Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
An am neither a peacock, nor a wolf. I am not the kind of person
who goes out of my way to get people's attention and I am not a
person who doggedly pursues everything that catches my eye. As a
result, I am usually not on women's radar. But I do think that I'm
worth getting to know. Be it as friends or possibly something
I find that the single most important thing that interests me in a
person is the ability to have long, wide-ranging conversations. I
love talking to people who are interested in just about everything,
even though everything may not be an interest (if that makes
I am more of a thinker thank a doer.
I am an engineer both by my nature and by profession, and I love
letting my mind flow from topic to topic building fascinating webs
of ideas. Not in the ADD sense but rather simply in the sense of
letting thought wander like a leaf in the wind.
I am an introvert. Spending time with friends brings me joy, but
quiet is how I recharge.
When it comes to developing an interest in a woman, it takes time.
That interest forms as friendship and trust form. I've really never
had serious interest without the other two.
I have very little dating experience, so I'm really not sure
exactly what I'm looking for. I suppose at this point I'm mostly
hoping to find someone who likes to talk and cuddle. :-)
Guess that's it for now. We'll see what else I add...
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
Right now my life is pretty stable. Generally, I like this. I do
not do well with chaos. This is not to say I avoid all things new,
but I generally am not a seeker of adventure.
For me, short term planning is the coming year. Mid-term planning
is a few years out and long term planning is retirement. However,
all plans are transient. They can be discarded easily (well most of
them) if the mood strikes me.
I have a stable job, so my main goal at the moment is to pay off my
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
I have been told (and tend to agree) that I give really good hugs.
Most of the other things I consider myself to be really good at are
my professional skills.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
Frankly, I get the greatest enjoyment out of thought and
conversation. Books, movies, shows and and music are all just
passing entertainment for me; not a major source of pleasure in my
This past summer I read Susan Cain's Quiet about introverts. As an
introvert myself, it's nice to be reading something that shows the
strengths of this personality type, rather than just stigmatizing
them. I'm finding that the sociology / neuroscience section of a
book store has some really great stuff.
A lot of the music I like is actually older than I am. Beatles,
Simon and Garfunkel, Jethro Tull. Classical when I need to focus. A
couple current groups I like are Carbon Leaf, California Guitar
Trio and Johnny A.
As for food, I like what generally goes in the "comfort food"
category. Pasta, soups, shepherd's pie. Presentation or
sophistication matters little to me.
I live alone, so I'm used to eating the same thing many days in a
It may be because it happens infrequently, and is often by choice,
but I love to cook for friends and family. And there are some
things, that I can cook really quite well.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
A project. It doesn't really matter if I'm working on it, or even
if I ever finish it, but I need something that challenges me and
gives me something to learn from.
Quiet a lot of the time.
My car (I'm an hour from just about anything).
I almost always have my leatherman on my hip and a smaller one in
my pocket, but I certainly can do without them.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Life, The Universe and Everything. There are very few things that I
have no interest in whatsoever. Reality TV. There's one. :-)
Other than that, I love to think. My mind is the single greatest
asset I have or will ever have. My mind is a bizarre and wondrous
place. But in some ways, it works very differently from those of
most people. I have had to adapt to this, but I feel that it's only
made my mind more powerful. This is not ego. I am smart, but
certainly no super-genus. I just find it fascinating what the human
brain is capable of.
As I said above, I am shy. But if you give me the impression you
WANT to talk to me, I can talk for hours about almost anything. Go
ahead, try me. ;-D
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
This is all over the map; there is no typical. Sometimes I'll go
out dancing with friends. Sometimes I'll go out to dinner. On hot
summer days I'll probably break out my kayak. Often I just come
home to veg and let the week wash away.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
The butterflies I get in my stomach from serious excitement are
drunk, rowdy and generally not very pleasant. That doesn't mean
they're not worth dealing with from time to time though.
You should message me if
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You find any of what I have said intriguing. And don't mind someone
who rejects a handful of social and dating norms. (I'm talking
about male dating norms of confidence and pursuit, here. Not
something like bathing regularly.)
As I've said in a couple of places, very few things in life are as
fulfilling as a really good conversation. Why don't you take a
chance and start one with me.
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