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My self-summary
I just want someone who'd enjoy improvisational theatre and Settlers of Catan, but all these girls' dating profiles say they "hate drama" and "don't play games".

I grew up in Australia, and moved to the Bay Area relatively recently.

I'm polyamorous and dating several people whom I love.

I'm a member of Giving What We Can.

I write songs. Here's one about feminism, pick up artists, and compromise:
What I’m doing with my life
I love my job--I'm the first (and currently only) employee at a startup, where I spend a lot of time conducting technical interviews, and I spend a lot of the rest of my time thinking about how we can make better technical interviews.
I’m really good at
Writing songs which make people gasp and smile. Keeping the attention of large crowds. Taking crazy ideas seriously.

I think I do a reasonably good job of juggling a pretty busy life.
The first things people usually notice about me
My height and the color of my hair. In California, my Australian accent.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Music: I listen to a shitton of music from a wide variety of genres. Here's a selection of stuff I've been enjoying recently: the soundtrack of Hamilton, Ball Park Music, Streetlight Manifesto, Sturgill Simpson, The Smith Street Band, Penguin Prison, Dear and the Headlights, Courtney Barnett, Cake, World/Inferno Friendship Society, Chromeo, Fun Machine, of Montreal.

Novels: The Unbearable Lightness of Being, Kurt Vonnegut, Tom Robbins

TV Shows: I enjoyed Avatar: the Last Airbender and Firefly. I'm slowly working my way through Buffy now, and enjoying it quite a bit.

Blogs: Slate Star Codex, LessWrong (back in the old days)

Food: I'm fairly easy to please (uh, except for being vegan). My favorite Bay Area restaurant is probably Gracias Madre.
The six things I could never do without
I have a lot of fairly unusual beliefs. I would be very lonely if I didn't know anyone who cared about similar things to me. Luckily, I am in a great community of people who care about similar things to me. It would be hard to go without them.

I just spent a week staying with a girlfriend in a house which didn't have any musical instruments, and I got really antsy from not being able to play music properly. So musical instruments are another thing.

I really do love programming. I would be very sad to live without the opportunity to think about computer science and all the beautiful areas of math connected to it.

Over the last year, I've become accustomed to sleeping in very dark rooms, and now I have trouble sleeping in bright rooms. So, curtains.

I really like spending time on romantic relationships. I would not enjoy being single.

I could live without it, but I really do love public transport. Cars are unpleasant and scary. I grew up in Townsville, Australia, where the public transport is quite bad, so the Bay Area feels like public transport heaven to me.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Hamilton (the musical). Global catastrophic risks. Factory farming.

And, for professional reasons, how to write truly exceptional multiple choice tests.
On a typical Friday night I am
Usually spending the evening with a girl I am dating.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
Someone once published an article about me which claimed that my "criticism of her views on metaethics" was a pick-up-artist-inspired seduction tactic. If PUAs actually encouraged discussion of metaethics, I'd be much more on board with the movement.
You should message me if
you want to talk to me, play music with me, or date me.