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I’m looking for

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  • Ages 18–29
  • Near me
  • For long-term dating, short-term dating

My details

Last online
Jul 27
6′ 2″ (1.88m)
Body Type
Strictly vegan
Not at all
Atheism, and somewhat serious about it
Working on university
Open relationship
Strictly non-monogamous
Doesn’t have kids, and doesn’t want any
Likes dogs and likes cats
My self-summary
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I just want someone who'd enjoy improvisational theatre and Settlers of Catan, but all these girls' dating profiles say they "hate drama" and "don't play games".

I grew up in Australia, and moved to the Bay Area relatively recently.

I'm involved in the Effective Altruism movement. I live in a tiny room so that I can donate more to charity. If that seems dumb, we probably shouldn't date. (Unless you think it seems dumb because you think that I could do more good by spending more money on my living situation so that I can spend more time doing valuable things like doing more programming and networking, in which case we probably should.)

I write songs. Here's one about feminism, pick up artists, and compromise:

To quote a now-deleted OkCupid profile, my poly dance card is mostly full at the moment. I have a fiancee and two girlfriends so lovely that I almost always would rather spend marginal romantic time with them. So I don't message people here anymore. Feel free to message me though.

If you're connected to the local music scene, please message me! I really want to start a new band and start seeing good local bands. If you convince me to go to a really good local show which I wouldn't have heard of otherwise, I'll buy your ticket for you. (This doesn't have to be connected to dating me: everyone is eligible for this!)
What I’m doing with my life
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Writing Scala. Writing music. Learning about interesting things. Spending time with interesting people.
I’m really good at
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Writing songs which make people gasp and smile. Keeping the attention of large crowds. Taking crazy ideas seriously.
The first things people usually notice about me
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Andrew Denton walked up to me and said, and I quote, "You have a lovely face. I really liked seeing it on stage," and walked away again. So there's at least one data point for that.

(americans, you might have to google that one)

Apart from that, probably that I dress colorfully.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Music: Ball Park Music, Streetlight Manifesto, Penguin Prison, San Fermin, Dear and the Headlights , Courtney Barnett, Cake, World/Inferno Friendship Society, Chromeo, Fun Machine

Books: The Unbearable Lightness of Being, everything by Kurt Vonnegut, Goedel, Escher, Bach, Tanembaum's Structured Computer Organization. Honestly, I haven't been that into reading books over the last few years.

TV Shows: I just finished watching Avatar: The Last Airbender, and it was amazing. That's probably my favorite TV show, out of the relatively few I've seen. I also liked Firefly.

Blogs: Slate Star Codex, LessWrong (back in the old days), Overcoming Bias

Food: I'm fairly easy to please. My favorite restaurant meal in the Bay Area is probably an Indian wrap and blueberry shake at Herbivore. I'm the kind of person who doesn't eat Soylent because it requires too much advance planning.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Intelligent friends who follow ideas to their natural conclusions. Life is pretty lame without a computer--it's how I talk with most of my friends, and it's how I do most of my work and hobbies, and it's where I consume most of my media. I can go without most other things.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Popular music and what makes it popular. Speciesism and how to combat it. User interfaces, and how to make better ones.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
I haven't settled into a routine here in America yet, so don't really have a typical Friday night. I used Google Location History to look at my last two months: I was at home for four Friday nights, at Stanford with friends on two, at Berkeley on one, and at a party in SF at one.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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Someone once published an article about me which claimed that my "criticism of her views on metaethics" was a pick-up-artist-inspired seduction tactic. If PUAs actually encouraged discussion of metaethics, I'd be much more on board with the movement. My song Jezebel was inspired by that story:
You should message me if
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you want to talk to me, play music with me, or date me.