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I’m looking for

  • Women
  • Ages 38–48
  • Near me
  • For long-term dating, short-term dating

My details

Last online
Yesterday – 9:16pm
5′ 11″ (1.80m)
Body type
Mostly anything
Graduated from masters program
Science / Engineering
Mostly monogamous
Has kids, but doesn’t want more
My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
Written in three different styles...

[1. Bon mot Version]

I have:
A sane mind that's crazy for living.
A resilient self that knows when to go to pieces.
A toned body that might be key to playing your tune.

I am:
...mild-mannered with a severe wit.
...a mister, not a hipster--but might try to kiss her.
...honest, even if this sentence is a lie.

I like to:
...connect by unplugging
...dress up, when everyone is dressing down.
...strike a chord, since I can't belt a tune.
...devour books, but save an appetite for you.

I believe that:
...Swearing is bad. And just won't give a f&ck about someone who does.
...Talk is cheap. Listening is priceless.
...It's not about the bucket list. It's about who will grab the pail when it's time to put out the fire.

[2. Cliche-rich version]

"Works hard, plays hard" "I'm new to this" "Looking for my partner in crime" "Laid back" "Loves to laugh" "Likes to travel" "Down to earth" "Let's hang out" ... Did I leave anything out? Oh yeah: "Hi".

[3. Traditional version]

I'm a fifth generation Californian, go way back--an earthquake nearly took out this guy (true story). I do know this state quite well and its storied (ongoing) history of dreamers, rebels, and iconoclasts. And if you ever call it Cali, Frisco, or 'San Fran', my eyes are liable to roll out of my head while I herd your *ss out the door!

I might like "long walks on the beach"...if it's after doing some ocean boarding off Pacifica or Monterey. If you cycle, well alright, you're getting warm. If you like to walk / hike and discover unfamiliar places--local and afar--then you could be getting 'hot', triple entendre mildly intended.

I like to think I'm a man of some refinement, a man who'll cop the lamest excuse to dress with a little style. Not into "Dad jeans" (and now, dad-bod?), t-shirts, ill-fitting clothes, poorly paired colors -- this will not change.

I tend to be stable, a mild-mannered type (soft-spoken, yep), yet know when to veer off the rails a bit, and still arrive safe but charged from our little adventure. I am grateful for the good fortune, health, and experiences in my life, and the means and time to pursue my interests. Like an interesting gal...

Not looking for a 'clone' of my tastes & interests either--challenge is good. I do read the profiles, after ogling your pics.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
I work for a well known sound technology company, on the business side helping people work smarter by designing visual representations of data. With the financial security I've built for myself, I feel free to focus on various outside passions and interests, near and far. Maybe you.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Putting myself together -- clothes, shoes, a suit. This I enjoy--sometimes a tad eccentric about it.
Word play -- OKC questions are fun...
Leading local urban history & geography walks. A minor passion of mine.

And I do like to cook. "I have an idea for making dinner tonight..." So just relax. But don't forget to kiss the cook.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
Not that I really care. Well, I do know quite a bit about local history and geography. Occasionally boastful about it--but avoids "man-splaining".
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
Paradox of Choice (...okc being exhibit A), Cool Gray City of Love, The Complete Sherlock Holmes, James Thurber: Writings & Drawings, Flim Flam!, Freakonomics, The Tempest, Guns, Germs & Steel, The Hidden Reality, Spycraft: The Secret History of the CIA's spytech's, The Age of Wonder (good book), Devil in the White City, The Demon-Haunted World... What do you like to read?

Why don't we just plug our device playlists into my car stereo and get turned on by something new? Caution, any song of mine you hate will be in very high fidelity!

MOVIES: Bulworth, Wag the Dog, Woody Allen almost any release, La Dolce Vita, Bridesmaids, Back to School, Dr Strangelove, Beetlejuice, CitizenKane, Bowfinger... get the picture?

SHOWS: As in TV? Don't watch that anymore. If you do, have at it. I did watch Celebrity Rehab awhile back just for the meltdowns.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Health, Books, Curiosity, my "Police" Car, Investments, Being alone sometimes. Two great kids, now on their own.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Partying, doing serious drugs, pimping, watching trash TV, being a total ne'er-do-well...Silly snarking aside, I stay on the wholesome side of the house and uncork the little devil in me when called for.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
Eyeglasses on a lady are very sexy--the more bookish looking, and I may lose control. Keep them on, so I can take them off.
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.
You would agree that happiness can come from light-hearted moments as much as any grade A bucket list 'experience'. Hmmm, never been to Paris -- sounds nice.

You like to kiss. And dance -- even if everyone is watching.

You prefer we meet soon and engage our senses rather than idly construct idealizations built on abstract representations. In plain English, let's meet (and have a little fun). I actually like some text banter, but I prefer to see you soon.