Does OkCupid have an algorithm for profiles it shows in this section, is it total randos, or is their algorithm just really shitty?

I just clicked through to one of the "you might like" profiles, and we are a 19% match. Nineteen! Here is a tip: if the two of us tab flips to "y'all got issues," that person probably doesn't qualify as someone I might like. It ain't complicated.

Really? Metro area of 2+ million people and you are showing me a ten-percent match (40% enemy!) who lives 25 miles away?

My buddy Peter and I decided to play bocce at Tom McCall Waterfront Park after our friends' wedding reception wound down.

Doing my bit to popularize "I's" as a perfectly acceptable contraction for "I was." It seems odd to me this isn't already in popular usage. We have "I'm" and "I'd."

Against my better judgment, I find myself getting into (another) debate about the sexism implicit in the friend zone concept. This time on Facebook. I blame this mini-article.

 A “nice guy” pursues a woman, but isn’t forward with his intentions from the get-go like, say, a “jerk”. The woman is pleased to see a man who is interested in her not as a sexual object but as a human being and wishes for things to stay that way. The man is not satisfied with seeing the woman as a human being because being “expected to support a girl” is a bad deal if she’s not putting out.

Sexist culture is sexist, but I'm still surprised at the lengths to which people go to deny it. I can't help myself when there is an opportunity to attack lazy thinking. If nothing else, it is a great way to lose respect for your friends. Try it!

Looks like the image proportions are being smooshed by this layout. I guess open it in a new tab if you want.

There's some more stuff at my sporadically updated art blog.

My result was 'the male best friend':

You're always there, you're nice, you're the shoulder to cry on, you get along just fine, why won't she/he date you? you're the "male best friend"

DragonflyBlade21: A woman has a close male friend. This means that he is probably interested in her, which is why he hangs around so much. She sees him strictly as a friend. This always starts out with, you're a great guy, but I don't like you in that way. This is roughly the equivalent for the guy of going to a job interview and the company saying, You have a great resume, you have all the qualifications we are looking for, but we're not going to hire you. We will, however, use your resume as the basis for comparison for all other applicants. But, we're going to hire somebody who is far less qualified and is probably an alcoholic. And if he doesn't work out, we'll hire somebody else, but still not you. In fact, we will never hire you. But we will call you from time to time to complain about the person that we hired.

I think the "friend zone" is bullshit. Not that some people don't think this way; I'm saying it's bullshit thinking. It's disingenuous to hang around someone if your only (or main) motivation is to win her over as if you're living some John Hughes movie. When someone expresses that they're not interested romantically, you should respect that. Be friends or don't, just so long as you're honest about your reasons.

I don't know the source, but I read recently, '"Slut" is how we vilify women for exercising the freedom to say "yes"; "Friend zone" is how we vilify women for exercising the freedom to say "no."

OkCupid says I'm more drug-friendly but I rarely even smoke weed (3-4 times/year). I guess maybe because I don't care how much or little other people get high?

Musing of the day 3 Dec 2011:

I cannot say I’ve never told a lie. Nothing malicious; no one was grievously injured. Still, I’d trade everything I own to take them all back. Can you imagine if you’d always been entirely honest with your parents, siblings, friends, lovers? You would walk around wearing your integrity like motherfucking armor.

Before the invention of the telescope, how did people describe extensible things with inter-nestled parts? Did they not have a word for that?