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39 M Issaquah, WA

My Details

Last Online
Yesterday – 11:34pm
Hispanic / Latin, White
5′ 8″ (1.73m)
Body Type
Strictly anything
Other, and somewhat serious about it
Leo, and it’s fun to think about
Graduated from university
Relationship Status
Relationship Type
Doesn’t have kids, but might want them
Has dogs and has cats
English, Sign Language (Fluently)

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My self-summary
Guild Wars 2 -- Wow that was a lot of time this winter. I'm suspect having made this update, I will suddenly loose interest and start playing outdoors... so if you are a gamer, and would enjoy gaming with another gamer from time to time, hit me up.

I have multiple accounts, so you could just come hang out and play, no need to invest.

Looking for switches in both my massage partners and my sexual partners, other activities also possible depending on mutual interest. Quite happy to maintain boundaries, and be a gentleman. I really enjoy both giving and receiving massage. I have been told my massages are mind blowing. Think NSA intimacy rather than NSA sex :) That being said, if you wiggle your ass at me, I will get the hint.

Currently working 1/2 time Monday-Thursday 1-6pm (Woot!). Outside of that, I am available for other fun activities.

Hot tub is offline for the summer. That was quite pleasant.


Mostly looking for gay/bi/queer guys (partnered is certainly fine) to spend time with. (coffee, walking/hiking, yoga, martial arts, brain foo, massage, sex, gaming, whatever).

Love massage... and by massage I mean me crawling around on top of someone using hands, feet, forearms, elbows, knees, and anything else I can come up with to work through the muscles in the body. It isn't sex, it is definitely more intense than you are likely to get at the local Massage Envy. In my opinion pretending that body work isn't... partnered contact... intimate partnered contact... is silly. I want to know you are loving it... or why bother? (make noise! Say "that feels nice" or "Harder" or "softer") Massage can be sufficient in and of itself as an experience.

I grew up with computers, usually with the case only recently re-attached. I have spent my 10k hours playing video games, and while I love them, I'm in a "Time waster" mode rather than a "MMORPG PWN YOUR LIFE" mode. I like most RPG's, not as excited about FPS, and am bored to tears by Sports and Racing games.

I believe and practice functional Polyamory meaning I believe you can have deep meaningful relationships with every fucking person you know. You may also have sex with one or more folks you know. The more levels you connect on, the "better" the sex can be, the "better" the relationship can be. How long does it take you to ride yourself to bliss? Is it easier or harder with more than one person? I believe in honesty, playing safe and being true to my best self.

I love building things, and have built most of my house. I love teaching and learning from folks. Anything they are passionate about.

I know American Sign Language

I am Awake, Alive and Engaged.
What I’m doing with my life
I spent 15 of the last 20 years at MSFT in various roles. I am neither rich, nor particularly excited to spend another 20 in Corporate America. What else is on the agenda? Story teller/Magician/Foo Master. Most of my life has revolved around computers and technology. I don't see that changing any time soon. :)

Currently working in Academia, which matches my personal values and skillset, so yay.
I’m really good at
Giving honest feedback. Connecting deeply. Listening.

DIY anything... including sex toys.
The first things people usually notice about me
My eyes, my smile, my attention to their words and if they are into social dominance, my (on a good day) lack of reaction to their attempts at domination. On a not so good day, I smile... I don't suggest trying this with a police officer, it can make them wig.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Comedy: Eddie Izzard rocks. Margret Cho is fun.
Books: I enjoyed Harry Potter, and most Sci Fi and Fantasty books... which I now listen to on audio book while playing computer games. God bless the internet :)
On the more intense side, Joseph Campbell, Vivekananda, Enlightenment is for real.

Douglas Adams is fun too. Neil Gamien has rocked my world repeatedly over the years. Terry Pratchett is fun. Robert Heinlein makes the best pulp in the multiverse.

Music: Macklemore!!! Seattle native, and speaks Truth. Bastille, One Republic, Pentatonix, Glitch Mob, Plenty of Dubstep, Calvin Harris, Blackmill, Swedish House Mafia, Imagine Dragons, Avicii, Fall Out Boy, Lindsey Stirling, Anthem Lights, Katy Perry, Ani Difranco.

Comics: Sandman, Transmetropolitan, Invisibles... and on the other end of the spectrum Skin Horse, Capitol Hill Billies, Penny Arcade, XKCD
The six things I could never do without
Alone time with great music.
Companionship with quality folks who enjoy being company without needing to entertain or be entertained.
Company that likes putting in 110% for a good cause (yes, I'm talking about sex, massage... and other things).
Living stuff to play with and watch grow and change.
Time, space, and interest in creating net new (art/ideas/etc)
Radical Self Expression
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Life, the Universe and Everything
On a typical Friday night I am
Yoga, Massage, Hanging with tribemates, building something, fixing something, imagining something.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I woke up ~ May 1st 2012. Not the first time, but certainly the most profoundly.
I spent a couple months in a state of profound peace and joy. More or less back to something corresponding to "normal" but my compass certainly got re-calibrated.
Beginning to walk a bright path.
I’m looking for
  • Guys who like guys
  • Ages 24–40
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating
You should message me if
You are awesome in one or more ways. You like spending time with other awesome people.

You heard something that you want to know more about. You would enjoy a great massage. You would like to give a great massage! You have something to teach.

Of particular interest, I'd love to get more time with ceramics and glass blowing, but really, anything you are particularly passionate about I will probably find interesting.