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57 M Astoria, NY

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6′ 2″ (1.88m)
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Mostly anything
Relationship Status
Relationship Type
Doesn’t have kids
Likes dogs and likes cats

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My self-summary
I am not looking for a match, I am looking for a fire.

And please, right off the bat.......

My "self-summary" was not written to please anyone who was not meant to be pleased by it..... nor it was written to sugar any kind of pill(s).
It was written to (potentially) connect me with someone who thinks / acts / behaves / views life and the world in a similar way so we can make friends.

Most will read just few lines and quirt …. and that is fine..... pleasing the masses means selling yourself short.
A small minority (I would expect) will read through it all.
A smaller minority (unquestionably) will reply.... again, that is fine too, as finding compatible people when the criteria is outside the mainstream, is kind of difficult.
(And) to make things even more difficult, even if all above is met, by the time one adds the need for physical attraction and finding commonalities for all kinds of preferences (public or private), AND you bring up the three “big ones” (religion, politics and sex) then it really does make a lot of sense why is so difficult for someone to find and pair with the “right one”.

Best of luck to all, even to the ones who we will never see things eye to eye.


So here we go:

We ALL live on a thin crust of dirt, floating on top of burning lava, traveling thru space at incredible speeds to a destination we did not choose.
All major choices about us have been made on our behalf by someone else before we were even born, things such as our gender, what parents we were born to, who our relatives would be and where on this world we would see the sun for the first and last time.
We ALL have not a clue who will be alive tomorrow.

I think, what defines any one of us humans is not if one has a townhouse or not, nor if one has skied on the alps.
What we are defined by is a lot bigger than if one is "fashionista" and /or "foodie".

PS for the newbies......
Relations work ONLY when there is emotional connection, physical attraction and willingness to compromise.
Diplomas, rock climbing or participating in African safaris do not help any; (because) if those things did, then why is it that so many educated, world traveled, athletic, multi linguist, independent, and “I have a happy life” type of women and men (most of whom are divorced once or twice already) are in here looking for love?

The funny thing is, most people still promote the same “credentials” to find love with, the very same “credentials” that did not help them the first (or second) time around to begin with.
Hm .... Doing the same thing and expecting different results …
Isn't that the definition of insanity?
You do the math.
What I’m doing with my life
Trying to deal with what life has delt me.
Trying to do the least amount of damage.
I’m really good at
Intense relationships.

And making and fixing things.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Anything that makes me dream. Rap and disco music do not.
The six things I could never do without
Beyond “life sustaining anythings”, I could never do without emotions and human contact..... hm ..... make that “intelligent” human contact.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
How easily we all forget what the most important and irreplaceable things in life are.
On a typical Friday night I am
... doing typical things
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
Public private 1 :
My life's plan was based on a faulty assumption that in life, "if you are focused at, and work hard for, you will get what you want", as opposed to "in life you get what you get".
I am all learn-ed now.

Public private 2 :
I don’t like ketchup and I drink my coffee cold…. No milk no sugar.

Public private 3 :
I drink my water without ice .......... ice cubes get in the way ........ I know ... weird.

Public private 4 :
Here is another shocker ….. I am not into sports.

Bedroom private:
Ah…. Was the question about a "bedroom private anything”?
Intimacy wise I am very open and ... hm.....
Lets have the rest of the talk in the bedroom, shall we?
I’m looking for
  • Girls who like guys
  • Ages 45–55
  • Near me
  • For new friends
You should message me if
Message me if you are "weathered"...... .

... and if you are nice to people even when there is no benefit from doing so.

... and if you know how to say "please" and "thank you" to the same people as above.


Most everybody uses these terms.....
Be more creative !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
sassy ....
zest for life..
love my job.....
grab a drink ....
love to travel ....
honest to a fault .....
hopeless romantic....
passionate about life....
living life to the fullest .....
the glass "half whatever" ...
work hard and play harder.....
looking for a partner in crime....
"then it would not be private"......
never have a typical Friday night.....
having / living a happy life and need nobody ....

We see / value things differently if:
You promote your education and how many languages you speak, as if that will put you on a “wow … she is definitely a great life partner material” list.
You promote your world traveling history as if .... (see above).
You equate schooling with knowledge of life.

Keep walking if you have or are:
Good at everything.
Better than others.
Mad at the world.
Self centered.
Always right.
Know it all.
Seen it all.
Bad ass.
Wise ass.
Smart ass.
(actually any kind of ass)

Some thoughts:
Having a house in CT, a house upstate, Hamptons... etc ..... well.... not indicative of one's character.
Taming Everest is easier than taming one's self.

nuff said for now.