of Comedy, Dirty Work, In the Heat of the Night, 3 Dev Adam, The Taking of Pelham 1-2-3 (Matthau version), The King of Kong, Blood Simple, and supernatural/action/thriller flicks from the 70s in general.

Music: John Frusciante, Miles Davis, Jimi Hendrix, PJ Harvey, Guided by Voices, The New Pornographers, The Kills, Warpaint, Sly and the Family Stone, Lalo Schifrin, The Who, The Temptations, The Clash, Led Zeppelin, Rodrigo y Gabriela, Spacemen 3, Neil Young, Townes Van Zandt, The Raveonettes. Some local favorites of mine are The New Highway Hymnal, Cooling Towers, Hammer & Snake, Poor Everybody, Black Fortress of Opium, Tim Gearan, and Dead Cats Dead Rats. Also, almost everything that gets played on this program:
I spend a lot of time thinking about
- New sounds, lyrics, riffs, and grooves
- Memories that connect to smells
- The bigness of joys that come unbidden
- Most of the major themes covered here, even if I'm annoyed that the author tacitly grants snark a free pass when it's just as hollow a manner of engaging the world as smarm:
On a typical Friday night I am
... making a compelling slow-motion entrance at the local pub/club/whatever with the effortless cool and classic, five o'clock-shadow masculinity of the sorts of young dudes featured on billboard ads for Bushmills Whiskey. (More likely, though, I'm either checking out live music with friends, playing a show, or lying comatose on my couch in front of streaming Netflix.)
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
... is that i don't like NPR. I say this at the risk of putting off at least half the women I'm matched with on OKC, so I'll qualify it at length: I am liberal, I read Talking Points Memo, Matt Taibbi, or Charles Pierce when I'm feeling a political itch and generally keep up with news via the Globe and the New York Times, I tend to enjoy watching PBS shows and specials online or on Netflix, particularly Frontline and Moyers & Company, and I occasionally read human interest stories that come down the pipe this way or that. My beef with NPR is pretty strictly on tonal grounds; I feel like there's a droning, soporific lethargy to talk radio in general, and to the deliberate, dainty, wine-and-cheese party tones on NPR in particular. Many of my best friends love NPR, and I don't think any less of them for it -- i just know that it's not for me.
I’m looking for
  • Girls who like guys
  • Ages 26–42
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For long-term dating, short-term dating
You should message me if
You aren't so jaded by your adventures in online dating that you don't still get a little excited by the prospect of really clicking with someone by way of it.

I also want to borrow and paraphrase something I read on another profile that feels worth saying: I think it takes a certain brave vulnerability to send a (thoughtful!) message to a stranger on a dating website. If you message me and don't hear back, please don't envision this stranger, like, haughtily turning up his nose at you -- I've spent the majority of my time from my mid-twenties onward both dating and in relationships and am working with a pretty defined sense of what I'm looking for in my next serious relationship, and if I don't reply, it's because I don't feel a match with my admittedly specific (but experientially-determined) criteria. For whatever it's worth, I'm flattered, and for whatever it's worth, I've sent plenty of my own unanswered messages, too!