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48 M Portland, OR

I’m looking for

  • Women who like men
  • Ages 24–58
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

My Details

Last Online
Today – 1:42am
5′ 9″ (1.76m)
Body Type
Agnosticism, and laughing about it
Leo, and it’s fun to think about
Graduated from university
Relationship Status
Open relationship
Relationship Type
Doesn’t have kids, but might want them
Likes dogs

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My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
I know a lot of folks are here on OKC to meet a full-time, forever-partner--which is awesome! If, however, you're in a place where an affectionate relationship of a less conventional sort sounds interesting, read on! I 'm an honest, low-drama guy, and I give a lot of myself to the people I care for.

I'm a bi guy in a very LTR (24 yr.) w/ a great guy. I also really like women and life without their company would be kinda grey...Fortunately this isn't required of me, which makes me very lucky ( & my guy pretty special!) It's always great to hear from interesting folks and kindred spirits, so if you feel a connection, by all means say hey! I'm especially interested in finding a great gal for a nice romantic friendship: Maybe we'll get together once or twice a week, grab some food, flirt our asses off, do a little quality kissing... And who knows, if short term dating turns more medium term, perhaps we'll make each others toes curl.

I had a somewhat blue-collar upbringing, so though I admire the local visionaries, I tend to put much of my energy into things concrete and practical: All my adult careers--landscaping, nursery work and farming have centered around a love for plants, and being oudoors. I majored in History/Gov. and English once upon a time; my passion for arguing politics has atrophied somewhat, but a good poem can still stir my blood! I know my way around the Oregon wine scene, miss the Austin music scene and love working on houses (as in framing walls, not choosing paint swatches!): current project, a 1915 farmhouse. The gym keeps me sane in the rainy season...
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
Trying to emulate my adolescent dog's lust for life.

I'm also a manager of a nursery and own a farm (wine grapes and wheat).
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Growing things.
Working with my hands.
Petting dogs.
Finish carpentry.
Finishing people's drinks!
Losing myself in tasks.
Identifying plants.
Enjoying my mediocre skiing skills.
Sticking to my workouts.
Not sticking out my tongue unless I
Intend to use it...
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
A mischievous smile apparently. Also I look a bit young for my age: I guess looking like Harry Potter in my 20's and getting "carded" into my 30's finally has an upside...
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
Current read: "Jitterbug Perfume". Other recents: "Wolf Hall", "Bringing Up the Bodies" "The Anubis Gates"..."Sex At Dawn" was last years fave...

Writers: Ursula LeGuin, Thomas Hardy, George Martin, W.B.Yeats, Sean Stewart, Gary Snyder

Music: I've never been musically cool. Thrash, Hip Hop, ballads, Latin beats, trashy dance pop, country, blues or sea shanties--I have no filter...

TV: Seemingly unllike most Portlanders, I do own and watch television: All the great HBO series, past and present, John Stewart/Colbert, Masterpiece Theatre/Brit-coms, and silly sitcoms generally.

Movies: The Lion in Winter, Blade Runner, Love and Death, Wings of Desire, Passion Fish, anything by Wes Anderson, John Sayles, and Almodovar...
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Oxygen, food, water, gravity, atmospheric pressures within the range...(I wonder what percentage of people at least begin typing the smartass response?)

Meaningful Work
Smokin sex
Good Soil
Great coffee
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
How to keep a business that's been entrusted to me in good shape, and my employees happy.

How to find the balance between obligations/long-term plans and the satisfaction that comes from being present in the moment.

How beautiful, interesting and sexy people are...
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
...going to bed tired after working, planting, cleaning, etc.

...laughing over a few too many beers with friends old and new.

...watching a movie, tv or reading a book.

...having a nice meal/drinking good wine.

...wandering with my guy around some place we're visiting, or bedding down for the night under the biggest tree we can find.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
Good God people, at least admit that you wear Bugs Bunny pajamas, or eat meat once a year!

I once took pictures of my feet for a guy I chatted with online--it didn't take much effort on my behalf, and it made him very happy...
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.
You have a good heart, are interesting, smart, sexy, witty, funny, & fun!

You know or suspect that the territory between meaningless sex and till death-do-us-part can be positive, happy and worthwhile.