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nyc11102man

57 M Astoria, NY

I’m looking for

  • Girls who like guys
  • Ages 35–75
  • Near me
  • For new friends

My Details

Last Online
Online now!
Orientation
Straight
Ethnicity
White
Height
6′ 2″ (1.88m)
Body Type
Average
Diet
Mostly anything
Smokes
No
Drinks
Socially
Drugs
Never
Religion
Christianity
Sign
Gemini
Education
Job
Management
Income
Relationship Status
Single
Relationship Type
Offspring
Doesn’t have kids
Pets
Likes dogs and likes cats
Speaks
English

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My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
I am not looking for a match, I am looking for a fire.

Dependable.
Emotionally engaged.
Concerned and considerate.
Low key and weathered.
Quality over quantity seeker.

My up to now life has been a series of events and crossing paths with people that have taken me not necessarily always where I was planning to go, but many times surprisingly elsewhere..... with great lessons to be learned along the way..... painful at times...... enlightening at others.

What I have learned is, relations work ONLY when there is physical attraction, emotional connection and willingness to compromise. In that sequence.
(And) to make things even more difficult, even if all above is met, by the time one adds the need for commonalities, the need for compatible preferences (public or private), AND THEN, (by the time) “the big three” are put on the table (religion, politics and sex), it really does make a lot of sense why is so difficult for someone to find and pair with the “right one”.

So, because of all that, I am here to (potentially) connect with someone who thinks / acts / behaves / views life and the world in a similar way so we can make friends.

But, if love was to come, then I would want it to be a mad love…… the kind that makes one to hitch penniless across a continent to go find her….. Where the world starts and ends in each other’s eyes.

The love I am talking about starts with crossing eyes from across a room and feeling a tingle …… it does not start with bank account or education degrees comparisons, nor it has anything to do with who has how many stamps on their passport….. and .... for all the multilinguists out there, being able to communicate with people who speak different languages comes handy when one is traveling the world, but at home one does not need to be able to speak seven different languages in order to hold someone's hand and say “I love you”.

What else I’ve learned is, formal education and degrees do not mean much if they are not backed up by someone's solid character and someone’s humbleness and humility……. Because, diplomas hanging on walls have never comforted a partner when lonely, sick or in pain.

(And)...... I would totally understand and excuse the younger ones in their 20’s for not having gotten it yet and confusing hormones with love.
But….. I would expect the older ones to know …..
Finance based choices, same as hormone (or any other non-emotions) based choices, is not love……. is an arrangement.
I guess, too may have gotten too comfortable.

So…. To conclude, love is about emotions, not about laundry lists of demands….. When is love, most things are negotiable.

Safe travels to all of you out there.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
Trying to deal with what life has delt me.
Trying to do the least amount of damage.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Emotions.
Intense relationships.

And making and fixing things.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
Simple.... pragmatic.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
Anything that makes me dream. Rap and disco music do not.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Beyond “life sustaining anythings”, I could never do without emotions and human contact..... hm ..... make that “intelligent” human contact.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
How easily we all forget what the most important and irreplaceable things in life are.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
... doing typical things
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
A. I don’t like ketchup.

B. I put ice cubes in my coffee.

C. I dislike ice cubes in my water ..... I know ... weird.

D. Here is another shocker ….. I am not into sports.

E. My life's plan was based on a faulty assumption that in life, "if you are focused at, and work hard for, you will get what you want", as opposed to "in life you get what you get".
I am all learn-ed now.

PS.
For anything more private and juicer than above, one has to wait.
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.
Message me if you are "weathered"...... .
... and if you are nice to people even when there is no benefit from doing so.
... and if you know how to say "please" and "thank you" to the same people as above.

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I would suggest (as I am not here to tell anyone what to do) for you not to use any of the following terms...... everybody uses them ..... be more creative:

sassy ....
eclectic....
zest for life..
love my job.....
grab a drink ....
love to travel ....
honest to a fault .....
hopeless romantic....
passionate about life....
living life to the fullest .....
the glass "half whatever" ...
work hard and play harder.....
looking for a partner in crime....
"then it would not be private"......
never have a typical Friday night.....
having / living a happy life and need nobody ....

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Oh..... we can safely say we see things differently if:
1. You believe that education and how many languages one speaks, or how many countries has one visited makes for an integer (and classifies one as a good) person.
2. You equate schooling with knowledge of life.

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And....... definitely definitely keep walking if you have or if you are:
Good at everything.
Better than others.
Mad at the world.
Inconsiderate.
Self centered.
Always right.
Opinionated.
Know it all.
Seen it all.
Stubborn.
Impolite.
Attitude.
Mouthy.
Foodie.
Bad ass.
Wise ass.
Smart ass.
(actually any kind of ass)

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Some thoughts:
Having a house in CT, a house upstate, Hamptons... etc ..... well.... not indicative of one's character.
Taming Everest is easier than taming one's self.

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Yea..... and a note about photographs.
We ALL looked younger in our 20s, 30's 40s ….. (you are getting the picture) and most of us thinner too.
So..... unless you intent to sugar the pill, please display CURRENT pictures first ( = 6 months old and NOT BEFORE the extra 30 lbs were added), and then going down the line, display pictures from the past, CLEARLY dated !

You think if it comes to meeting someone from here for coffee he is not going to notice that you are not who you showed you are? Do I have to tell you everything?

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Ah....... about boobs:
(for all the ones trying to get a man by displaying them hanging out.... and this is not coming from anyone prude or close minded….. OKC has me already classified as kinky).

Unless you are looking for a “dog” (and want to be back here in OKC within few weeks complaining how shallow-minded men are, you know, the type of men you attracted with your bait), then do not make your boobs the focal point of who you are.
Honey..... all that is so temporary and unimportant … Just a breast cancer diagnosis could take it all away tomorrow ….
You think people on wheel chairs were born that way?
You think the wrinkled old people ahead of you in the grocery store (yea, the people you complain they walk too slow), you think they were born that way?
You think it takes long for a car accident to disfigure a pretty face?
You think losing an arm or an eye or a hand can only happen to other people?
So...... grow up and wise up....... boobs is not where it is.
But, (if you so insist and that is the best you have to promote about yourself to get a man) ..... think about this:
IF "boobs" are the common denominator and IF the boobs go, you think "he" will stay ?

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nuff said for now.