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I’m looking for

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  • Ages 26–45
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

My details

Last online
Nov 10, 2014
6′ 2″ (1.88m)
Body Type
Mostly other
Atheism, and somewhat serious about it
Sagittarius, but it doesn’t matter
Working on university
Rather not say
Doesn’t have kids
Likes dogs and has cats
English, Spanish (Okay), French (Okay), Japanese (Poorly)
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
Not sure if I want to go back to using this thing, but ... An ex freaked out over my using my profile here to talk with friends I'd picked up during my last stint here, so ... Maybe. I'm still keeping my Halloween picture up.

"Do something outside your comfort zone" is a daily task on my agenda software-thingy.

Professionally, I head up the nerdy side of a tech firm, which gives me enough freedom to really pursue other things: right now, I'm doing photography for the local roller derby team as well as more artsy stuff for my own personal use, training a firearms training certificate, building my own security system and a sous-vide cooker, and trying out being an artist-in-residence thing at local shows, but all of that may change next month, and I'm terribly lazy at updating profiles.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Hacking things. Fixing things. Walking into screwed-up situations and walking out with things working ... maybe with a two-by-four holding things up and some duct tape, but working.

Art. Mostly photography these days. Thankfully no more wedding photography.

Finding the interesting and odd little tidbits hidden around like easter eggs ... and, real easter eggs.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
Okay ... (long breath) ...

Books: I'm a huge fan of (fiction) Kurt Vonnegut, Thomas Pynchon, Patrick O'Leary, David Eggers, Hunter S. Thompson, J. G. Ballard, Tolkein, Irvine Welsh (and translating Irvine to English), Joe Meno (nonfiction) Julian Jaynes, Richard Dawkins (on evolutionary biology, but not on theology), Hunter S. Thompson, Antonio DiMasio, Brad Warner, Paul Ekman, Sun Bear.

People often say "you have more books than anyone I know." Super-smart literary nerds even. I dig that.

Movies: Apocalypse Now, Blade Runner, the Fountain, Wristcutters (oddly, the least dark of the bunch) and 28 Days Later (because, damnit, Danny Boyle). It seems no one on here likes horror films, and that's really pretty disappointing.

Shows: Just went to see Evil Dead: The Musical. My only regret is we didn't get there early enough to sit in the splatter zone.

Music: Hrmmmm. Right now I'm listening to Fitz and the Tantrums ... and I guess I was a big rivethead back in the day, but now it's kinda hard to describe what I like. No young country, no ICP. Other than that, I know it when I hear it.

Food: I recently learned to really cook decently, and though I'm loving it, it's really ruined a lot of restaurants for me. It's made me into a horrible foodie.

The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Friends. I grew up in a fairly large family, but most of them are no longer around, so I've made a new family.

Adventure. Seriously, if you have a dog that can change shape, tell me. I love it when I get a call to go do art photos downtown in zero-degree weather, or get invited to go caving randomly.

Beer ... and whiskey. I love beer and the people who brew it. Whiskey, now ... "it's complicated."

Fire, dedication, dreaming. Whatever you want to call it. I think of it as punk rock. The idea that you can pick up a guitar, or a pen, or a TIG welder, and join in and be a part of the dance, a producer, not a consumer.

Coffee. I'm not even coherent without it.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
These days:

A half-sleeve that I want to get done based on the 2500-year-old work of a Pazyryk buried near one of the emperors of China.

How to build communities, so that skeptics have something to come home to as well as believers. Plus, can you imagine the science parties? They'd be off the chain.

Completely redecorating my home office. Right now it's utilitarian, and I need it to be inspiring and full of friends' art.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I'm the one everyone comes to for relationship advice, and I'm damn good at it, but I always ignore my own ... and I should know better.
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.
... if you're passionate about something in life. I don't care as much what it is, as that you're passionate. Bonus points if it's something badass.

... if you like adventuring. In underground restaurants in big cities, and in the middle of nowhere.

... if you wish the world of Archer was real, too. Can't ... or won't?

Generally, things I'm attracted to: short hair, especially in unnatural colors, nerdery, giving a damn about people and community, ink with a theme, knowing what the golden spiral is and why it's cool, exercise but not taking it too seriously, being unafraid to be ridiculous.

If you answered "evolution has no place in public schools," please don't contact me, we won't get along.

Also ... "no cat, no cradle" is from Kurt Vonnegut's "Cat's Cradle." I actually do have a cat ... but no cradles.