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notkjaer

36 M Seattle, WA

My Details

Last Online
Apr 6
Orientation
Straight
Ethnicity
White
Height
5′ 10″ (1.78m)
Body Type
Diet
Strictly anything
Smokes
No
Drinks
Not at all
Drugs
Never
Religion
Agnosticism, but not too serious about it
Sign
Taurus, but it doesn’t matter
Education
Dropped out of university
Job
Science / Engineering
Income
Rather not say
Relationship Status
Single
Relationship Type
Offspring
Doesn’t have kids, but wants them
Pets
Likes dogs and likes cats
Speaks
English (Fluently), German (Okay), Danish (Okay), LISP (Poorly)

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My self-summary
Straight up the middle of the Egon Spengler / Chris Knight nerd axis. A bit scruffy around the edges, a good-natured goof. Prone to become interested in too many things at once.
What I’m doing with my life
Doggedly pursuing the art of being an adult. It's not like I imagined it would be when I was a kid; it's beautiful and maddening and intense and boring and difficult and totally worth it. Going to bed on time and not blowing my entire allowance on M&Ms is still tough; on the other hand I never thought I'd come to enjoy eating brussels sprouts or cleaning the shower.

So far adulthood has included a pretty successful grown-up style job in IT, a transition from assorted band geekery to professional sports entertainment, a keen interest in cooking, the odd road trip or extended overseas holiday, and the slow accretion of an admittedly over-ambitious collection of technology artifacts. Serious possibilities for near-future chapters could include trumpet or guitar lessons, circus school, or learning the basics of skateboarding; more distantly, developing some ideas for a science-related educational TV production. Less serious possibilities include rally driving classes and reincarnating as a muppet.
I’m really good at
Keeping clam.
The first things people usually notice about me
Two possibilities come to mind:

1. "Hey, man, I love your hat!"

...or, if I happen to be on the unicycle,
2. "Look, mom! Just like Spongebob!"
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Tears for Fears, Crowded House, The Cure, Claude Debussy, Gloria Estefan, Einstürzende Neubauten, Bruce Hornsby, Enigma, Happoradio, Etta James, Jelly Roll Morton, PM Dawn, Arvo Pärt, Uncle Bonsai, Carbon Based Lifeforms, trip-hop, bhangra... the list goes on. My iTunes library has been compared on occasion to the Hindenburg disaster.

I'm not sure I want to talk about my favorite movies. Some of them are real stinkers (Hackers); some of them make me inappropriately emotional (Toys, Speed Racer); some of them make me appropriately emotional but are embarrassing for other reasons (La Vita è Bella); some of them are hard to watch (Lola Rennt); some just seem hopelessly clichéd (everything I needed to know about life I learned by watching Ferris Bueller's Day Off). One in particular broke my preadolescent brain forever (Teenage Mutant Ninja Turtles).

On further reflection, however: Salmer fra kjøkkenet is exquisite. So is The Breakfast Club. I had a strong (but appropriate) emotional reaction to Where the Wild Things Are and had to watch it a few more times to really understand why. I adored The Addams Family and am totally over being embarrassed about it.

Stephen Chiau makes me laugh my ass off. I could watch Buster Keaton all day, though I find Harold Lloyd to be the more comic.

Books:

Of the books I've read most recently, Neal Stephenson's Anathem was by whole light-years the most engrossing; in fact, the first thing I did after finishing it was read it again. At the other end of the spectrum, The Girl With the Dragon Tattoo was so poorly written that, whatever its other merits, I had to consciously resist the urge to wreak physical violence upon the book itself.

There are other books I keep coming back to... they're like comfort food in a library binding. The Forgetting Room (Nick Bantock), Smilla's Sense of Snow (Peter Høeg), Microserfs (Douglas Coupland), The Fourth Bear (Jasper Fforde). I can already tell that Anathem will join this list.

Reading Edward Gorey is probably as close as I will ever get to the experience of taking LSD.

Food:

I cannot abide squash. It is the only vegetable I never outgrew disliking. Otherwise: equal opportunity omnivore. I'm a pretty good sport about trying new things, and recently discovered the joys of fried pickles. Though, I probably would not choose to eat sea urchin again.

If you'll indulge me the editorializing, thank God I'm not expected to say anything about TV. In the last ten years I think I've appeared on TV more frequently than I've watched it, and I'm happy to keep it that way.
The six things I could never do without
1. Personal responsibility.
2. Taking action.
3. Indiscriminate kindness.
4. Bread.
5. A shyness that is criminally vulgar.
6.02 x 10^23.

By doing things, things get done.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
How to build and effectively maintain communities: why they flourish, why they fail, how to encourage the former and frustrate the latter.

The profligate misapplication of technology. (Alan Kay described this as "re-inventing the flat tire.")

The ultimate nature of heroism.

The tiny things that are easily overlooked but which matter most in the end.

How to overcome the inevitable paralyzing terror that strikes every time I try to learn how to skate down stairs or grind rails.
On a typical Friday night I am
playing cards with friends, at a hockey game, hopelessly absorbed in the infinite wilderness of one project or another, catching up on chores...

"I figured out that the non-event is the best part of life."
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
Sometimes, I turn on a movie I've already seen a hundred times and ignore it, just so my apartment doesn't feel quite so empty.
I’m looking for
  • Straight girls only
  • Ages 30–35
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating
You should message me if
Lower the stakes! Start by saying, "hello."