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62 M Huntington, NY

I’m looking for

  • Women who like men
  • Ages 40–60
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

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6′ 0″ (1.83m)
Body Type
Cancer, and it’s fun to think about
Graduated from Ph.D program
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Has kids
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My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
I am a child of Love. I have come only to speak of Love

I am an intelligent, curious, emotionally available, compassionate man, who is passionate about politics, sensuality/sexuality, alternative health and nature, especially the ocean. I love to laugh and its even better when I am laughing with someone else. Laughing releases all of these wonderful biochemicals and its sexy! Being in nature, around water (I am a cancer after all! lol) is essential to me. One of my goals is to live right on the water. Now with global warming having such an effect, I am keeping my fins and snorkel handy! I love the beach, traveling, foreign and domestic, music, ethnic foods, quiet moments and time spent creating a life with another. It is important for me to feel connected spiritually with my lover as well as emotionally and physically.

Folks, I feel compelled to write this. I get a number of "favorites" from the quickmatch feature. I do not respond to those. This is not a guessing game for me. We all have hopes, wishes and dreams. Be brave share yours directly, who knows it might be blissful!

One of my favorite poems from Mary Oliver:
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
I am wonderfully involved in professions that care for others and help people become more aware of themselves and empowered to heal the traumas and pain of their past. I am also a father of four and am actively supporting my children as they turn into young adults who are launching their own lives (somewhat! lol)

This Fall

I will stand under a shedding oak tree
and sing my heart's song to the falling moon

I will lie among the trembling leaves
and offer up my tears to a world less lovely without you in it

I will hold to the sacredness of the heart
and honor the choice I make not to go back to sleep.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Everything! Ok, ok.. maybe a tad of an exageration here :)...I am not truly handy, but I give great massages, know how to express my feelings and can listen, truly listen to people. I come from the heart in most of my dealings with people and am authentic.

Life is LOVE which is a gift from God and parents, and DEATH is gratitude for going to a new dimension”.
~Masaru Emoto~
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
My smile and my eyes.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
Rumi, especially translated by Coleman Barks, Hafiz, Kabir,
Whitman, Oliver, Bly, John Lee. Movies run from small independent films to ones that move me in my heart. Out of Africa, Harold and Maude, Spartacus, Sessions, Shawshank Redemption all move me in one way or another.I love...I mean love music...especially live music in small venues. Jazz (Rick Braun, Peter White, Mindy Abair), soul (Marvin Gaye), r&b (Keb Mo), reggae (Bob Marley..I miss his wisdom and his heart), rock (Bonnie Raitt), what a voice, Van Morrison, no one writes better than the Irish mystic, Joni Mitchell, incomparable, Jackson Browne, the Band...miss you Levon!), I have just rediscovered Laura Nero (what a musical talent!), classical, folk (Dar Williams), and world (Jai Uttal, Nawang, Wolfstone)
I don't watch that much tv but I have to mention The Newsroom, after missing the West Wing for so many years, its nice to see Sorkin back with such a quality show. FOOD...ethnic foods such as Thai, Chinese, Italian, Middle Eastern, Vietnamese, Mexican are all terrific!!!, but sometimes there is nothing like a wonderful jointly prepared meal with a woman who holds my heart with her smile and plucks the chords of it with her laughter.

Love is the bridge between you and everything.

The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Love, mangos, sweetness, laugher, integrity, compassion, friends, sensuality, the ocean, cherries, silence, music, ethnic foods, travel, communication (I know..I know its more than six)
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
life, my purpose, delicious food, kissing being in nature particularly my desire to wake up with my lover and be able to listen to the ocean as the first awareness of the day, alternative health, politics, my children, friends, poetry, the joy of being loved and loving.


I love the moment before the first kiss,
Hanging in space,
Like an apple on the thinnest tree branch,
Yielding, but still holding on
All is possible,
Possibilities all,
Exist without time or space or context
There is only the moment
And what could be,
Already is

Some Kiss We Want

There is some kiss we want with
our whole lives, the touch of

spirit on the body. Seawater
begs the pearl to break its shell.

And the lily, how passionately
it needs some wild darling. At

night, I open the window and ask
the moon to come and press its

face against mine. Breathe into
me. Close the language door and

open the love-window. The moon
won't use the door, only the window.

A beautiful video of Rumi as spoken by Coleman Barks

Some More Thoughts on Kissing!

If there is a kissing "hall of fame" I would hope that my soul would get honorable mention. I think that there are times when kissing someone dear, everything else slows down and time seems to stand perfectly still.

In that space between heaven and earth,
nothing else matters,
nor exists,
only the kiss
and the connection
between two hearts
two luminous beings
and the joy that comes
from knowing that we have been met

Holding that space
and lingering in the place of the sacred kiss
love pours into each of us
and the universe swells slightly
with the light of love

How glorious to offer each other
a taste of immortality
because in this moment and beyond,
this kiss will last forever.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
On my way home from my office, picking up Pad Thai and going to hang out with my kids or going to hear some live music in the park.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I love ketchup with eggs...I know its harsh but true...:)
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.
...are willing to meet me in the heart space, are not so concerned about material things (is that possible on Long Island?), would be interested in dating a man who is imperfect but openly seeks god (as in spiritual) in most of what he does, are open to leaving Long Island at some point, are not afraid to explore sensuality with a conscious man, know how to touch and be touched in a loving way.

Folks, this is a free site which means that you can write anything your heart desires...well almost anything. :) For those of you who can't go beyond a wink as a communication starter...think about it...what have you got to lose?

Take a risk,
ask for what you really want,
dare to speak the truth of your soul,
for a moment let your heart be free of fear
and breath in the possibility of love.

Another way to put this is that I simply ignore winks, so if you want something more...give something more!