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55 M Buena Park, CA

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Last Online
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5′ 8″ (1.73m)
Body Type
A little extra
Mostly anything
Christianity, but not too serious about it
Cancer, but it doesn’t matter
Graduated from high school
Rather not say
Relationship Status
Relationship Type
Doesn’t have kids, but might want them
Likes dogs and has cats
English (Fluently), Spanish (Poorly)

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My self-summary
Hi, everyone: You should know that I lost my father in January of 2014, and have been going through some other family drama as well. With this plus work stresses, dating will be challenging for me for a while. I ask your patience with me, as I may not check this site as often as I'd normally like, and it may be a little challenging to find time to meet.

Still, I'd like to hear from you if you are patient and understanding.

I'm a computer geek with a sense of humor and a few surprises. I'm not a party animal, don't smoke, and very rarely drink. I like motorcycles (good rider), guitars (struggling with it), and video production (a camera guy struggling to find gigs).

I'm 5' 7 1/2" tall, though some guys my height call that 5' 10". If you're focusing on height, we might have issues, but I personally don't care if you're six feet or four, as long as we have that special connection.

My pictures show I'm not particularly athletic, but I'd love to find a partner with whom I can improve myself (ourselves) by finding fun physical activities (biking, walks, etc.)

What I'm looking for:
The most important trait, I think, is acceptance. Nobody's perfect and we all have our quirks and issues. Judge me by my sincerity and ethics, then accept me with all my faults if you can live with them. I promise I will do the same.

My personality is mostly a non-judgemental, live and let live mentality, though I have certain ethical standards. (Don't be rude, don't steal, be kind to animals, that type of stuff. Don't let anger and negativity be your dominant trait.)

I tolerate and even enjoy many differences in taste such as music, movies, etc., as long as you can do the same. Physically, I can't predict who I'll find attractive, so I'm not going to limit myself to any particular type.

I like my partner easy going, but not afraid to dish out some playful kidding or the occasional painful truth if it's done with kindness. I like a strong sense of ethics and integrity, a joy for learning new things, patience (you accept my quirks and I accept yours), empathy and reasoning (which comes in handy during arguments). If we can kid each other about our quirks without anyone getting hurt, that's something special indeed.

The Geek Factor:
I'm at my least geekiness when I'm on one of my motorcycles. I have a large cruiser (Yamaha V-Star, it's like a Harley), and a sport bike (Suzuki SV-650, it's like a crotch rocket), and I ride both safely. I don't do wheelies, for instance, and have never gotten a ticket on a bike. Most riders would consider me pretty tame.

I'm at my most geekiness when I'm at work, because I get paid to be a geek, and I'm a pretty good one!

I live in Orange County, but work takes me everywhere in the Greater Los Angeles area, from the Valley (San Fernando and others) to the Inland Empire. So, if you're in L.A., the Valley, or the I.E., I may be closer than you think. Chances are, if I'm lucky enough to be seeing a movie with friends, it's usually in Hollywood or Burbank.

I'm an animal lover with two cats. If my work hours weren't so crazy, there would also be at least one dog in the mix. (I grew up with both, so I know dogs and cats can live together and even be friends.)

Right now, my life is pretty much consumed with work (computer industry), because times are tough, and I still have a good job, which I hope will get better again. It's hard to meet single women in my age group at work, because I visit different locations in a mostly male dominated industry. I don't do the bar scene.

I like smart women, even nerdy types, with a sense of humor. You don't have to be a computer geek, or a geek at all, as long as you can love one. (And I like to think I'm a lovable one! ;-)

I'm not a comic book geek, nor am I into role playing games like D&D, but I don't judge. It's OK if you're into those things. I don't mind learning new things. I have an X-Box, but don't have the time to be anything other than a n00b (newbie) at any game.

I'm geeky about electronics, computers, TV and videography. (If you're into making small films, I'd love to meet you!)
What I’m doing with my life
In today's economy? Glad to still be working! I'm in one of my chosen fields (the other being videography), putting in the hours and effort to justify my continued employment in an understaffed, tough market. Trying to hang in there until things get better, and I'm trying not to let it consume my whole life. (Although, at times, it does.)

Because of my modest means in my youth, and because I started working full time right out of high school with unpredictable overtime, I never finished college, but I work alongside colleagues with degrees, and I never stop learning. I'm always taking extra training at work so I can survive cut backs and be ready for the next opportunity.

In my spare time when I'm not recovering from a hard week or catching up on projects, I like to ride my motorcycle, go to computer swap meets, shoot video projects when they come up, and I always try to make time for charity bike rides during the year, the biggest of which is the Love Ride every fall.
I’m really good at
I like to think I'm good at getting along with people and making them laugh if I can.

I'm not very good at making a list of things I'm good at! ;-)

Oh: I'm good at fixing stuff. If there's something broken anywhere, I'll usually take a look at it even if I've never fixed one before. (Kind of a geek thing, I guess.)
The first things people usually notice about me
My smile? (OK, everyone says that, maybe not true for me.)

I think most people see me as sincere, thoughtful and kind.

Unless I'm on my motorcycle, you will see that I'm pretty much a nerd. (I'm hoping I'm YOUR kind of nerd! It's the 21st Century, and nerds are cool now!)

People tend to misjudge me, and sometimes think I'm much more serious than I am. Yet others can see the weirdness right away.

If you see me on my bike, you'd be very surprised to find a geek under the leathers and helmet. I don't think anyone would confuse me with an "outlaw" biker, though.

I also have an off beat sense of humor and way of looking at things, so some people just see me as a little weird but in a nice way.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
What a huge set of categories!

