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35 Somerville, MA Man


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I’m looking for

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  • Ages 26–42
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For long-term dating, short-term dating

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Last online
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5′ 10″ (1.78m)
Body Type
Graduated from university
Doesn’t have kids
Likes dogs and likes cats
My self-summary
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I'm an introspective man who puts an awful lot of stock into kindness, sincerity, independence, charity, and creative expression.
What I’m doing with my life
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I spend much of my life coaxing sounds out of the collection of wood, wires, and electronics known as the electric guitar, whether playing out with local acts or working on my craft at home. Coaxing a living wage out of it is a different matter, though, so for that, I work as a researcher in the development office of a local university. This marks a fairly recent career shift for me -- I'm a former legal researcher -- and I'm absolutely thrilled to be back in academia.

I'm a semi-regular at a prison book program in Quincy, I uncle to the best of my ability -- I have two tremendously awesome nephews -- and I also nurture a latent-but-growing wanderlust, making my way outside of the city whenever I can. I bike to work and most places around here and thus finally feel like a proper Cambervillian/Somerbridgian after years of relying mainly on the T (ugh).
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
- Picking out thoughtful gifts
- Reading people's sense of humor and working with it to find smiles
- Unearthing quiet moments every day
- Coming up with hooks and evocative textures on guitar
- Detecting and avoiding bullshit
- Barbecuing pork shoulder and making homemade BBQ sauces, ketchups, and mustards
- Noticing insane behavior in public settings
- Nicely-timed deadpan and measured doses of understatement
- Inventing tee shirts
The first things people usually notice about me
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Personality-wise, it's probably that I'm fairly soft-spoken. In terms of looks, probably my eyes. I've been told that they are "kind" and "beautiful" ... words of such potency will stick with you.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Behold! A veritable cornucopia of delights:

Moby-Dick, Snow Crash, A Death in the Family, The Things They Carried, Redemption Song: The Ballad of Joe Strummer, The Magus, Homicide: A Year on the Killing Streets. Raymond Carver, David Foster Wallace, Cormac McCarthy, Haruki Murakami, James Lee Burke. It also probably bears mention here that I really, really enjoy reading Gawker and Harper's Magazine.

Gritty 70s thrillers (The French Connection, The Taking of Pelham 1-2-3, Taxi Driver, Dirty Harry) and deceptively poignant supernatural flicks from that decade, too (The Haunting of Julia, Don't Look Now), irreverent comedies that aren't cutesy/self-satisfied over their own irreverence (Dirty Work, Cheech and Chong's Next Movie, Fletch, This Is Spinal Tap), documentaries that pique my interest with odd subjects and end up delivering surprising big picture observations on life and/or the world (The King of Kong, Cave of Forgotten Dreams). Most Coen Brothers, Kubrick, Aronofsky, Cronenberg, and Hitchcock. Pretty much anything Paul Newman was ever in.

Indie pop with sublimely beautiful choruses (Guided By Voices, the New Pornographers), meat-and-potatoes hard rock (Zeppelin, AC/DC, Band of Skulls), soulfully expressive guitar playing (John Frusciante, Jimi Hendrix) and angular, outside-of-the-box six string alchemy (Andy Gill, Tom Morello, St. Vincent), druggy garage (Crystal Stilts, Spacemen 3, the Black Angels), dark, lustful rock and dream pop (the Kills, PJ Harvey, Warpaint), heart-wrenching, gut punch country (Cowboy Junkies, Townes Van Zandt), jazz both meditative (Miles Davis) and sprightly (Django Reinhardt), hip hop with grace and deep grooves (Jurassic 5, Nas). College radio is a godsend: I am absolutely in love with WMBR and am also quite fond of WERS and WMFO. Locally, I like Viva Gina, Hammer & Snake, DCDR, Cooling Towers, the New Highway Hymnal, Poor Everybody, Duke Levine, Tim Gearan, Hallelujah the Hills, and the Baker Thomas Band.

One of my favorite things in life is the smile that comes to the lips of someone watching the delight slowly dawn on someone else trying a bite of something unexpectedly delicious for the first time. It's like the sharing of a wonderful secret.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
- New sounds, lyrics, riffs, and grooves
- Memories that connect to smells
- The bigness of joys that come unbidden
- Most of the major themes covered here, even if I'm annoyed that the author tacitly grants snark a free pass when it's just as hollow a manner of engaging the world as smarm:
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
... making a compelling slow-motion entrance at the local pub/club/whatever with the effortless cool and classic, five o'clock-shadow masculinity of the sorts of young dudes featured on billboard ads for Bushmills Whiskey. (More likely, though, I'm either checking out live music, catching up with friends over some dinner, playing a show, or lying comatose on my couch with a book or streaming Netflix.)
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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This used to be about my distaste for NPR, an admission that elicited an array of feedback ranging from bemused to incredulous. TL;DR version: I'm put off by the dainty, soporific tone of most NPR programs (sub-secret: I gave Serial a listen on a couple of long drives recently and found it to be pretty captivating). But I think it's worth fessing up to something a little more pertinent to dating, and I think that this may be of particular interest to someone who's read this far, so here goes: I can be mildly introverted, especially when I'm just getting to know someone, and especially if I'm attracted to her. I expect that to be easily relatable to some, but for the benefit of others, I'll point out that this doesn't mean that I'm a colossal bore, or that I'd become a sputtering mess à la a young Jerry Lewis when getting close to you, or that I'll stubbornly refuse to attend social gatherings with you. What it DOES mean is that those shy silences I'm sometimes prone to? They're nothing more than just that.
You should message me if
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You aren't so jaded by your adventures in online dating that you don't still get a little excited by the prospect of really clicking with someone by way of it. You find yourself at a good place in your life to be dating, and you're open to pursuing things seriously at some point if you sense ample promise (or you're open about wanting to keep things casual if that's where you happen to be at).

I also want to borrow and paraphrase something I read on another profile that feels worth saying: I think it takes a certain brave vulnerability to send a (thoughtful!) message to a stranger on a dating website. If you message me and don't hear back, please don't envision this stranger haughtily turning up his nose at you. For whatever it's worth, I'm flattered, and for whatever it's worth, I've sent plenty of my own unanswered messages, too!