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I’m looking for

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  • Ages 39–49
  • Near me
  • For long-term dating, short-term dating, casual sex

My details

Last online
Sep 1
5′ 8″ (1.73m)
Body Type
Mostly vegetarian
Not at all
Other, and laughing about it
Aries, and it’s fun to think about
Graduated from university
Art / Music / Writing
Rather not say
Has a kid, but doesn’t want more
Likes dogs
English (Fluently)
My self-summary
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If I tell you I’m funny, I’m going to have to prove it. That’s daunting. Forget I said I'm funny. If I tell you I’m handsome, well, that’s not for me to say so don’t listen to me if I tell you I’m handsome. (You, on the other hand, can tell me I’m handsome. That’s fine.) And if I tell you I’m on a spiritual journey, well, I don’t think spiritual pilgrims going around yakking about it. So I’m not. Unless I am.

I don’t engage in gossip. I find myself feeling compassion for the arrogant and angry because they’re human beings doing their best. The only difference between thieves and me is not who we are, but what we do. I’m kind, courageous and optimistic. Comfortable in both my masculinity and my expanding compassion for others, including myself. People say I look far, far younger than my years. Healthy living, good genes, luck. (My pictures are real and recent. My stated age is approximate.) I play the guitar while crooning country-western ballads. I prefer oatmeal raisin cookies to chocolate chip. I love sports underdog movies.

Am I looking for love or the perfect mate? Wrong question. I’m interested in moments of scintillating transparency with a woman in all her authenticity. Those moments where two people can confess it all, say what they’re thinking and feeling, without judgment or vitriol. And I trust that if I just keep showing up (Woody Allen once said, “80% of life is showing up”), the right woman will be there.

Oh, and I just discovered I'm an INFP.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
For a living, I'm a writer, producer, playwright and teacher. For fun, I do the same thing.

I practice yoga regularly. I meditate every day. I play soccer twice a week so often I walk with a sexy limp. (

I am helping and witnessing my son turn into a good man.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Skipping stones
Solving anagrams
Making children laugh
Fly fishing
Hiking far afield
Quoting Shakespeare
Courage, compassion and self-expression
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
are none of my business.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
Authors I’ve read scads of - Don Delillo, Shakespeare, Bill Bryson, Jim Harrison, Rumi, Noel Coward, Wallace Stegner, Cormac McCarthy, John McPhee. Elmore Leonard, J.D. Salinger, Nicholson Baker, John Steinbeck, Spalding Gray, John Nichols, P.G Wodehouse, Gabriel Garcia Marquez, W.B Yeats, John Updike, Milan Kundera, Raymond Chandler, John D. McDonald, Robertson Davies...

Recently read - "Will Not Attend" by Paul Resnick, "Tantric Sex For Men", "Radical Acceptance" by Tara Brach, "The Boys in the Boat", Tao Te Ching (daily), "Chronicles" by Bob Dylan, "The Stench of Honolulu" by Jack Handey (made me guffaw)

Movies that make me cry - It's a Wonderful Life, Wall-E, The Iron Giant, Cinema Paradiso, Seeking a Friend for the End of the World, Ordinary People, To Kill a Mockingbird, Il Postino, The Visitor, Tender Mercies, Pride (from England last year, awesome)

Movies/TV shows that make me guffaw – Step Brothers, Harold and Kumar Go To the White Castle, Duck Soup, Airplane, Blazing Saddles, Community, Always Sunny in Philadelphia, Portlandia, Arrested Development, Bob's Burgers, Family Guy (remember I have a 16-year old son), the original The Office

Movies that make me feel human - Sense & Sensibility, The Bridge on the River Kwai, The King's Speech, My Dinner With Andre, The Dresser, To Kill a Mockingbird, Goon, Singin' in the Rain, The American President, Boyhood, Gravity, Waiting For Guffman, The Royal Tenenbaums, Headhunters, and, of course, Wings of Desire
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
The only thing I couldn't do without is the presence of my goofy/sullen/brilliant/evolving 16-year old son. The rest are simply life preferences...

My morning meditation
My tenor ukulele
Freedom and compassion
San Francisco coffee shops
The High Sierra
A really good pair of jeans
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
... how to let go of thinking.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Often teaching. But I'd rather be cooking dinner, watching a movie, sprawled out on an overstuffed sofa.
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.'re a woman who practices presence, awareness and compassion. (No wounded birds or damsels in distress, please.) And if you enjoy rustic cabins on distant rivers, roaring fires and sheepskin rugs, that's a plus. Not to mention wandering Greek beaches.