In January of 2014, my father, who I love very much passed away suddenly, and left me with an angry, ungrateful step-mother, and we have severed ties. You can imagine how traumatic this is, but while it's painful, it allows me the opportunity to find my own way again, and figure out how I want to spend the rest of my life.
Some of you (particularly overseas) may take this as a sign that I'm vulnerable or "desperate", and I assure you I am not, so if you're not serious about a relationship with a kind and loving man, and you think you can take advantage, move along. I'm perfectly fine being alone until I find that special someone.
My job is another challenge, and frequently requires long, unpredictable hours, as we work through a difficult economy (understaffed, yet still with the possibility of sudden unemployment). This makes dating difficult at times.
If you're patient and understanding, perhaps we might still be able to find that special connection. I'm ultimately after a strong relationship built on friendship, trust, patience, and mutual respect, though it need not be as serious as that sounds, because I do like to laugh and I don't take trivial things too seriously.
I'm a computer geek with a sense of humor and a few surprises. I'm not a party animal, don't smoke, and very rarely drink. I like motorcycles (good rider), guitars (still can't play for squat, but I can fix, modify and tune electrics), and video production (a camera guy struggling to find gigs). My paying job is with computers.
I'm 5' 7 1/2" tall, though some guys my height call that 5' 10". If you're focusing on height, we might have issues, but I personally don't care if you're six feet or four, as long as we have that special connection.
My pictures show I'm not particularly athletic, but I'd love to find a partner with whom I can improve myself (ourselves) by finding fun physical activities (biking, walks, etc.)
What I'm looking for:
The most important trait, I think, is acceptance. Nobody's perfect and we all have our quirks and issues. If you can accept yours and mine, and we can find common ground in our tastes, we should get along fine.
Judge me by my sincerity and ethics, then accept me with all my faults if you can live with them. I promise I will do the same.
My personality is mostly a non-judgemental, live and let live philosophy, as long as you don't harm anyone. I have certain ethical standards. (Don't be rude, don't steal, be kind to animals, that type of stuff. Don't let anger and negativity be your dominant trait.)
I tolerate and even enjoy many differences in taste such as music, movies, etc., as long as you can do the same and we can find common ground to enjoy together. Physically, I can't predict who I'll find attractive, so I'm not going to limit myself to any particular "type".
I like my partner easy going, but not afraid to dish out some playful kidding or the occasional painful truth if it's done with kindness. I like a strong sense of ethics and integrity, a joy for learning new things, patience (you accept my quirks and I accept yours), empathy and reasoning (which comes in handy during arguments). If we can kid each other about our quirks without anyone getting hurt, that's something special indeed.
The Geek Factor:
I'm at my least geekiness when I'm on one of my motorcycles. I have a large cruiser (Yamaha V-Star, it's like a Harley), and a sport bike (Suzuki SV-650, it's like a crotch rocket), and I ride both safely. I don't do wheelies, for instance, and have never gotten a ticket on a bike. Most riders would consider me pretty tame.
I'm at my most geekiness when I'm at work, because I get paid to be a geek, and I'm a pretty good one!
I live in Orange County, but work takes me everywhere in the Greater Los Angeles area, from the Valley (San Fernando and others) to the Inland Empire (San Bernardino County). So, if you're in L.A., the Valley, or the North part of the I.E., I may be closer than you think. Chances are, if I'm lucky enough to be seeing a movie with friends, it's usually in Hollywood or Burbank.
I'm an animal lover with two cats. If my work hours weren't so crazy, there would also be at least one dog in the mix. (I grew up with both, so I know dogs and cats can live together and even be friends.)
Right now, my life is pretty much consumed with work (computer industry), because times are tough, and I still have a good job, which I need to hang on to. It's hard to meet single women in my age group at work, because I visit different locations in a mostly male dominated industry. I don't do the bar scene.
I like smart women, even nerdy types, with a sense of humor. You don't have to be a computer geek, or a geek at all, as long as you can love one. (And I like to think I'm a lovable one! ;-)
There are a lot of types of geek out there, and I don't fit all the molds, so don't expect me to be into Cosplay, D&D or comics, but it's OK if you are.
I'm geeky about electronics (old tube radios and other stuff), computers, TV and video production.