not_mr_lif
42 Somerville, MA
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My self-summary
I'm far more interesting in person than I could ever make myself sound on this form.

I'm 41 going on 14. I'm a bit of a non-conformist, but am definitely capable of looking and acting the part if necessary. I'm an unabashed nerd who has a knack for explaining the complicated using a 5th grade vocabulary.

I'm a fan of all things with wheels.

I give good hugs and I'm loyal to a fault.

I have a Southern drawl that shows up only after a significant amount of red wine.

I'm a good host and an incredible cook.

Lately I've been on a quest for adventures, and an excuse to play with my camera.
What I’m doing with my life
Trying to stay out of trouble, and failing miserably. Learning to be a better cook. Food is so severely underrated by so many people...

Spending an ungodly amount of time realizing that there are parts of this country that I'd never have seen if it wasn't for my job, and buying tickets to the next one of those places. I'm down to one state and then I've done all 50.

I should probably add refusing to age gracefully to this list. Grace is better utilized on other things. Actually, I just refuse to age. I welcome gray hair when it decides to finally show up, but all that will change is how much respect people will give me for free.

Refusing to "act my age" and loving every minute of it. Someone has to be the fun uncle.. People tend to end up with strange looks on their faces when they find out may age. Whatever, I won the gene lottery.

Making sure this collection continues to grow:
https://500px.com/wunderdread/sets
I’m really good at
Cooking
Crosswords
Convincing people to live instead of just existing
Fixing tech
Causing trouble
Making people laugh
Listening
The first things people usually notice about me
My hair, followed by my eyes. If they hear me first, most definitely my laugh.

That my brain is cluttered with all sorts of things, and that I'm kinda smart.

That people I share zero genetics with call me "Uncle"

If they meet me for the first time while I'm over the stove, it is usually the smell of cooked food long before I'm noticed. (sigh)
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
I think I would overload this section if I got into specifics. I just finished reading "Dhalgren". "Star Wars" was the last movie I saw in the theater, and my NetFlix account would crack just about anyone up with its randomness. The Nth Power was the last band I saw live. I have DJ'ed in the past, and have more music around the house than a few record shops.

As far as food goes... I LOVE to cook and will eat just about anything with the exception of Mayonnaise. The spicier the better. Ghost Chilis are my new muse.

A NOLA native wept when she had my etouffee. Carnivores eat my veggie chili and come back for seconds. I got a finicky kid to eat her vegetables for the first time ever. Like I said, I like to cook.
The six things I could never do without
spices
music
hugs
my friends
food/beer/wine/whiskey
mental stimulus
I spend a lot of time thinking about
what I'm going to cook
what I'm currently listening to
where would be a good place for a weekend road trip
why running away and living in a hut in the woods is a bad idea
why people don't like being told the truth when it applies to them
what new thing I should try next
what cool thing I should go visit on my next business trip

Why people have these hard age limits that are beyond half your age plus seven. (I think that one is artificial as well, but I can't argue with the dataset)

If I should just lie about my age since it seems that all my matches are scared of anyone older than 39.

Why OkCupid won't let you include centenarians in your age range. They've seen both world wars and the entirety of the cold war. A hug would do them a world of good.

a few other things I'm not going to put out in public...
On a typical Friday night I am
Hoping my plane gets back to Boston in time for me to have a real night out. I usually spend my weeks in some far corner of the US making sure your health record isn't part of the next web breach, so that last plane home is always a gamble for me. If it is one of the rare weeks that I've actually been in town for the whole week, who knows. I like to get into more trouble than someone my age has been told they should (those people are fools).
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I've been dead before. If you want to know more, there has to be mutually enjoyed food, libations, or both between the two of us.
You should message me if
You've made it this far down the page. You use complete sentences instead of LOLspeak. You are a bit sarcastic, but not completely mean spirited. You have an artistic streak that could use a geek's grounding as balance.

You can point me in the direction of new things I need to read, view, eat, or just plain be present for. I can do the same for you, but I have a special appreciation for anything that I've missed along the way.

You like to cook, or you are willing to at least chop, peel, or "supervise" in the kitchen.

If you think you are more of a seat of your pants person than a meticulous planner, by all means write. Plans are good too, but I've found that at some point you just can't account for everything. This is your life, not a nuclear reactor. It is okay if a few things go wrong.
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