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noodle_pdx

36 / M / Straight / Single

Saint Louis, Missouri

His Details

Last Online
Today – 3:17pm
Ethnicity
White
Height
5′ 10″ (1.78m).
Body Type
Athletic
Diet
Anything
Smokes
Sometimes
Drinks
Socially
Drugs
Religion
Atheism
Sign
Education
Dropped out of college/university
Job
Income
Offspring
Doesn’t have kids
Pets
Likes dogs and likes cats
Speaks
English (Fluently), C++ (Poorly)

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My self-summary
I grew up in St. Louis but have been away for 15 years. I've kept in touch with only a handful of people from St. Louis, so it'd be nice to meet a few new people and (re)discover a few places, see shows, etc.

I am a forthright, thoughtful, articulate male human. Here are some specifics that you may generalize as you wish. I usually release spiders and insects into the wild if practical, but I will smash 'em if necessary. I tried to locate the owner of an expensive-looking bike I found once. (Five-O offered to take it off my hands so they could auction it if no one claimed it. Fuck that! They don't need my help to buy more riot gear. After three months I thought to sell it (it was too big for me), but it had been stolen from my back yard.) I smile at toddlers and stop to pet dogs on the street. Sometimes I'll pick up litter or cigarette butts and carry them until I find a trash can. I look things up all the time, then forget what I learned in a few months and look them up again. I'd like to say that eventually it sticks, but the jury's still out. I say "please" and "thank you" to wait staff.

If you're looking for some adjectives, my personality tab is accurate with these caveats: being drug-friendly doesn't make me a drug user (I rarely get high); I deserve higher scores for literary and political; I am extroverted when I want to be, but also need more than a little time alone.

Conversationally engaging and kind, I know the difference between a spirited discussion (fun!) and a fight (not!). My sense of humor leans more towards gentle irony and dry wit than biting sarcasm. On the subject of irony, it's great fun but sincerity should be in the mix, too.

"Nerds like us are allowed to be unironically enthusiastic about stuff. We don’t have to be like, ‘Oh, that purse is okay’, or like ‘Yeah, I like that band’s early stuff.’ Nerds are allowed to LOVE stuff. Like, jump up and down in your chair, can’t control yourself LOVE IT. Hank, when people call people nerds, mostly what they’re saying is ‘you like stuff.’ Which is just not a good insult at all. Like, ‘You are too enthusiastic about the miracle of human consciousness.’" --John Green

People often say they don't know what to write here, but as you might have noticed I have the opposite problem. I'd much rather get someone talking about themselves than talk about me (or, ideally, you know, take turns), but that's not really an option for a profile, yeah? Mark Twain used to apologize for his letters, "sorry I did not have time to make this shorter." My messages are moderately longer than usual also, though I make attempts to trim the fat. (Writing is re-writing, as they say. Am I the only one who does a first and second draft of okcupid messages?) I miss the '90s when we communicated at a distance primarily by email. Now we have the immediacy of cell phones, but you don't exactly craft a conversation as you would a letter, and that's too bad. Can you imagine historians of the future using text messages as primary sources? Okay that quote up there? That was actually Blaise Pascal, I've found out. I'm leaving it as Twain because I like him better.
What I’m doing with my life
Trying to learn stuff. If your profile mentions anything I have to look up (e.g. a word; a field of study; a style of music, art, or architecture), I will become 40-60% more interested in you. Remembering what I've learned, though... If you know a way I can better my memory, tell me immediately, I implore you.

When I have some time on my hands, I try to take up some neglected interests. I have been drawing again (usually portraits, but I'm also working on my perspective doing buildings and such). I am dabbling in creative writing. It's slow going, but ideas do insist to be put to paper (or hard disk, as the case may be).

I'm playing catch-up to the rest of you adults, career-wise. I had very little ambition in my 20s.
I’m really good at
Striking up interesting conversations with new people. Philosophical, political, or absurdly inconsequential debates. I make crazy good scrambled eggs. I have a knack for finding the right word for a given shade of meaning, but it sometimes abandons me at the most inopportune times. I'll write a five-paragraph essay like you wouldn't believe. I keep my bullshit detector well-tuned, but I am more inclined to find the good in other people than the bad. I'm good at understanding math but embarrassingly bad at doing simple arithmetic in my head.

I'm hard to offend, but when I am I'll let someone know instead of bitching behind their back. I like to think I'm an insightful advisor in interpersonal matters. I have a vanishingly minuscule drama quotient.

I'm good at dating. By which I mean I am able to accept people on their own terms; I almost always enjoy the company and conversation of whomever I'm with. A date's a fine way to spend an evening (afternoon, whatever) even if there's no romantic spark. I play chess, darts, pool, ultimate frisbee, disc golf, and the occasional card/board game (Carcassone, Settlers, and Perudo aka liar's dice are faves). I can draw (although I'm rusty) and I know something about photography and Photoshop.

