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13th April 2011 Update
Through this site I have met two lovely men and am still living
with my partner. And I've decided that I am not looking for any
more 'dates'. There are only so many hours in the day, you
I am leaving my profile here though as I love this site - I've made
some really good friends all over the world - and it seems this is
the only place I do any writing!
And I'm still happy to message people - if there's something in my
profile you want to chat about - feel free to message me.
This profile is work in progress . . . (as is my life!)
I got here through a polyamory website - it's an area I'm exploring
- mainly because my partner is now a transgender woman - and whilst
we are currently still in a relationship - I am looking for
Friendship is a good thing to start with. People to talk to and
exchange views/ideas with. People to ask me difficult questions -
that's always helpful when you're trying to work out what you want
- and why you want it!
And after being on here for a couple of weeks and having had to
explain what I'm looking for - I have this to add: I know what I
don't want - I don't want a big one on one romance - I don't need
it now and I'm not sure I believe in it. I just want to make
friends with guys and see a few and keep seeing those I want to.
I'm not looking for an exclusive relationship - just some good
friends with whom I can have fun!
And another thing I've learned - communication is very important to
me - it's very hard to become good friends with someone when they
And (on a roll here) being open and honest with relationships - to
me that's what polyamory is all about. And for me personally it
doesn't mean I want to just have sex with random people. I want to
have open and honest relationships -and with my partners' partners
(should they exist) all being aware of the situation. No hiding
I am restless, adventurous, and getting sorted
What I’m doing with my life
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I work in an Art Gallery/Historic House. That's the simplest bit of
what I'm doing with my life!
I help run a mobile cinema, I go to a Book Group and a Creative
Writing Group - all within the beautiful Lake District Valley I
I am trying to take control of my personal life - and not simply
'go with the flow'. And as a huge part of that - I went to Ireland
to meet up with a guy from this very site! Flew all by myself
(first time) and then spent a whole week with a really lovely guy.
And then went back again for more! And now he's coming over here in
March . . . looks like a keeper!
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Giving unasked for advice.
Writing erotic fiction.
Being a good friend.
Asking a question and then not listening to the answer.
Stating the obvious.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I have dark brown, grey and pink hair . . .
My style tends to the 'Bohemian' - I couldn't do 'graceful and
elegant' to save my life!
I'm humming tunelessly perhaps . . .
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Rough Music by Patrick Gale is my favourite book - I read it like
comfort food! You MUST read this book! Another book I'm always
telling people to read is Lost Souls by Poppy Z Brite.
Currently reading: La Bete Humaine by Emile Zola - a Book Group
choice - that I must start reading NOW! As we shall be discussing
it on the 21st July :)
Small Gods by Terry Pratchett
Set a long time before any other of his books that I've read, Small
Gods is a stand alone story and tells of the Omnian religion and as
you might expect has much to say about religion and religious
people. The God Om at this time is much reduced in standing and can
only manage to appear in the form of a tortoise and only one person
can hear what he says – the one true believer in Om – a naive young
novice Brutha. The God has some trouble convincing Brutha that he
is indeed his God and their developing relationship is nicely
written. The book is as funny as his other books and I'm getting
used to his sense of humour. I'm an atheist and I did agree with a
lot of the satirical things he says.
I wish I had taken note of the page – because there was an
excellent quote – but I shall paraphrase. He said something like
people get so carried away with practicing their religion that they
forget all about the God itself and all that is left are the
structures of the religion itself. This brought to mind the Quakers
– who deliberately limit the 'structures' in order to concentrate
on their God – and whose numbers I would be among, if I believed in
Terry Pratchett also says in the book that Gods cease to exist if
no-one believes in them; which I like the idea of. I do like the
way Pratchett manages to make contemporary social commentary using
fantasy set in a very different world.
Films most recently watched: Limitless - I actually went to real
cinema to see this! Paid £7.60 too! An interesting idea - but it
was SO typically American - if you could use 100% of your brain,
rather than the usual 20% - and the world is your oyster - what do
you do? Make lots of money and then go into politics! So
The Third Man - by Carol Reed - screenplay written by Graham Green.
This was shown as part of Ulverston's WordMarket Festival and we
had Dr Alan Sennett from the OU to introduce it and lead a
discussion afterwards. I like the film but I do tend to drift off a
little bit in the middle. I was interested to hear Dr Sennett's
theory that Holly Martins represents America, Anna the German
nation and Harry Lime Fascism - I love ideas like that.
Films and directors I particularly like:
The Doom Generation - directed by Gregg Araki
Torch Song Trilogy - starring the wonderful, gravel voiced Harvey
Dogs In Space - a brilliant Australian film starring Michael
Films by David Lynch, David Cronenberg, John Cameron Mitchell,
Pedro Almodovar, John Waters
Scissor Sisters live :) Excellent show!
Saw Paloma Faith in October - she was excellent! Amazing voice and
wonderful stage set.
Went to see The Archie Bronson Outfit recently - they were great -
the sound quality was not!
Current bed-time listening: Moby Play
Chilled Ibiza compilation
The Archie Bronson Outfit - Coconut
Imelda May - Mayhem
Hercules & Love Affair
Silverchair - Neon Ballroom
Mansun: The Attack of the Grey Lantern
Dummy - Portishead
The Verve - Urban Hymns
Massive Attack - Protection
Faithless - Sunday 8pm
Previously:Final Straw - Snow Patrol
Stone Temple Pilots - eponymous album
Throwing Copper by Live
No Parlez by Paul Young (my partner's £1 charity shop
Grace by Jeff Buckley
The End of History by Fionn Regan
Shadowlands by kd lang
Italian and Mexican
(Especially the amazing Mexican feasts cooked by my youngest
daughter) But I am improving my Mexican cooking skills - I made a
gorgeous guacamole today (25/07/10)
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Italian food and wine
Of course you are supposed to put 'my family' - otherwise you look
In the end I could do without a lot of things - I might not have a
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
how much I over analyse everything
I practice conversations in my head
people who are special to me
when I'm going back to Ireland
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
online . . .
drinking wine and eating crisps
like most nights . . .
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I'm pretty easy to find out about - all my 'secrets' are out there
to be found
You should message me if
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