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notraylewis

62 M Annapolis, MD

My Details

Last Online
Feb 4
Orientation
Straight
Ethnicity
White
Height
6′ 0″ (1.83m)
Body Type
Fit
Diet
Mostly other
Smokes
No
Drinks
Socially
Drugs
Never
Religion
Sign
Education
Graduated from university
Job
Art / Music / Writing
Income
Rather not say
Relationship Status
Single
Relationship Type
Offspring
Has kids
Pets
Speaks
English (Fluently)

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My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
Yes, I hear you. Obviously, there's a reason. I'll explain below.
But first, I came across this the other day. Because I like it, this feels like something I ought to share here. From John Steinbeck's response to his son, who had written to tell his mom and dad that he'd fallen in love:
"There are several kinds of love. One is a selfish, mean, grasping, egotistical thing which uses love for self-importance. This is the ugly and crippling kind. The other is an outpouring of everything good in you -- of kindness and consideration and respect -- not only the social respect of manners but the greater respect which is recognition of another person as unique and valuable. The first kind can make you sick and small and weak but the second can release in you strength, and courage and goodness and even wisdom you didn't know you had."
That's good stuff, but he stopped too soon. At its very best, love is a partnership in which all things feel possible, where the strength, courage, goodness and wisdom multiply by magic math to a power greater than just that of two individuals.
I'll risk sounding like some sort of Jimmy Stewart Hollywood pollyanna to say, yeah, I believe in stuff like that. And I've lived it, and it's been good.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
The same thing you are: multi-tasking. Right now my life is overflowing the good things, all of which I love doing. But I've realized it's time to scale back so that I can savor the best of it.
This is probably as good a place as any to explain my feet. Yes, those are my feet in the photo. And you probably were put off by such an unrevealing picture. About all you can take from it is that, yes, I have been known to run.
I apologize. I have one of those jobs. It's anything but sexy. I'm not a spy, or a celebrity, or a politician, or an FBI agent. I'm not Ray Lewis and I'm not paranoid! I'm not a name you or anybody else much would know. But I have a job that once in a while inspires mean spirited strangers to dig around for dirt they think they can use to discredit me. I've answered a lot of OkCupid questions -- it was fun, some were silly, others provoked introspection -- very candidly, and in ways that could be abused by irate folks I encounter professionally. With you, dear stranger, I share my secrets. But not with them.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
modesty.
But I have good veins.
There are several simple truths of summer. One is that any man who wears a short-sleeved dress shirt and a tie is a dork. Reach for that pocket protector, hoist your beltline above your navel and smother yourself in eau de Bug Spray. Call a hot dog a "weenie" because you are one.
Men who live in Bermuda, who wear a short-sleeved shirt and tie along with Bermuda shorts, calf-length black socks and seersucker sport coats are exempt from this otherwise blanket condemnation. They are just peculiar in the same manner that so many of the Queen’s loyal subjects are a bit weird.
No, in the summertime a real man saddled with the burden of employment wears a long-sleeved shirt. He may loosen the tie before noon, that’s okay, and rolling up sleeves looks manly.
Not since I wore my cousin Tommy’s hand-me-downs in high school have I owned a short-sleeved dress shirt.
And that may have been my problem.
You see, I have good veins. In fact, they are extraordinary.
During my recent prolonged holiday in the hospital a cheery nurse showed up every two hours to jab my arm with a needle and draw blood. Nurses came around the clock, and with each shift change a new happy face would appear to exclaim, "You have great veins!"
As I headed for surgery one day the pre-op nurse was so delighted that I confessed that she wasn’t the first nurse to make the observation.
And she responded that whenever the OR girls went out for a night on the town the first thing they noticed in a man was the quality of his veins.
"Ask any nurse who draws a lot of blood," she said. "We’d never date a guy with bad veins."
If only I had known.
Early in my career I was blessed with a job that required my attendance from 11 p.m. until 7 a.m. I was single and living in Philadelphia at the time, and working that shift did ugly things to my social life that no one else ever seemed to appreciate.