Okay so this kind of wandered off the "really good at" path. The short answer is the conversation, the writing, and the scrambled eggs.
The first things people usually notice about me
First, that I'm happy to meet them, because I like people. Later, that I've usually remembered their names. I used to be bad with names, but I made an effort to improve, so I'm a little proud of it.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Books: Infinite Jest, A Supposedly Fun Thing I'll Never Do Again, Catch-22, Cryptonomicon, Stranger in a Strange Land, The Moon is a Harsh Mistress, House of Leaves, Generosity: An Enhancement, The Left Hand of Darkness.

both the book and movie versions: A Scanner Darkly, Fight Club, Wonder Boys

Jonathan Irving never disappoints. I am blown away by half of Margaret Atwood's novels; as a man, I don't think I am equipped to 'get' the other half, try as I might. I adore David Foster Wallace. I like Sedaris and I can see the appeal of Tom Robbins, but I think they are vastly overrated.

Movies: Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind, Ghostbusters, Miller's Crossing, The Big Lebowski, Shakespeare in Love, The Life Aquatic with Steve Zissou, Heat, The Karate Kid, Primer.

I prefer stories that have something to say about human nature or that give me insight into the type of people I don't understand or identify with.

Music: Bad Religion, Elliott Smith, Spoon, Metric, Built to Spill, Soundgarden, Alkaline Trio, Stone Temple Pilots, Portishead, Operation Ivy, Muse, Faith No More, Mos Def, God Lives Underwater, They Might Be Giants, The Mars Volta, Heartless Bastards, Harvey Danger, Aesop Rock, Retribution Gospel Choir, Autolux, The Kills, The New Pornographers. Occasionally Miles Davis or Thelonius Monk. Way more than you probably want to know about my listening habits can be learned at last.fm (click for my profile). If a band is listed there and has a show coming up, I'm probably wondering if I should go.

Food: Scambled eggs with cheese and veggies, asparagus, bacon cheeseburgers, French toast, pesto, apple fritters, pad thai, pad see ew, chicken or pork katsu. Greek style yogurt with honey. Avocado. Rye bread. All kinds of fruit. I'm a sucker for curries with cashews or pineapple in 'em. Americano with cream, no sugar. Bourbon (mmmm Manhattans om nom nom) and scotch.
The six things I could never do without
#1 is definitely integrity. I like myself and I like liking myself so I try not to act like an asshole, be mean or dishonest, or act against my principles. I know that sounds like I take myself really seriously. But that's my honest answer.

The rest: Music, books, something purposeful to do, some time to do nothing purposeful, and a toothbrush. Shame on all you people who think you could live with no toothbrush. Try eating all those ethnic foods you can't possibly give up when you have no teeth.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Social justice and institutionalized inequality. I find myself becoming increasingly anti-Capitalistic as I realize that economic injustice isn't a perversion of the system -- it's baked in. Not like "Capitalists are evil!" but, c'mon, y'all, we can do better than this. Patterns especially as related to neurology, consciousness, and sentience. Whether I should bring a flask of bourbon. Why brains often work counter-intuitively (which seems really broken but there are interesting reasons for it). Mathy things such as why ∏ is a poor choice for the circle constant. Whether I've gotten enough done to indulge in an afternoon nap. If I care enough about my carbon footprint to give up X, Y, or Z. Physics and cosmology. What being a cat or a dog is like -- what they think about (and what form that takes without language), how their senses and bodies differ, what level of sentience they have.

I've been writing up some musings as journal posts, but it has come to my attention that OkCupid hides journals from new users by default, and if you haven't used yours you won't see a journal tab on my profile. If you want to take a look, click here. I also just found out that you can inline images there that don't have to follow the guidelines profile pics do. I put up a sketch.

Musing of the day for 14 July 2012: I don't have guilty pleasures. I like what I like and make no apologies, but I do feel guilty about things I wish I did or liked more than I do. I should listen to more classical music, spend more time on NPR, download more educational podcasts. I want to learn more about wine, but generally go for beer or whiskey instead.
On a typical Friday night I am
Maybe a board game night, maybe shooting pool and/or the shit, maybe a show, maybe resting up at home with a book or a movie.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I went through an Ayn Rand phase when I's young [I think "I was" should have a contraction], but I am fully recovered.

I was expelled from a Catholic high school for an unintended sacrilege. The story is best told in person. (Don't ask me to tell it in a message -- trust me on this.)
I’m looking for
  • Girls who like guys
  • Ages 25–42
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating, activity partners
You should message me if
You describe yourself as warm-hearted, compassionate, empathetic, or kind. 'My mother used to say, "In this world, Elwood, you must be oh so smart or oh so pleasant." Well, for years I was smart. I recommend pleasant. You may quote me.' --James Stewart as Elwood P. Dowd in Harvey. Okay, Elwood, you've been quoted.

If you want a hiking/camping buddy or a live-music buddy; if you like to discuss books you've read and trade book recommendations; if you're the kind of person who will meet for a drink after a brief exchange of messages or phone calls. I am also very open to non-traditional first dates, such as: watching people and making up stories about where they are coming from or heading to; competitive doodling; and impromptu scavenger hunts. I have a very fine weapon for cardboard tube sword fighting if you'd like to challenge me to a duel. Does collaborating on the Sunday NYT crossword puzzle or the quizzy shows on NPR appeal to you? Trivia night? Hit that button.

I finally joined the 21st century and got a smartphone. My profile is ridiculously long when viewed in the OkCupid app! If you made it all the way through this on your phone, you deserve an award. Contact me to claim the beverage of your choice.

If you just want to make joke or observation in passing, don't be shy. Not every message has to be the beginning of a beautiful friendship.