Let’s see, a summary of my entire life in a paragraph or two. I
started off as a newspaper reporter, moved into radio talk show
nonsense, then taught second grade, then high school English, then
attended seminary and became a Baptist minister (while my parting
from the ministry was amicable, it’s also irreconcilable, as I am
now an agnostic/atheist) then became a school principal for 15
years while also directing and acting with a nationally-touring
improv group, then took time off to write three novels, then
supervised a passel of adult foster-care homes, then returned to
principalling, then started working with homeless veterans. This
last is current, and I am executive director of a
transitional-living home for formerly homeless veterans.
That paragraph is either agreeably impressive or evidence of a
misspent life. Or both.
What I’m doing with my life
Personally, I have been sober for more than five years, and my
continued sobriety continues to be a central goal. I’m more than
comfortable with social drinkers, but if you really value your two
or three glasses of wine at the end of the day you may want to
steer clear of me. I have three daughters, two of whom are on their
own (if college can be seen as independence rather than its
prevention). My youngest lives with her mom, but spends one night a
week and every other weekend with me. My divorce was years ago and
any wounds from it have long since healed or turned into scar
I play tennis two or three times a week—not well but with
pleasure—and walk my dog at least a few miles a day. I do like to
keep busy and am up for just about any physical activity.
I’m looking for a smart, funny, quirky woman who enjoys laughter,
literature and language.
I’m really good at
Writing--As a poet I'm a great essayist. As an essayist I'm a great
novelist. As a novelist I'm a great love note writer.
Cooking vegetables--cauliflower with anchovies and Brussels sprouts
with prosciutto are particular favorites.
Washing whites--clothes, not the race. I, of course, use bleach,
but always finish with bluing.
Improvising through life and making conversation with just about
anyone about just about anything. (Three uses of the word
The first things people usually notice about me
Not having the kind of matinee-idol good looks that turn women
dewy, I suspect people notice my ability to turn a phrase. While
riding a unicycle. With shirt aflame. Blindfolded.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Obvious books: Gatsby, most of Sinclair Lewis, George Orwell's
essays and other nonfiction, Joan Didion's essays.
Movies: Waking Life, Apocalypse Now, Reds, Life is Beautiful
Music: Tonio K., Lou Reed, Warren Zevon, Dar Williams, Ani
The six things I could never do without
1. The thought that life can be better
2. The possibility of true love
3. A specially-chosen roller-ball pen
4. Strong coffee
5. My personal sobriety
6. A well-pressured shower
I spend a lot of time thinking about
More of the future and less of the pasture.
On a typical Friday night I am
Going to a movie with friends, writing, reading. Anything but
watching television is a possibility.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I once belonged to Mensa during a younger and much more foolish
incarnation. Turns out I didn't meet the best and the brightest but
a bunch of folks who are really good at double acrostics.
You should message me if
You were even vaguely amused by this profile.