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I’m looking for

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  • Ages 24–58
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

My details

Last online
Online now!
Open relationship
Relationship Type
Mostly monogamous
5' 9" (1.76m)
Body Type
Agnosticism and laughing about it
Might want kids
My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
It's always great to meet new friends and kindred spirits, so if you feel a connection say hey! I'd be especially happy to meet a great gal for a nice romantic friendship, which I'd define as going-out, hanging-out, good conversation, lots of laughter, and who knows, if the fit seems right, perhaps we'll make each other's toes curl...

I'm a bi guy in a very LTR with a great guy, but I also really like (and for many years missed) the company of women. Our relationship is open, but not wide open--"monogamish", for all you Dan Savage fans. For my part, one additional relationship is quite enough, cuz life is busy, and I'm not 17;-)

Though I admire the local visionaries, my blue-collar upbringing has given me an appreciation for things concrete and practical. I'm endlessly curious, a big-picture thinker, and love science, empiricism and win-win solutions. My adult careers--landscaping, horticulture and farming have centered around a love for plants, and being oudoors. I majored in History/Gov. and English once upon a time; I don't argue politics so much these days, but good writing still stirs my blood! I know my way around the Oregon wine scene, miss the Austin music scene and love working on houses (as in framing walls, not choosing paint swatches!): current project, a 1915 farmhouse. The gym keeps me sane in the rainy months.

I could say I'm honest, hard-working, laid-back, and plenty of other things many good, a few less than perfect. How bout we grab a drink, and you can draw your own conclusions?
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
Making perfect ice-cubes.

I also manage a nursery and own a farm.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Growing things.
Working with my hands.
Petting dogs.
Finish carpentry.
Finishing people's drinks!
Losing myself in tasks.
Identifying plants.
Enjoying my mediocre skiing skills.
Sticking to my workouts.
Not sticking my tongue out unless I
Intend to use it...;-)
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
A mischievous smile apparently. Also I look a bit young for my age (I know, I know, don't we all...): Anyway, I like to pretend it's true in my case since I had to put up with looking like Harry Potter in my 20's and getting "carded" into my 30's...
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Recent reads: "Woodlanders", "Jitterbug Perfume", "2312", "The Windup Girl", "Wolf Hall", "Bringing Up the Bodies" "The Anubis Gates", "Sex At Dawn".

Writers: Ursula LeGuin, Thomas Hardy, George Martin, W.B.Yeats, Neil Gaiman, Sean Stewart, Gary Snyder

Music: I've never been musically "cool": Thrash, Hip Hop, ballads, Latin beats, trashy dance pop, country, blues or sea shanties--I dig it all!

TV: Seemingly unlike most Portlanders, I do own and watch a television: All the great HBO series, past and present, Masterpiece/Mystery/Brit-coms, and silly sitcoms generally.

Movies: The Lion in Winter, Blade Runner, Love and Death, Wings of Desire, Passion Fish, anything by Wes Anderson, John Sayles, and Almodovar...
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Oxygen, food, water, gravity, atmospheric pressures within the range...(I wonder what percentage of people at least begin typing the smartass response?)

Meaningful Work
Smokin sex
Good Soil
Great coffee
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
How to keep a business that's been entrusted to me in good shape, and my employees happy.

How to find the balance between obligations/long-term plans and the satisfaction that comes from being present in the moment.

How beautiful, interesting and sexy people are...
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
...going to bed tired after working, planting, cleaning, etc.

...laughing over a few too many beers with friends old and new.

...watching a movie, tv or reading a book.

...having a nice meal/drinking good wine.

...wandering (with my partner of 25 years, and probably our dog) around some place we're visiting, or bedding down for the night under the biggest tree we can find.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
Good God people, at least admit that you wear Bugs Bunny pajamas, or eat meat once a year!

I once took pictures of my feet for a guy I chatted with online--it didn't take much effort on my behalf, and it made him very happy...
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.
You have a good heart, are interesting, smart, sexy, witty, funny, & fun!

Dating and snogging a chill, good natured, reliable guy (who isn't going to be "THE ONE") sounds potentially pleasant, not like some sort of epic self-betrayal--cuz really, who wants to be part of that?!

Headless bathroom torso selfies and douche-y come-ons available by request;-)