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Last online
Nov 27
Relationship Type
5' 7" (1.70m)
Body Type
Average build
Post grad
English, Spanish (Somewhat)
My self-summary
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i'm an intellectual (english professor) and a musician. i leave it to you to decide which is more pretentious.

when i'm not teaching, i spend most of my time working on the two books i have coming out next year. the first is a book on german idealism, psychoanalysis, and american romanticism; the second is an edited collection on philosopher slavoj žižek (youtube him) and literary theory. when i'm not doing either of those things, i write and play music for the band misconstruity. we're recording a new album in the near future--hopefully before the album format goes extinct. (has it already??) we do mini east coast tours once in a while.

what else? i like watching and talking about good films and tv shows (ok, maybe some trashy ones too); debating politics; making people laugh (stand-up comedian in either a previous or next life); sushi; technology; masquerading as a philosopher rather than a literary critic.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
pretending that i'm not anxious or awkward in anxious and/or awkward social situations--that is, all social situations.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
first my hair, then my glasses.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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authors: austin, j. l.; barthes, roland; cavell, stanley; dickinson, emily; douglass, frederick; emerson, ralph waldo; faulkner, william; foucault, michel; freud, sigmund; fuller, margaret; harvey, david; hawthorne, nathaniel; james, henry; kristeva, julia; lacan, jacques; marx, karl; melville, herman; nietzsche, friedrich; poe, edgar allan; pynchon, thomas; rancière, jacques; vonnegut, kurt; whitman, walt; wittgenstein, ludwig; žižek, slavoj; zupančič, alenka.

auteurs: allen, woody; anderson, paul thomas; anderson, wes; aronofsky, darren; coen, joel & ethan; coppola, francis ford; fincher, david; hitchcock, alfred; kubrick, stanley; lynch, david; marker, chris; nolan, christopher; tarantino, quentin.

music: at the drive-in; beatles, the; cure, the; death cab for cutie; deftones; denali; doors, the; elliott; flaming lips, the; foo fighters; get up kids, the; gloria record, the; green day (old school); harvey, p. j.; jimmy eat world; kenna; kent; led zeppelin; mars volta, the; mineral; monkees, the; nirvana; pink floyd; police, the; radiohead; refused; rolling stones, the; saves the day; simon & garfunkel; st. vincent; stone temple pilots; sunny day real estate; weakerthans, the; weezer.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
taking oxygen, water, and food as givens:(1) corrective lenses, (2) books, (3) microsoft word, (4) laughter, (5) air conditioning, and (6) chopsticks.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
ideology; politics; music.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
usually a homebody. ergo, this site.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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two or three times (in my sordid past, of course) i changed the price tags on books that i couldn't afford. i've also been known to cut the tags off of my mattresses. i'm a loner dottie, a rebel.
You should message me if
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your profile doesn't include the phrase "i work hard to play hard" or lead with a paragraph about how much you love to travel, camp, hike, mountainbike, spelunk, white-water raft, etc.

you like guys who don't yell or launch projectiles at their television when watching sporting events; guys who think that "guys-nights-out" are lame; guys who believe that gender is a social construct; etc., etc.