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openpodbaydoors

44 M Oakland, CA

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Orientation
Straight
Ethnicity
Height
6′ 1″ (1.85m)
Body Type
Athletic
Diet
Mostly anything
Smokes
No
Drinks
Socially
Drugs
Never
Religion
Sign
Leo, and it’s fun to think about
Education
Graduated from masters program
Job
Entertainment / Media
Income
Relationship Status
Single
Relationship Type
Offspring
Has a kid
Pets
Speaks
English, French

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My self-summary
self-summary, eh? what do I know about anything? are these real or are they projections? let's go with this truth then: I think I was raised by half-vulcans.
one's history leaks information so I will obfuscate the answer for the moment using one version of my story: I was born in ca but moved around a bunch in the states- east coast/ mid atlantic/paris- as a young man. my family moved every 2-3 years. (ibm company moves not running from the law). I resettled here after formal studies but I started to travel working on documentaries and corporate videos as a sound man- 150k+miles/ year. I came into contact with a good spectrum of the human condition- love, war, famine, genocide creativity, banality. modeling myself unconsciously after my folks I taught myself to be unaffected by jet lag, months without days off, fatigue, hunger, thirst and you get the picture. people described me as preternaturally calm. I was for the most part. years passed.
my 20 year relationship developed a slight tremor and then fractured irreparably. sitting at the kitchen table eating breakfast with my then 9 year old son (now almost 13) I considered what exactly I had been modeling for him in my desire to be maximally efficient work wise. mind expansion noises followed and I began the long return journey to connecting with actual feelings. I can now integrate a deep and sobering world knowledge with the bright-eyed, boundless curiosity, fearlessness and laughter that lured me out into the world in the first place as a very young man. makes for a interesting dad, anyhew.

so about me then? well, I love art, I love talking, sharing, debating, listening and learning about anything you are interested in. I am as physical as I am mental- it is the most effective way of clearing my head to be creative. I smile and laugh a whole bunch- not a vulcan anymore.
What I’m doing with my life
I am a classically trained filmmaker meaning I know how images function and the different languages that exist. as a vocation it is not as romantic as advertised, but every day I wake up excited to work on projects that I either like or that I love.
I coach boys soccer and I love running around with them watching them grow.
I am doing something physical every day- gym, road riding and or soccer.
I’m really good at
- conversations
- talking about cinema while not being annoying.
- traveling. really really good.
- finding good food wherever.
- quickly adjusting to being comfortable in any situation. (i.e. guns pointed at me, alone in a nascar infield, drunk russian pilot over the Sahara, underwater, filming out of a plane without door, problem solving a broken axle at sunset on a deserted road in the Congo...you get the idea. I am not necessarily relaxed mind you, but I attain calm quickly. re: vulcan qualities -it is a tool now not a state of mind.)
- waking up, regardless of time or duration of sleep, and being functional and present within seconds. I do not know if this is a good thing, btw.
The first things people usually notice about me
I suppose their first impressions are about me being well proportioned physically and immediately engaged mentally. I am told I have a strong presence.
then perhaps they notice that I am not like the other boys. (but apparently this is is a bit later- after the arms and the bum.)
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
favorite filmmaker vacillates between welles and kubrick and sembene and kieslowski and wong kar wai and clare denis

favorite book would probably be ellison's invisible man
just finished going clear, reamde, the hobbit, 1q84, interviews with jl goddard
currently reading the emperor of all maladies, the satanic verses, europe central and luminarium

I like music. listening to the national as I write this. kalx, kpoo, kfjc along with radiohead, animal collective, grizzly bear, purity ring, coltrane and dolphy and davis, howlin wolf, reich and glass, caveman, bon iver, boards of canada, devo, black flag and on...

food is good- marinated skirt steak, lentil soup, slow-cooked soft scrambled eggs with pesto, house made caesar salad, spicy french toast (a happy and tired " hmmm, that is not cinnamon" accident), blueberry, buttery buttermilk pancakes, veggie tofu tacos with salsa piquante, and apple pie from scratch.
The six things I could never do without
my son, ideas, my passport, touch, art, and intimate conversation.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
the intersections of art and life.
why?
w.e.b. dubois' concept of "dual consciousness" adapted to a global environment; where are the margins in a given culture and who are the people who occupy those spaces?
how important life feels though it could be argued that it is inconsequential.
little bits of edward said writings, particularly the invention of africa, for some reason.
why I felt guilty for several weeks for loving gluten
how colors effect meaning
how fonts effect meaning
why we believe the news
travel
On a typical Friday night I am
for most of my adult life I did not have a typical friday night- I was somewhere in the world. I can answer the question now. I am either playing soccer, eating burritos and watching a film with my boy, going out for drinks in oaktown, hanging with my neighbors making dinner, or in reading in my ofuro tub.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I was extremely shy until my mid 30's.
I’m looking for
  • Girls who like guys
  • Ages 35–46
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For long-term dating, short-term dating
You should message me if
the short version is- if you are feeling it and you have great hands, a great body, a great mind and a great smile.

the long version is- if you are person that seeks intimacy and are unafraid when you actually experience it. if you love words. if you love art. if you are a person that laughs often. if you can handle powerful but sweet men. if you love political discussions as much as you love art. if you are an artist. if you develop strange crushes on dead intellectuals like foucault or live artist like clare denis. if you will treach me what you know. if you appreciate and seek silent moments with your partner. if you love what you do in life. if you are a learner. if you want to take me places. if you want to teach me your languages. if you will take me camping.
I am attracted to strong personalities who don't feel obligated to be strong at every moment. I am attracted to people who have the skill, composure, practice and propensity to keep positive experiences positive and to turn negative ones positive without being naive.
and there you have it- the end of another profile. maybe there should be credits. This is bit chatty for a guy I suppose but as the great philospher Andre 3000 said "i'm... just being honest".