Its impossible to sum up who we are in a few sentences, but here
are a few anyway... I'm a pretty laid back person with a REALLY
silly sense of humor. I ride my bike pretty much everywhere, for as
long as i can- I stopped biking in the winter because Montreal
drivers are too dangerous!
My main interests are history, philosophy, theology (because so
many of humanity's actions are influenced by religion i feel its
important to understand it), photography and drawing.
My politics are very left-leaning.
As for my profile info, because okc is still very traditional, some
of it is not accurate. I identify as pansexual. I am aware many
think of this as elitist, but this is the term that would best
What I’m doing with my life
I work at a local direct trade coffee shop, and enjoy it very much.
I also play music in a few different projects and occasionally
I read a lot, fiction as well as non- fiction; I always have a book
I’m really good at
Making people laugh, which i think is a good thing considering the
state of the world...
I've also been told i make good mix tapes- yup, actual
I don't know how much one can put in this section without sounding
pretentious, so i'll leave it at that.
The first things people usually notice about me
My tattoos, my eyes (so I'm told), and the fact that I'm the person
serving them behind the counter.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Recently finished reading "Living in the end times" by Slavoj
Zizek. About to start "Whipping girl", by Julia Serano.
Favorite authors include Karen Armstrong, James Baldwin,
Dostoyesky, Ralph Ellison, Franz Kafka, and many, many
Music: Too many bands to name. Punk, post punk, electronic (cold
wave, industrial...), some synth pop and of course '80 music:)
The six things I could never do without
my primary partner
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Stuff for my musical projects (writing music).
The state of the world, my impact on it and how I can better
I try very hard to keep up with what happens in the world, to keep
myself well informed, and also not to get too discouraged by what
Harper is doing to the country, though i must say its not working
out so great these days!
On a typical Friday night I am
There is no typical Friday night. I may go to a show, dj (I have a
monthly night), stay home or have tea/ coffee with friends.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
i've been in an open marriage with my primary partner for over
twenty years and poly for 19 of those (so this is not a new thing).
I tend to prefer dating people who are poly or at the very least
know about the concept (of open relationships) and are open to
being in a non- traditional relationship.
Its not that private, but its also something i wont tell every
person i see on the street.
You should message me if
My definition of sex/ intimacy is very broad. The notion of sex
being only about missionary position penetration is something i do
NOT believe in. There are countless ways people can please/ be
intimate with each other, all valid if enjoyed by both.
Im here in the hope of finding like- minded people with whom i can
share knowledge, a laugh, and a coffee with. There is potentially
time in my life for a secondary partner.