I am recently back in Portland after spending more than a year in St. Louis, my hometown (illness in the family; it's all fairly well sorted now, thanks for presumably asking).
Conversationally engaging and kind, I know the difference between a spirited discussion (fun!) and a fight (not!). My sense of humor leans more towards gentle irony and dry wit than biting sarcasm. I love making a joke so subtle that only one person in the group picks up on it. It's like a secret signal between the two of us. On the subject of irony, I like the verbal kind but rarely *do* things ironically. if I do a thing it's because I enjoy it, not because I think, "Wouldn't it be funny to pretend to like this thing that is not cool to like?" Liking things is cool, I think. I love people with super-nerdy pursuits like LARPing or cosplay who don't give one shit if other people ridicule them. Doing things is more fun that making fun of things. I'm not too cool for school, and I feel sorry for people who are.
"Nerds like us are allowed to be unironically enthusiastic about stuff. We don’t have to be like, ‘Oh, that purse is okay’, or like ‘Yeah, I like that band’s early stuff.’ Nerds are allowed to LOVE stuff. Like, jump up and down in your chair, can’t control yourself LOVE IT. Hank, when people call people nerds, mostly what they’re saying is ‘you like stuff.’ Which is just not a good insult at all. Like, ‘You are too enthusiastic about the miracle of human consciousness.’" --John Green
People often say they don't know what to write here, but as you might have noticed I have the opposite problem. I'd much rather get someone talking about themselves than talk about me (or, ideally, you know, take turns), but that's not really an option for a profile, yeah? Mark Twain used to apologize for his letters, "sorry I did not have time to make this shorter." My messages are moderately longer than usual also, though I make attempts to trim the fat. (Writing is re-writing, as they say. Am I the only one who does a first and second draft of okcupid messages? Then I usually spot something I want to change approximately two nanoseconds after I click send. x_X ) I miss the '90s when we communicated at a distance primarily by email and I still correspond this way with a few people. Now we have the immediacy of cell phones, but you don't exactly craft a conversation as you would a letter, and that's too bad. Can you imagine historians of the future using text messages as primary sources? Okay, that quote up there? That was actually Blaise Pascal, I've found out. I'm leaving it as Twain because I like him better.