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  • Ages 18-60
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Last online
Oct 2, 2013
5' 10" (1.78m)
Body Type
Atheism and it’s important
Has kid(s)
English (Fluently)
My self-summary
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I like to think of myself as an individual - I really don't like stereotypes. I share one or two interests in common with lots of friends, but rarely more. I have too many interests to concentrate on any one interest for long. They vary from listening to most types of music to reading to doing cryptic crosswords to researching my family history to playing 5-a-side football (soccer). I have a good sense of humour and I like making people laugh, but I'm lousy at telling jokes - I'm better at the plays on words and that sort of thing. I like going to Science Fiction conventions - the type that are run by fans for fans and involve authors and intelligent discussion about books. I'm too shy to meet strangers without a good excuse. I dislike dancing and most dance music.

I am light-hearted, different, and intellectual
What I’m doing with my life
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Too much time working (though not if you ask my colleagues:-) and not enough time indulging my hobbies.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Being me, listening, loving and other things as well that dodn't readily spring to mind.
The first things people usually notice about me
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Almost certainly my longer-than-average-for-a-43-year-old-man hair, and then my (northern UK) accent and, I'd hope, my intelligence and wit.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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(a) Little Big by John Crowley, Gormenghast by Mervyn Peake, Hyperion by Dan Simmons, The World According to Garp by John Irving, To Your Scattered Bodies Go by Philip Jose Farmer, The Magus by John Fowles, The Baroque Trilogy and Cryptonomicon by Neal Stephenson and Jonathan Strange & Mr Norrell by Susanna Clarke. I've a soft spot for Harlan Ellison stories as well. Authors I currently buy in hardback include John Crowley, John Irving, Guy Gavriel Kay, George RR Martin, Neal Stephenson and Dan Simmons. I mostly read SF & fantasy, although I hate to be pigeonholed and I read whatever I feel like at the time, whether it be Pratchett, Silverberg or Bronte.

(b) I'm not a big film watcher, maybe Close Encounters of the 3rd Kind, Life of Brian, Excalibur, Lord of the Rings and Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind. I prefer quality TV (e.g. Babylon 5, Buffy, West Wing, Reggie Perrin, Monty Python), although there's precious little good TV about.

(c) Queen and others stretching from the Beatles to Suzanne Vega via Steely Dan, Led Zeppelin and Travis. My iRiver has everything from Iron Maiden and Meatloaf via Avril Lavigne and the Kaiser Chiefs to Dvorak and Smetana and lots of odd tracks by artists (mostly 70s/80s pop) that I never liked anything else by. I tend to play stuff randomly - I love the contrast between different sorts of music - for example this morning I had Whole Lotta Rosie by AC/DC followed by Beethoven's Pastoral Symphony followed by Flash by Queen :-) The last few concerts I went to were Al Stewart, Travis, Steve Hackett, UFO and Queen+Paul Rodgers - and a family classical concert at the Southbank - about as different as you can get.

(d) I love duck and orange, crispy duck with pancakes, indeed duck and anything! I'm also partial to really good chocolate, nicely fried bacon and quality steak, not to mention roast lamb :-).
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Books, music, my IRiver music player, crosswords, broadband and books.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Why many cyclists cycle on the pavement, endangering pedestrians and why many smokers don't seem to care if their smoke blows in someone else's face.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Watching TV or playing on the computer with my wife
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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I'm married; I'm looking for a chat, friendship and nothing else!
You should message me if
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You're female, you have a high match/friend rating and you fancy a chat. Or, if you're a Newcastle United fan and want someone to moan to about the latest debacle at the club, I'm your man!