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belikewater34

55 M San Francisco, CA

My Details

Last Online
Yesterday – 11:10pm
Orientation
Straight
Ethnicity
White
Height
5′ 8″ (1.73m)
Body Type
Athletic
Diet
Mostly vegetarian
Smokes
No
Drinks
Not at all
Drugs
Never
Religion
Other, and very serious about it
Sign
Aries, and it’s fun to think about
Education
Graduated from university
Job
Art / Music / Writing
Income
Rather not say
Relationship Status
Single
Relationship Type
Offspring
Has a kid, but doesn’t want more
Pets
Likes dogs and has cats
Speaks
English (Fluently)

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My self-summary
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If I tell you I’m funny, I’m going to have to prove it. That’s daunting. Forget I said I'm funny. If I tell you I’m handsome, well, that’s not for me to say so don’t listen to me if I tell you I’m handsome. (You, on the other hand, can tell me I’m handsome. That’s fine.) And if I tell you I’m on a spiritual journey, well, I don’t think spiritual pilgrims going around yakking about it. So I’m not. Unless I am.

Many years ago, I was blessed with a “spiritual awakening”. (Some might call it a nervous breakdown.) And from the depths of my confusion I realized I’d been blessed with a chance to live my life in awareness and integrity.

I came to realize that I’d been living my life as a desperate 12-year old – all too eager to please, to be liked, to run from my fears and sadness. I played the clown, the diplomat, the good guy. I had to be first, to be liked, to be seen as successful and unflappable. I’ve stopped hanging on to all that. Now I think I’m about 30 and emotionally maturing rapidly. Next week I might be 31.

I used to think I was better than most people and less than the same amount of people. Now I realize I’m neither. In fact, I am no different than a rock, or a tree or a coyote. Just a man doing his best.

I don’t engage in gossip. I find myself feeling compassion for the arrogant and angry because they’re human beings doing their best. The only difference between thieves and me is not who we are, but we do. I’m kind, courageous and optimistic. Comfortable in both my masculinity and my expanding compassion for others, including myself. People say I look far, far younger than my years. Healthy living, good genes, luck. (My pictures are real and recent. My stated age is approximate.) I play the guitar while crooning country-western ballads. I prefer oatmeal raisin cookies to chocolate chip. I love sports underdog movies.

Am I looking for love or the perfect mate? No, I am not looking for anything. I’m interested in moments of scintillating transparency with a woman in all her authenticity. Those moments where two people can confess it all, say what they’re thinking and feeling, without judgment or vitriol. And I trust that if I just keep showing up (Woody Allen once said, “80% of life is showing up”), the right woman will be there. That’s right, she might even be here on OKCupid Until then, I’m content in my aloneness, which is different than being lonely.

I aim to be like water, water that flows compassionately into the cracks and crevasses of my still hidden self. And into the same places of a woman who connects with all this malarkey.

PS. Reading this, you might find it ironic I make my living in the world of comedy. I just thought I’d stop trying to be so damn clever and share what’s inside.
What I’m doing with my life
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For a living, I'm a writer and producer. For fun, I do the same thing. Unless clients are involved and then they ruin everything. (Just kidding if any of my clients are reading this…my clients are my muses and inspiration.)

I practice yoga regularly. I meditate every day. I play soccer twice a week so often I walk with a sexy limp.

I am helping and witnessing my son turn into a good man.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Skipping stones
Solving anagrams
Teaching
Making children laugh
Skiing
Fly fishing
Hiking far afield
Quoting Shakespeare
Napping
The first things people usually notice about me
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are none of my business.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Authors I’ve read scads of - Don Delillo, Shakespeare, Bill Bryson, Jim Harrison, Rumi, Noel Coward, Wallace Stegner, Cormac McCarthy, John McPhee. Elmore Leonard, J.D. Salinger, Nicholson Baker, John Steinbeck, Spalding Gray, John Nichols, P.G Wodehouse, Gabriel Garcia Marquez, W.B Yeats, John Updike, Milan Kundera, Raymond Chandler, John D. McDonald, Roberson Davies and “The Stench of Honolulu” by Jack Handey had me guffawing.

Movies that make me cry - It's a Wonderful Life, Wall-E, The Iron Giant, Cinema Paradiso, Seeking a Friend for the End of the World, Ordinary People, To Kill a Mockingbird, Il Postino, The Visitor, Tender Mercies

Movies/TV shows that make me guffaw – Step Brothers, Harold and Kumar Go To the White Castle, Duck Soup, Airplane, Blazing Saddles, Community, Always Sunny in Philadelphia, Portlandia, Arrested Development, Bob's Burgers, Family Guy (remember I have a 16-year old son), the original The Office

Movies that make me feel human - Sense & Sensibility, The Bridge on the River Kwai, The King's Speech, My Dinner With Andre, The Dresser, To Kill a Mockingbird, Goon, Singin' in the Rain, The American President, Boyhood, Gravity, Waiting For Guffman, The Royal Tenenbaums, Headhunters, and, of course, Wings of Desire
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
The only thing I couldn't do without is the presence of my goofy/sullen/brilliant/evolving 16-year old son. The rest are simply life preferences...

My morning meditation
My tenor ukulele
Freedom and compassion
San Francisco coffee shops
The High Sierra
A really good pair of jeans
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
... how I can stop thinking so much.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Often teaching. But I'd rather be cooking dinner, watching a movie, eventually sprawling out on an overstuffed sofa.
I’m looking for
  • Girls who like guys
  • Ages 40–50
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For long-term dating, short-term dating
You should message me if
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...you're a woman who practices presence, awareness and compassion. (No wounded birds or damsels in distress, please.) And if you enjoy rustic cabins on distant rivers, roaring fires and sheepskin rugs, that's a plus. Not to mention wandering Greek beaches.