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34 M Albuquerque, NM

My Details

Last Online
Jun 13, 2010
5′ 11″ (1.80m)
Body Type
Trying to quit
Other, and somewhat serious about it
Cancer, and it’s fun to think about
Graduated from university
Science / Engineering
Relationship Status
Seeing Someone
Relationship Type
Likes cats
English (Fluently), Spanish (Okay), German (Poorly)

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My self-summary
Started seeing someone on 2/25/10 so no longer available.

Creative, caring, a loner but only because I'm shy, even so I warm up quickly. I have a bachelors in creative writing & my passion is creating, whether it be in the form of various arts (sewing, silver-smithing, charcoals) or in the form of writing (fiction, poetry, lyrics). I write mostly about the supernatural in real world settings, whether in history or modern day. (vampires, werewolves, demons, mages, that kind of thing)

I've been single since 2004 and I'm getting kind of tired of it. I dated a little bit in that time but nothing ever took. For the past little while I hadn't really been trying to meet anyone and since I wasn't doing anything other than working and hanging out with my close friends I succeeded in not meeting anyone.

I had a really bad date on another free site and decided I should see what else was out there. I'm the long term monogamous kind of guy and a relationship has to be built. Not a big fan of jumping into bed on the first date, it has always ended badly for me when that was the case.

I like myself and am generally confident even if a little introverted, I'd prefer my partner to be confident in herself as well. Maybe I find someone here or maybe I don't, either way I would like to not be single for another five years.

I am creative, caring, and electic
What I’m doing with my life
Recently I've started working more on my silver-smithing and have begun selling some of my jewelry at a local store. I've had a novel on the back burner for years now but I would like to get around to finishing it someday

Originally I had thought I wanted to teach creative writing but I'm not so sure anymore. Still trying to reassess my long term goals but for the short term getting my jewelry making slowly from a hobby status into a business. Meanwhile working full time on a graveyard shift at a tech support call center.
I’m really good at
I don't know that I'm a fair judge of what I'm really good at but I enjoy being creative in many different formats. Things such as playing the role of a character (namely with paper and dice), silver smithing, writing, charcoals.

Things I've been told that I'm really good at include being considerate, being a bit OCD, fencing, singing at karaoke, basic technical support for a variety of electronics and computer related toys (read as a nerd but still not an uberhacker or programmer)
The first things people usually notice about me
I usually wear a trench coat and sometimes a wide brimmed felt hat so that does tend to stands out a bit I guess. More than one drunkard has run away from my approach saying that death was coming (ignorant, narrow minded, obnoxious drunks)

Seriously though, something people notice when I'm in a crowd is that I tend to be the quiet one off in the corner. (more than once I've been referred to as Silent Bob)

Smaller gatherings where I actually talk to people they notice that I'm not normal for most males. (been accused of being gay due to my lack of testosterone driven traits - ie: the concept of chivalry is not dead to me - sorry guys not actually bi or gay)

One on one people notice my eyes, they're hazel and change with my mood.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
The Dresden Files, Sandman, JTHM, Ray Bradbury, Anne Rice, Neil Gaiman, Stephen King, and many many more.

Anatomy, Six String Samurai, Chronicles of Riddick, Dead Poets Society, RHPS, American History X, Fight Club, What Dreams May Come, The Labrynth, and many many more.

As far as music goes my tastes are fairly eclectic, I do listen to goth/industrial, rock, classical, and swing. I can tolerate some rap but I won't go out of my way to listen to it, same goes for country.

Sushi is my favorite. Beyond that I just try to eat healthy, either cook up a stir fry, make some gumbo, a curry, or grilled chicken with mixed vegetables. End up hitting subway usually when I go out for a quick bite.
The six things I could never do without
1. a creative outlet
(even if that means a napkin on which to doodle)
2. stories
(whether graphic novels, rpgs, video games or film)
3. imagination
(It's greater than knowledge - Einstein said so),
4. rain
(though there's never enough of it in this desert)

I think those are the important ones so then of course there's:
5. sustenance
6. oxygen
I spend a lot of time thinking about
I think a lot about whatever task I've set my ocd focal point on. Oh, in general? Either the next piece of silver to be formed or characters from various plot threads to be written or played out in game.
On a typical Friday night I am
Fridays I'm working. But if you mean the first night of the week when I'm off which is Sunday night, I am gaming with my friends, either LAN MMORPG or paper and dice, quick roll a d10 to decide then roll a percentile die to see how much of a nerd I am (then add 90%.)
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
If I admit it here it wouldn't be a private thing anymore would it? It would be a public thing for all of the people on OK Cupid to see. This questions seems silly at best, ludicrous at worst. But all right, if I take it as reveal something that was private up until this point I suppose I could do something like that.


This one time, at forestry camp, I lied about my religion unsuccessfully. I was trying to say I was protestant (which I've never been) so I could fit in with the other kids but I accidentally said i was a prostitute. I was 10 and didn't know what that meant so when the camp councilors asked me about it I didn't know how to respond.
I’m looking for
  • Girls who like guys
  • Ages 24–54
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For new friends
You should message me if
You should message me if you are an open minded, intelligent, self sufficient, individual who is neither shallow nor controlling. Or if you are as much of, or more of a nerd as I am. (if you're not sure how much of a nerd you are take my test here Cave dweller or Uber nerd)