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49 Portland, OR Man


I’m looking for

  • Women
  • Ages 24–58
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

My Details

Last Online
Today – 3:15am
5′ 9″ (1.76m)
Body Type
Agnosticism, and laughing about it
Leo, and it’s fun to think about
Graduated from university
Relationship Status
Open relationship
Relationship Type
Mostly monogamous
Doesn’t have kids, but might want them
Likes dogs

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My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
I'm primarily here looking for a great gal for a nice romantic friendship, which I'd define as going-out, hanging-out, great conversation, lots of laughing (and let's not forget making out like crazed weasels!) I'm not looking for a hookup or marriage but I'm open to almost anything in-between.

A little bit about me. I'm a bi guy in a very LTR with a great guy, but I also really like (and for many years missed) the company of women. Our relationship is open, but not wide open. For my part, one additional relationship is quite enough (cuz life is busy, and I'm not 17;-)

I don't have any particular type, and half the joy of spending time with someone new is the discoveries they lead you to. I might love your brilliant mind, admire your commitment to a cause, or the thoughtful way you treat people. Perhaps I'll love the way you're always charging ahead of me when we run (and the lovely view that provides;-). I hope I'll dig you for the things that you'll teach me, or the fact that you let me teach you.

Anyway, how bout we begin by grabbing some food, flirting our asses off and maybe doing a little quality kissing... And who knows, if the fit seems good, maybe we'll make each others toes curl.

Since you might want at least a quick sketch about this guy whose trying to get your attention;-)
I had a somewhat blue-collar upbringing, so though I admire the local visionaries, I tend to put much of my energy into things concrete and practical: All my adult careers--landscaping, nursery work and farming have centered around a love for plants, and being oudoors. I majored in History/Gov. and English once upon a time; I don't argue politics so much these days, but a good poem can still stir my blood! I know my way around the Oregon wine scene, miss the Austin music scene and love working on houses (as in framing walls, not choosing paint swatches!): current project, a 1915 farmhouse. The gym keeps me sane in the rainy months.

Basically I'm honest, hard-working, laid-back, and plenty of other things many good, a few less than perfect. Wouldn't it be better if we just grabbed a drink, and you can draw your own conclusions?
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
Trying to emulate my adolescent dog's lust for life.

I'm also a manager of a nursery and own a farm (wine grapes and wheat).
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Growing things.
Working with my hands.
Petting dogs.
Finish carpentry.
Finishing people's drinks!
Losing myself in tasks.
Identifying plants.
Enjoying my mediocre skiing skills.
Sticking to my workouts.
Not sticking out my tongue unless I
Intend to use it...
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
A mischievous smile apparently. Also I look a bit young for my age (I know, I know, don't we all...): Anyway, I like to imagine it's true in my case since I had to put up with looking like Harry Potter in my 20's and getting "carded" into my 30's...
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
Current read: "Woodlanders", "Jitterbug Perfume". Other recents: "Wolf Hall", "Bringing Up the Bodies" "The Anubis Gates"..."Sex At Dawn" was last years fave...

Writers: Ursula LeGuin, Thomas Hardy, George Martin, W.B.Yeats, Sean Stewart, Gary Snyder

Music: I've never been musically cool. Thrash, Hip Hop, ballads, Latin beats, trashy dance pop, country, blues or sea shanties--I have no filter...

TV: Seemingly unllike most Portlanders, I do own and watch television: All the great HBO series, past and present, John Stewart/Colbert, Masterpiece Theatre/Brit-coms, and silly sitcoms generally.

Movies: The Lion in Winter, Blade Runner, Love and Death, Wings of Desire, Passion Fish, anything by Wes Anderson, John Sayles, and Almodovar...
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Oxygen, food, water, gravity, atmospheric pressures within the range...(I wonder what percentage of people at least begin typing the smartass response?)

Meaningful Work
Smokin sex
Good Soil
Great coffee
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
How to keep a business that's been entrusted to me in good shape, and my employees happy.

How to find the balance between obligations/long-term plans and the satisfaction that comes from being present in the moment.

How beautiful, interesting and sexy people are...
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
...going to bed tired after working, planting, cleaning, etc.

...laughing over a few too many beers with friends old and new.

...watching a movie, tv or reading a book.

...having a nice meal/drinking good wine.

...wandering (with my partner of 24 years, and probably our dog) around some place we're visiting, or bedding down for the night under the biggest tree we can find.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
Good God people, at least admit that you wear Bugs Bunny pajamas, or eat meat once a year!

I once took pictures of my feet for a guy I chatted with online--it didn't take much effort on my behalf, and it made him very happy...
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.
You have a good heart, are interesting, smart, sexy, witty, funny, & fun!

Dating and snogging with someone who isn't going to be "THE ONE" won't feel like some sort of self-betrayal (cuz who wants to be part of that?!)