“Well, it turns out we don’t know much about notverynice. They haven’t completed a single profile essay. Tsk Tsk.”

— Staff Robot

Lies.

First, I'll get this out of the way, even though I already posted in my journal about it. I live in Pittsburgh right now, but I may be moving to Ontario at some point in the future. My partner, Jordan, lives in Brooklin, ON, and we visit eachother fairly regularly.

I'm not exclusively gay. I used to identify as pansexual (which still half-describes me). After realizing new dimensions to my orientation that take too long to explain to people, I often use the term queer now. I am romantically and aesthetically attracted to all genders, but I tend to prefer non-male-identified people. That's all you need to know for now.

I'm also polyamorous, and I'm looking for FAAB people (female assigned at birth) or trans* people of any gender. You would not need to be involved with my partner, and it's not just for sex (unless that's what works best, although I've never had that kind of a casual lover, and I'm unsure if it would make sense, but I'd be willing to try). However, be prepared to prove that you are a real person and not some creepy dude, since I've had some bad experiences with that. (But if your profile isn't too vague, and you seem willing to meet/talk on the phone/go on cam/etc., this shouldn't be a problem.)

I've changed my ethnicity setting to "undeclared" because I'm not interested in racist assholes who filter out people of color on searches. I am white, however.

I'm not female. I'm a genderqueer. Click if you don't know what that means. I prefer they/their for pronouns, but I won't kill you if you slip up occasionally (even though it's disappointing).

I'm also an anarchist, anti-capitalist, atheist, vegan, anti-war, anti-racist, feminist, pro-choice, queer-positive (obviously), wannabe environmentalist. If you strongly disagree with any of the above, we probably won't get along. Since moving to Pittsburgh, I've been involved in various radical organizing. You don't need to know the specifics unless I know you well and/or trust you.

I'm an INFP, and probably a very obvious one.

Clearly, some people don't read the "details" on the right side of the page. Then they're all surprised and disappointed when they find out that I use drugs sometimes, and it turns into an awkward conversation/argument. So if you're against drugs or uncomfortable with drug use at all, you probably shouldn't message me.

Weed and shrooms are my drugs of choice (I drink once in a great while). I only get high once a month (at the very maximum), and am not addicted in the least. But I guess that's a problem for some people. Despite this, several of my exes did not use drugs and rarely or never drank alcohol. I respect straight edge people, sober people, and non-users, as long as they respect me. I think I would actually prefer them to regular drug users and drinkers who party a lot. I couldn't keep up with them, nor would I want to.

I'm a considerably creative person. I write lyrics and poems, play guitar (albeit badly), sing (decently), deconstruct and reconstruct clothing (without sewing), draw, paint, and do graphic design for fun. Oh, and I've been attempting photography recently. But music and writing are the most fun to me, and in my opinion, I'm better at them. I sing and write a lot more often than any of the other things listed.

When I get good enough, I want to make a living by being in a punk band. But now that I'm at an age where I'm actually able to realize this dream, I'm less confident about my abilities. I don't know. Maybe I should just practice more.

I have a weird sense of humor. The profile I had up before was extremely sarcastic. I thought it was pretty funny, but I took it down because I think it was turning off the kind of people I want to talk to. If you're curious, I posted it in my journal. Also, some of the things on my current profile were either taken straight off of that profile or my old "serious profile" that I posted in my journal a long time ago.

About two years ago, I moved here on a whim (somewhat) from North Dakota, which was the most hellish place imaginable. Pittsburgh rules so far.

Other than that, I'm pretty much online all day. I'm planning to install Linux at some point, but I keep procrastinating.

I also listen to music a lot, and I check out new bands/artists as much as possible. I go to shows sometimes, too.

Organizing and direct action, as mentioned above.

I have a cat named Blaize. He's polydactyl. I'm obsessed with him. He's obsessed with straws.

I was diagnosed with ulcerative colitis last year. I've been in remission since sometime last summer. Hopefully, it will stay that way.

I got my GED a while ago, so I'm out of school. I don't really want to go to college, but I might have to if there is no other way to move to Canada. I would have majored in music, but that looks way too fucking hard, and you have to audition to get the major. I don't think I would be good enough to get in. So if I do end up going to college, I'll probably major in something like anthropology, sociology, women's studies, queer theory, etc. But college is basically just an excuse to waste money so you can earn more money later (and be in debt for a lifetime). If I really wanted to learn something, I'd teach myself.

Spelling and grammar, writing, singing, non-oppressive language, Scrabble, being vague, not making sense, and sleeping for extended periods of time.

Also, randomly asking unanswerable, ridiculous questions like "Why is it called 'small talk'? Is any talk that isn't small talk considered 'big talk'? Or perhaps 'medium talk'?"

My piercings, and that I'm shy and/or quiet. My clothes rule, and sometimes my hair is pretty awesome, too.

People seem to think I don't smile much, or that I look sad. I don't know what that's all about.