You know what they all said?
"Well, working those hours you must meet a lot of nurses!"
Yeah, right. Where do you meet a nurse -- or anyone else who wants to hoist a libation -- at 7 o’clock on a weekday morning?
Desperation set in, so I began to do a little research in those wee hours when things tended to get a little slow at work. First, I learned that the law actually allowed bars to open at 7 a.m. Then I figured that if any did they would corner bars close to factories that had overnight shifts. Next, I hunted for a hospital located in neighborhood where there were a lot of factories.
Bingo.
At 7:30 the next morning I walked into a passion pit crammed with factory workers and nurses -- lots of nurses. The joint reeked of romance and I watched moral restraint drown in a sea of cheap beer. Droves of people who arrived as ones departed in twos. Some may have been headed for the altar, but many seemed willing to skip over that detail.
Amid this frenzy of mating I was spectacularly unsuccessful.
Nary a nurse looked my way.
I finally left, alone, downhearted and mystified.
Now I know why.
I should have rolled up my sleeves.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
Perhaps, that I look them in the eye? In overcoming near terminal childhood shyness I think I may have shed an awkward self-awareness about how others perceive me. Don't mistake that for a lack of awareness. I pay attention. I notice things. But as I became comfortable with myself I probably stopped projecting a self image and matured into who I've been for the last 20 or 30 years. Although I'm sure that people who know me professionally have a different perception than do friends who know me well, in both cases, what you see is what you get. Each of us onions has layers, but you don't have to peel many to reach my core.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
My left handed bowling ball, a good marmalade knife, fresh myrrh, extra virgin axle grease, sturdy bowyangs and an ecdysiast. Although, come to think of it, I have done without most things at some time or other, so water and a bite to eat probably are the only things that I really could never do with out. The rest are luxuries.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
A while back I met a traveling salesman in the bar of the Holiday Inn in Oak Ridge, Tennessee. We got to talking about women and how life on the road made meaninful relationships pretty darned difficult. He told me that when he was away from home he'd found the best place to pick up women was in the supermarket. He said he'd spot a likely candidate and then jump a couple of aisles ahead so that when she came upon him he was looking at something like a can of cling peaches. And he'd ask some sort of dumb question like "How many peaches are in a can this size?" If he got a friendly answer he'd explain that he'd been on the road for weeks and was sick of restaurant food, so he was going to try to make a meal for himself in his hotel room. He said that almost always got him an invitation to a home-cooked meal, and that with stunning consistency, that lead to an invitation to something more intimate than fried chicken. He said, "The church ladies were the best."
So, what I'm thinking -- although I'm not spending a lot of time thinking about it -- is that if it's okay for people to meet in supermarkets and it's terribly common for people to meet in bars, why is it that so many people get all skittish and bashful about meeting people on line? Is it any more awkward than standing in a noisy bar fishing to make small talk with a stranger? And if it's not, then why did a good friend of mine lower his voice the other night to confide, "We found each other on EHarmony?"
Feel free to try the supermarket gambit. It didn't work for me. Nobody knows how many peaches are in that damned can.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Life is a circus, so I might be juggling flaming batons, or holding off growling tigers with a rickity chair, or walking the tightrope with a lady in sequins balanced on my shoulders, or tumbling from an impossibly small car full of clowns. Never forget, the show must go on, so you just gotta roll with the ringmaster's orders.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
That a beauty queen who had been crowned about two hours earlier and was still wearing her tiara and gown invited me alone into her bedroom because she "needed help unzipping" and once we got there I was too stupid to deliver the help she actually was after. (I was a junior in college. I'm slightly smarter now.)
I’m looking for
  • Girls who like guys
  • Ages 40–60
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating
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You can tickle the twine from mid-court or ...
the spirit moves you.