Music: I try to appreciate all genres, but gravitate to alternative. I always hunger for new music, so it's hard to name a favorite band, because there's always something new and I get tired of songs after extended repeat plays. I have an extensive CD collection, and yesterday's favorites are often forgotten only to be rediscovered later. Favorite stations: KCRW when they're playing music (eclectic), Sirius XMU (fresh college music) and Sirius Alt Nation power my commutes at work. Most stations tend to play songs to death, though, and I tend not to want to hear the same song for months on end.

Food: I can usually find something I like at any restaurant, though I haven't done as much fine dining as I used to. Not too adventurous with some ethnic foods, or spicy foods, but I can usually find something I like. I like Italian, Mexican (mild, Gringo stuff though), Japanese (including sushi), Chinese, Thai (gotta watch the spices though).

Movies: I'm way behind on movies! Lately it's been hard to find time to see movies because of my work schedule (maybe I just need the right person to see them with). It's hard to nail me down to a genre, but because of my sci fi friends, that's high on the list. Star Trek? Yes. Vampires? No. Action? Yes. Dragons and wizards? Meh. Comedy? Yes. Drama? Lots of different types. Artsy? Maybe! Slasher? Nah. Psychological thriller? Maybe! For some reason, I haven't seen any of the big animated movies, the Shreks, the various bug movies and stuff. Not that I dis them, just never sought them on my own. (Wait: I did see Ratatouille and it was better than I expected. So one rodent movie done.)

TV: Sometimes you just have to spin down your brain after a long day of problem solving, and I can try to practice the guitar while watching. I depend on my DVR because my schedule doesn't allow "appointment TV".

I don't watch a lot of reruns. I only watch shows I like (thanks to my DVR). I watch each episode once, then delete it.

Favorite TV Shows: I tend to have more eclectic tastes, but one mainstream hit I like is Big Bang Theory. I like the offbeat shows like Community, and lesser known shows on pay channels like Episodes, Legit...

Dramas: Most of the dramas I like are on "pay" channels: Sons of Anarchy, Justified, Doctor Who... I can't think of a drama on broadcast TV I watch, though.

I also like any reality show that shows people doing things like restoring or customizing cars, motorcycles, etc., because sometimes those shows get me in the mood to get the tools out. (If they are kind enough to show any of the actual work. More of them are getting more fake every year.) Current faves: Wheeler Dealers and Graveyard Carz.

Classic TV I like: Monty Python's Flying Circus! Fawlty Towers (a must for any John Cleese fan), Red Dwarf (recently discovered and watched them all) and Hyperdrive. One show, "The IT Crowd", I highly recommend to any geek who works in, or with, an IT department. (Seek this British sit-com out and watch, download, buy, or stream it wherever you can. If you're associated with IT in any way. Amazon has them on Region 1 DVD!)

Oh: How could I forget the Daily Show with Jon Stewart!

The only sports shows I regularly watch are auto racing, particularly rally racing. (Each race is a nice, edited, hour long, perfect to DVR and watch when I have time.) I can watch other sports if you want, but don't expect me to keep up with stats, players or team history, though. (Well, I think you already knew I wasn't like other guys.)

Books: I'm a recovering illiterate. So, I started reading more books recently, a random selection of recommendations from various sources: The Fountainhead and Atlas Shrugged (Yeah, might as well start off light! ;-), classics I should have read when I was younger, and books people loan me. (Did I go to the only school that didn't assign "Tom Sawyer" to it's students? Well, at age 55, I finally read that.)

I also have a small stack of books loaned or given to me by friends as far back as the 80's, like Larry Niven's "Ringworld". (One of my early camera op jobs was shooting an interview with Mr. Niven. Don't know why it's taken me so long to read one of his books.)

I've started reading Lord of the Rings. I know, how can I call myself a geek if I haven't read LOTR, nor seen any of the movies? What can I say, I'm an enigma wrapped in a mystery tortilla with some cheddar cheese but no sour cream!
The six things I could never do without
OK, lemme think about this a minute.
Oxygen, water, food, shelter... Oh, I get it. Let's start over:

The love of a good woman (Wait, I'm living without that now!)
Some place with trees and clean air

Oh, wait:
A Laptop running Linux instead of Windows.
Cat food? (To keep them from eating me!)
A Fry's Electronics nearby?
Toilet paper? (Who wants to live without that?!!! ;-)
I spend a lot of time thinking about
I think about the answer to the ultimate question, about life, the universe, and everything. (It's 42, and if you get that, you MUST contact me! You NERD, you! Some of you have contacted me and reminded me I need to re-read the source of this joke. I've forgotten everything except 42!)

OK, seriously, I wonder if it's still possible to meet that special someone late in life when we've all been through so much. Can we trust again? Fall in love again?

I also wonder if OKCupid still shows me on line when I hibernate my laptop or drift off to another tab to shop for motorcycle parts. ("Wow, that guy's on there 24x7!")
On a typical Friday night I am
Hopefully not working late! Or,
Tired from a long week, but open to suggestions. Or,
If I'm lucky, out with someone special. Maybe an old friend, or maybe someone new!
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I've been diagnosed with hypochondria.
My doctor has prescribed placebos, but I don't think they're working!

(Ah, that's a joke. Hmm... Tough crowd! Works better if I show a prescription bottle filled with Skittles! ;-)
I’m looking for
  • Girls who like guys
  • Ages 43–58
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For long-term dating, short-term dating
You should message me if
... you want to. I mean, no one's forcing you to. You know what you want, make your own choice. Live your life. Date a geek!

A coworker once suggested I use this line:
"Don't mistreat yourself, treat yourself! Talk to me, baby!"