Everyone says this, but my eyes. They're hazel. Sometimes people ask me if I'm wearing contacts, which is awkward, because I do wear contacts, but they're clear prescription contacts. So yeah, this is my real eye color.

I look like I'm anywhere from 15 to 19. I guess it's my skinny and short persuasion.

Last, but not least, my gender non-conformity. But for some reason, most people still think I'm a girl.

Books:

Living My Life by Emma Goldman, Life of an Anarchist (an Alexander Berkman reader), Cunt by Inga Muscio, Vegan: The New Ethics of Eating by Erik Marcus, Bisexual's Guide To The Universe, and so on. I also read some manga---particularly Junko Mizuno. Dystopian fiction such as 1984 is good, but I normally read non-fiction.

TV:

I don't watch it. I will not get any of your references, unless you happen to be cool and rare enough to be a fan of Space Ghost: Coast To Coast. I have all the DVD box sets. But otherwise, fuck TV.

Movies:

Horror, B-movies, Tank Girl, The Royal Tenenbaums, Evil Dead trilogy, Calamity Jane, Office Killer, Delicatessen, Donnie Darko, White Oleander, A Clockwork Orange, But I'm a Cheerleader, The Devil's Backbone, The Maxx, Psychedelic Glue Sniffing Hillbillies, and almost anything Tim Burton. This includes Mars Attacks.

Music:

Last.fm profile: http://last.fm/user/anarchoqueer

Since most people are too lazy to look, I'll list some bands.

Dead Kennedys, Propagandhi, At The Drive-In, Bad Brains, Misfits (old), Sleater-Kinney, The Locust, Subhumans, Crass, Bikini Kill, NoMeansNo, Melt-Banana, Jucifer, boysetsfire, Submission Hold, Naked Aggression, The Cramps, Minor Threat, Man Is The Bastard, X-Ray Spex, Le Tigre, The Gossip, No Knife, Team Dresch, Discharge, The Mars Volta, Bad Religion (old), Olias Fall, Nirvana, Beck, Choking Victim, and so on.

I had to stop myself from making a huge(r) list that no one will read. There are many bands sorely missing here, but I listed the majority of the artists in my Last.fm top 50.

Food:

Vegan stuff, if you hadn't already guessed that from my listing "Vegan" as one of my favorite books. I eat freegan every once in a while, but usually just baked goods and stuff. I couldn't eat anything meaty or cheesy.

Also, pizza. I'm a relentless conformist.

Italian food is generally good, as is Thai, Chinese, and Indian (from what I've had, which isn't authentic, of course).

I like spicy food, as long as it's not so spicy that I look like a cartoon character while eating it. I use tons of seasoning, and sometimes unhealthy amounts of salt, depending on the food. I also like sweet food, but not enough to eat it very often.

It's easier to list what I don't like. Coleslaw, mustard, ketchup, mayonnaise, salad dressing (especially ranch), raisins, nuts, etc. And even though I'm vegan and it's irrelevant now, I really hate honey, ham, bologna, Canadian bacon, regular bacon, sausage, bratwurst, fish, and certain kinds of cheese. I guess it's not completely irrelevant, though, because I wouldn't eat vegan substitutes of those things.

Music, love (in all its forms), cats, my senses, my creativity, and the constant possibility/probability of a revolution.

I could probably do without my senses. I just wouldn't want to. Most of my favorite things in life involve the senses. I hope this isn't ableist (if so, please feel free to call me out).

My partner. He rocks my socks.

Some slightly more bleak and serious subjects, as well. Pretty much anything related to oppression, social justice, anarchism, etc.

I also think about my life---what I'm going to do with it and how I'm going to do it. I have the former mostly figured out, but the latter is harder.

Probably online, assuming I'm at home and not in Canada. Even then, I usually am online. I'm pretty boring.

I might also be at a show or a demonstration, but they're not always on Friday nights. Every day is a Friday for me, anyway, since I don't work or go to school at the moment.

I'm bipolar, and I have a lot of emotional baggage leftover from my childhood and teen years.

I am somewhere on the autism spectrum. Most likely Asperger's Syndrome or PDD-NOS. I also probably have OCPD (not OCD), but I haven't been diagnosed yet. I am in the process of trying to get diagnosed with both of these things, and it will probably take a while.

I talk about this openly with most people who aren't assholes, but people tend to consider it "private", so I guess I'll put it here.

You're not a cisgender guy, unless you just want to be friends.

OR

If you've actually bothered to read this far, and you have a lot in common with me. If you either have good grammar and spelling or can handle---or appreciate---being corrected (this is compulsive on my part). If you can easily pick up gender-neutral pronouns and use them consistently. If you are uncomfortable around people who use any kind of oppressive language and want to work on your own and learn new ways of talking and writing.

Also, it's pretty much a dealbreaker if you have any material things listed in "The six things I could never do without". I won't say always, but it's usually a good sign that we have little in common and have completely different values.