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34 • M • Somerville, MA
I’m looking for
- Girls who like guys
- Ages 26–42
- Near me
- Who are single
- For long-term dating, short-term dating
- Last Online
- Today – 4:23pm
- 5′ 10″ (1.78m)
- Body Type
- Graduated from university
- Relationship Status
- Relationship Type
- Doesn’t have kids
- Likes dogs and likes cats
- Reading people's sense of humor and working with it to find smiles
- Unearthing quiet moments every day
- Coming up with magnetic hooks and evocative textures on guitar
- Detecting and avoiding bullshit
- Barbecuing pork shoulder and making homemade BBQ sauces, ketchups, and mustards
- Noticing insane behavior in public settings
- Nicely-timed deadpan and measured doses of understatement
- Inventing tee shirts
- Making up band names, particularly ones that would work well for nutty punk rock groups
Moby-Dick, Snow Crash, A Death in the Family, The Things They Carried, Redemption Song: The Ballad of Joe Strummer, The Magus, No Country for Old Men, Cathedral, Homicide: A Year on the Killing Streets, Dave Wallace, Haruki Murakami, James Lee Burke. It also probably bears mention here that I really, really enjoy reading Gawker and Harper's Magazine.
Gritty 70s thrillers (The French Connection, The Taking of Pelham 1-2-3, Taxi Driver, Dirty Harry) and deceptively poignant supernatural flicks from that decade, too (The Haunting of Julia, Don't Look Now), irreverent comedies that aren't cutesy/self-satisfied over their own irreverence (Dirty Work, Cheech and Chong's Next Movie, Fletch, This Is Spinal Tap), documentaries that pique my interest with odd subjects and end up delivering surprising big picture observations on life and/or the world (The King of Kong, Cave of Forgotten Dreams). Most Coen Brothers, Kubrick, Aronofsky, Cronenberg, and Hitchcock. Pretty much anything Paul Newman was ever in.
Indie pop with sublimely beautiful choruses (Guided By Voices, the New Pornographers), meat-and-potatoes hard rock (Zeppelin, AC/DC, Band of Skulls), soulful, sexy guitar players (John Frusciante, Jimi Hendrix) and angular, outside-of-the-box six string alchemists (Andy Gill, Tom Morello), druggy garage (Crystal Stilts, the New Highway Hymnal, the Black Angels), darkly lustful rock and dream pop (the Kills, PJ Harvey, Warpaint), heart-wrenching, gut punch country (Cowboy Junkies, Townes Van Zandt), jazz both meditative (Miles Davis) and sprightly (Django Reinhardt), hip hop with deft grace and deep grooves (Jurassic 5, Nas). Local college radio is a godsend: I am absolutely in love with WMBR and am also quite fond of WERS and WMFO.
- Memories that connect to smells
- The bigness of joys that come unbidden
- Most of the major themes covered here, even if I'm annoyed that the author tacitly grants snark a free pass when it's just as hollow a manner of engaging the world as smarm: http://gawker.com/on-smarm-1476594977
I also want to borrow and paraphrase something I read on another profile that feels worth saying: I think it takes a certain brave vulnerability to send a (thoughtful!) message to a stranger on a dating website. If you message me and don't hear back, please don't envision this stranger, like, haughtily turning up his nose at you -- I've spent the majority of my time from my mid-twenties onward both dating and in relationships and am working with a pretty defined sense of what I'm looking for in my next serious relationship, and if I don't reply, it's because I don't feel a match with my admittedly specific (but experientially-determined) criteria. For whatever it's worth, I'm flattered, and for whatever it's worth, I've sent plenty of my own unanswered messages, too!
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