Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
I've also noticed other things that were outside my study but I
thought I would share with my comments.
Short Message vs Long Message
I've seen many women who claim that they refuse to respond to guys
who don't create an adequate length of a message. A little odd
considering these women still responded to the "attractive" profile
and even sent short messages themselves. A little hypocritical,
People want someone to take the time to write out a long, unique
message as their first message. I hate to break it to you but most
guys will not do this because it's so time consuming to do this to
everyone we contact when they likely will not respond. The first
message is an icebreaker of sorts to see if there is mutual
interest before starting a conversation.
Kind of like what you do when you first approach someone at a bar,
the store, etc. You don't approach them and start babbling on about
yourself. You usually do a simple greeting or make a comment about
something you observed.
This is one of the most ridiculous things that I have seen on here
and likely just a cop out because people are afraid to actually
take a chance for once. You're not going to find a guy on here that
will just want to be friends. Newsflash! We're on here looking for
a DATE (or something more than friends)! This is a dating website
This isn't some romance novel or film. Dating a best friend often
creates complications but then a lot of women who want friends
first likely never thought of that. This is the real world and not
some fantasy. Yes, best friends do end up together romantically but
not as often as you want (or hope).
They also likely forgot to realize that guys are not on here
looking for just friends. We may agree to be friends with you but
we'll keep on looking for someone to date. Imagine you start being
friends with a guy and then he ends up finding someone that he
really likes. Hopefully you don't develop feelings for him!
The same goes for those who come on here specifically looking for
friends. This is a dating site. It's the same thing as me going to
grocery store trying to buy a car. NO guy signs up to a DATING
website just to get more friends. Also, stop getting upset when
guys keep asking you out on a date.
BBW, HWP, Curves in the Right Places, Curvy, Not Barbie,
Not a Stick, etc
All of these scream overweight or obese. There's no way to sugar
coat it since these terms are used excessively. All guys see when
someone uses those is fat. There's nothing wrong with being fat
(other than the health complications).
Another thing that I have noticed that ties into this is that
overweight women often only see weight in the extremes. That is
that they only see fat and incredibly thin. They fail to realize
that there are people who fit in-between but continue to insult
those who are not fat.
Some people know how to take care of themselves through a proper
diet and exercise. Sure some may be lucky with a fast metabolism.
There's no need to insult them. It also creates a bad image for
yourself since the guy will assume you lack self-confidence and are
very bitter. We try to stay away from people like that.
Telling Someone You're Not Interested
It's normally better to just not respond if you're not interested.
It's more "hurtful" to be told you're not interested rather than be
ignored. Next time just don't respond to their message. If they
keep messaging you then block them.
Pictures Taken as Odd Angles to Hide Being
I honestly don't know why women still continue to do this. It's not
like we can't tell you're trying to hide something. You're also
wasting their time as well as yours by not being honest. Someone
should like you for you so there's no reason to hide
Lying About Weight
This goes along with what I have said about creative camera
pictures. Be honest and don't waste everyone's time.
Men also find it annoying when women using annoying cliches or
phrases such as old soul, looking for Mr. Right, looking for prince
charming, likes to get dirty, etc. It's very annoying. I'm sure
there's countless phrases women hate men to say. There's no
I'll also add that saying you're an old soul or mature for your age
is BS. I have yet to encounter anyone who claims that and it
actually turn out to be true.
The prince charming phrase is a little funny. A ton of people want
prince charming but don't you think prince charming would want a
princess? The princess has always been submissive and helpless.
That's a little boring, isn't it?
Excuses to Why You're on Here
There's no need to make excuses that a friends signed you up or
insult the website. You're on here for the same reasons as everyone
else. There's no need to lie about it. The same goes for guys
Spelling and Grammar
It matters a lot on the internet. It influences how people perceive
you. If you have constant spelling and grammar mistakes then people
assume you're not very educated. Writing in all caps is annoying as
well. You only have one chance to make a good impression so you
should do your best to do just that.
I'll also point out that an occasional mistake is not what I'm
referring to. If whatever you type is riddled with mistakes then
that's the problem.
Purposely Showing Cleavage
It's easy to tell when you're purposely trying to show cleavage. If
you hate guys making sexual remarks then don't show it. It's as
simple as that.
Only Looking at Pictures Before Contacting
Women do it too. I've received several messages from women who
haven't even read this profile before contacting me.