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65 Lake Oswego, OR Man


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I’m looking for

  • Women
  • Ages 45–65
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For long-term dating

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6' 2" (1.88m)
Body Type
Other but it’s not important
Post grad
Has kids and doesn’t want more
Has cats
English (Fluently)
My self-summary
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Much of the joy in my life comes from the people around me; friends, family and the people I meet. I try to learn, accept, enjoy and forgive, and have fun in the process

It’s interesting, reading personal ads, to observe how people attempt to find the right match. What's your theory? Here's mine: First, there is attraction, which is only important at the beginning. Is there enough to start a relationship? After the first meeting, the physical appearance part of attraction is superseded by personality, commonalities, and, more important, values; what's really important in life and in relationships? The personal pinnacle of all values is our ability to be present in a loving way to all, even with our enemies; especially with our intimate other. Sadly, we can't do this 100%. Our defensiveness often takes over, unconsciously or by habit, and we end up arguing, fighting, placating, avoiding, controlling, and most often blaming: it's not my fault, it's yours. Blaming renders us a powerless victim, even if we are mostly right in our blaming. I say all this, at the risk of being too "teacherly" to express my most important criteria: I'm looking for someone aware enough of their own defensiveness, as I'm aware of mine, to hold themselves personally responsible to not let their defenses control them, and to always work toward being present in love; a tall if not somewhat impossible order. What do you value in life? What do you hold important in relationship?

Aside from the theory of finding a good relationship, and the importance of contributing to life and others, it is super important to have fun in life. A relationship should be enjoyable, fun, and a bit of a challenge; wisdom comes when there are problems and tensions. When you live with someone, spend hours together, talk, relate, are sexual, it's important to not be bored, to have fun, to be interesting. More important than a nice house, car, clothes, money even travel. A relationship is where we most live
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Being present in a kind and loving way. I never get angry, though i do get frustrated occasionally. I struggle with being organized and focused. I'm creative and there are so many other great things to do.
The first things people usually notice about me
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I'm easy to talk with.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Read a lot of Psychology, relationship books for my work. I easily get caught up in some fiction, and quickly finished the "Hunger Games" books. I wouldn't admit on line the fiction I'm reading now.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
How to impact this beautiful but sadly messed up world.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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I already did above: I can be disoraganized, messy and a procastinator. The good thing is that I'm working at it, and I'm not defensive about it or anything else.
You should message me if
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You can be present in a growing relationship of giving and receiving love.