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I’m looking for

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  • Ages 25-36
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

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Last online
Yesterday – 3:26am
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Relationship Type
Strictly non-monogamous
5' 10" (1.78m)
Body Type
Average build
Special Diet
Atheism and laughing about it
Doesn’t have kids and doesn’t want them
My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
Born and raised in the Bay Area, I have taken time away for school in Santa Cruz (if you even count that as not Bay Area) and a year in Michigan. I have found that this is definitely the place for me. It is home.

As a result of my very Bay Area/California upbringing, I've checked my privilege, it turns out it was in this knapsack the whole time... I try to be mindful in everything that I do, without spiraling into navel-gazing analysis paralysis. Things need to get done, after all.

I am a morning person for no reason other than the sun always manages to wake me up. Living a life where I never have to set an alarm clock is really rather wonderful. Morning is just such a lovely time to drink some coffee and gather myself before heading off into the world.

I recently stopped drinking after doing so fairly regularly for most of my adult life. I now understand why people don't drink. And why they do... But I think it's better for me, personally, this way. I don't really care if other people drink. I now drink an ungodly amount of bubbly water.

I run. Rather frequently. Ironically, I don't really like exercise, but I love the feeling after. It's become my go-to on a bad day instead of booze. So I run because it's over really quickly. I'll never try to inflict this upon you, my good reader.

I've gone to Burning Man a number of times, and labored in the hot, hot sun (and cold, cold night) to make a bunch of big art happen. It's been grand. I don't think I'll be going back.

I have been told that I make people laugh, by way of humor. Sometimes even on purpose! I will admit that I can get a bit punny/dad-joke-ish, but I'd rather do that than base my humor on being cruel or punching down.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
I spend lots of my time babysitting a bunch of computers. It's pretty whatever. I'm excited for the bubble to burst so I can go do something else with my life.

On a personal level, I am learning to take good care of myself. Setting boundaries. Expressing needs. Ya know, the work of a lifetime.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
The Dunning–Kruger effect: I'm seriously just The Best at it.
Cooking: I love to cook. I love to cook for people, but even more I love to cook with people. Few things are more fun than a culinary collaboration.
Listening: This one is important. We all like to be heard.
Not being judgmental: This one goes hand in hand with not listening. Also important.
Cuddling!: We're good at what we're passionate about.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
Recently read:
The Empathy Exams - Leslie Jamison
Deathless - Catherynne Valente
Nexus/Crux/Apex - Ramez Naam
Zen and the Art of Motorcycle Maintenance - Robert M. Pirsig
The Art of Asking - Amanda Palmer
War Is a Force that Gives Us Meaning - Chris Hedges (It's better than it sounds...)
Limits to Growth - Donella H. Meadows
The Bed of Procrustes - Nassim Nicholas Taleb
Anathem - Neal Stephenson
The Emperor's New Mind - Roger Penrose
The Peripheral - William Gibson

Music, in no order at all:
The Notorious B.I.G., My Life With The Thrill Kill Kult, Lupe Fiasco, Hammerfall, Wu-Tand Clan, Beats Antique, KMFDM, Katy Perry, Rage Against The Machine, Dead Can Dance, Creedence Clearwater Revival, Bluetech, Ke$ha, Laibach, Biosphere, Mazzy Star, Johnny Cash, M.I.A., Om, H.U.V.A. Network

Stuff to watch:
Daria, Archer, and movies that are artistic and/or emotionally evocative, like Only Lovers Left Alive, The Fall, The Fountain, etc. I can also get down with documentaries.

I love food!!! I love making it and eating it. Aside from the not eating meat thing, I'm generally pretty down to taste anything!
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
- Love
- Open and honest connections
- Family
- Friends
- Good judgement
- Forward momentum
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
- What's going on inside of myself and others
- Connecting seemingly disparate dots
- Privilege
- Attempts at making my subconscious patterns a little more conscious
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
In? Out? Relaxing? Exercising? Working around the home? Cooking an awesome dinner?

I'm not really sure which one is the typical one...
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I like Katy Perry in a totally un-ironic manner way more than I should. Her music makes me feel happy. And that's something.
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.
If you're smart and interesting and kickass! I'm mostly excited about meeting amazing and inspiring people. There's always room for more in my life. I'm not worried where a connection falls in the friends-to-dating spectrum.

But bonus points if you want to cuddle.

Bonus points if you have cool ideas of things to do that aren't focused around drinking booze.

Double bonus points if you got curves.

Note: I don't actually dislike cats as stated in the little infobox. They're adorable. I'm just somewhat allergic. But there are pills for that.