I've yet to grasp the meaning of soulmate so I make no request for one here. A long term relationship? … well sure, possibly. Given that I am not a big fan of self promotion, presenting myself becomes a challenge. This is my most recent attempt at authenticity ... a profile without the spin. I'm great at spin and while it has served me in the past, there will be none of that here. I fly no false colors. My goal is for something a little more unvarnished ... save us all time. Truth be known, the way I see myself is that I am 90% the most awesome woman you will ever meet, while the other 10% is the woman that you would never want to know. I'm sure that many might see this differently... maybe 50/50 or even less in my favor. But I think I am being accurate so I'm sticking with my 90/10%.
I'm Martha. My friends call me Mart. I'm very soft and feminine but I'm a Philly girl and have been on my own a lot so there's an edge to me that makes me, well, superior to all other forms of life ... No, I'm just kidding ... I'm a real kidder. I'm a mother with a daughter, a son in law, and two gorgeous grandchildren .... and yes, they come first. I look like my picture, except that my hair is longer and I might be a little thinner; and while I am not overweight, I'm not skinny either. I like to think of myself as athletic and toned :-)
What do I do? I do everything. It depends on the day. I am creative. I love to write. I spend time with my family. There are organizations that are meaningful to me that I support in various ways. I work out almost every day, partly in the interest of vanity because I like to look good, but also it helps to dull the roar in my ear that comes from life in general, into something that more resembles white noise. I take care of my house and I read a lot. I do spend a lot of time alone and I love it that way. But I would like to widen the net a little ... have some dates ... go some places ... expand my horizons, explore some possibilities.
Where this gets complicated is trying to describe what I am looking for in a mate or a date. I am hetero, so there's that. I am not seeking any particular race or age (close to my own give or take would probably work best). I like nice people ... kindness above everything else because I am that way myself. What I don't want is any kind of religious pressure. Do your own thing but leave me out of it. I don't want a wimp either. I want a guy that can take charge of things at times. I'm not asking you to buy me a car, but please pick up the check at the restaurant. I am beyond generous in so many ways both monetarily and emotionally, but I'm probably never going to reach for the tab . So if you're cheap, chronically indecisive, or a zealot, I'm not your girl. .... and I'm not into enabling your psychosis. If you're crazy, just 'bye. I'm certainly not the one to be judgmental with regard to a certain amount of freak but I really must pass on the burden of a lunatic. So my goal here, I think, is to meet a man to hang out with, go to the movies with and hopefully find a place of mutual trust that will make intimacy possible because that is important to me as well.
Oh, and I'm not a cook. I eat to be healthy and I can make stuff. And I clean up after a real cook really well ... but a "cook" I'm not. However I do love to be wined and dined and my preferences range from the diveyest of bars to the 5 star variety ... it's all about who sits across from me.