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My self-summary Propose an edit

I'm a quivering ball of anxious, inarticulate neurosis wrapped in a loose and almost comfortable layer of eloquent elitist pedantry. I'm antisocial and deeply introverted, but because my career is largely social in nature, I've had to learn coping mechanisms that include extroversion and good networking skills. I'm moody, empathetic, and crave companionship (socially, emotionally, romantically, and sexually), but am often seen as either crudely silly or aloof. The insightful of my friends would know that I often (though not always) use my crude and silly humor as a way to distance myself from my peers, and that my aloofness is usually my subconscious trying really hard to entice people to pull me out of my shell.

What I'm doing with my life Propose an edit

Wasting my precious childhood in school.

...and wasting time here (since I should be doing my readings for school).

I'm really good at Propose an edit

According to the reactions I get from my friends, I'm very good at saying things that sound like they should mean something but are somehow unintelligible. Funny, that's the reaction I have to most of what they say.

Things that I really like to do, some of which I am good at: playing the (French) Horn, calligraphy, teaching, finding obscure, difficult, or invisible things such as four-leaf clovers or odd tidbits that lurk in the corners of the internet.

The first thing(s) people usually notice about me Propose an edit

I suspect that one of the things that distinguishes people is that they all notice subtly different things in the people they meet and know. Many people likely notice some of the same things about me, but you'd have to ask them. Or notice things yourself. That seems more reliable.

My favorite books, movies, music, and food Propose an edit

Books: I've been a sucker for Ursula Le Guin's books since I was a little kid. Even the book that turned me on to her then, A Wizard of Earthsea, continues to amaze me with its insight and depth. I also like the bits of the literature I've read from JRR Tolkien, Tad Williams, Roger Zelazny, Kurt Vonnegut Jr, Neal Stephenson, and I'm getting tired of typing names so I'll stop here. I confess that I essentially stopped reading for pleasure when I started college; this will someday be the subject of a new year's resolution.

Movies: I love what work of Jean-Pierre Jeunet (Amélie and Delicatessen) that I've gotten to watch, and thought Terry Gilliam's Brazil was a whole lot of fun.

Music: As a musician, I suppose my taste is probably a bit strange, but it's the only taste I know. My favorite composer is Giacinto Scelsi, but I also go for Schönberg, Mahler, Messiaen, Bach, and Beethoven. Without any of them, I don't think I could be who I am today. Perhaps especially Bach and Beethoven. If I could go back in time and only visit one musician from the past, I'd be hard pressed to choose between Brahms and Schönberg. Favorite musicians that you're more likely to recognize include Björk, Tori Amos, John Coltrane, Laurie Anderson. Currently obsessed with Rev. Horton Heat. I'm also deeply fascinated by some of the musicians I have the honor to work with on a regular basis. A few of them may become famous.

Food: I love food. I cannot become vegan or vegetarian for love of seafood and lamb. I cannot abide any of the various protein-heavy carbohydrate-limiting diets for love of lentils, rice, and bread. I like spice; and though I can tolerate very hot spices, I prefer to think about taste than heat. Garlic, sage and fennel are keys to my palate, and I have a mild addiction to vinegar.

The six things I could never do without Propose an edit

I can be frugal and only need a couple or a few things. But If I'm feeling a little bit greedy, may I require seven or eight? In that case, my continued existence depends upon -- and without which I would probably disappear in a puff of steam -- the availability of garlic, words, things I don't quite understand, tea, water, chocolate. I feel like I'm stretching to add more, so maybe I'm not feeling particularly greedy about my needs today.

I spend a lot of time thinking about Propose an edit

How to be less cynical. This is tough because 90% of my humor can be boiled down to cynicism and bad puns.

On a typical Friday night I am Propose an edit

Practicing my scales, arpeggios, and long tones. Or procrastinating and reading xkcd.

The most private thing I'm willing to admit here Propose an edit

Almost all of my answers to the match questions are about three years old; I think I've answered about 150 or so questions since then. In that time, I've changed from Poolboy to The Backrubber to The Loverboy, and suspect that our match ratings are perhaps not as accurate as they could be.

Also, I should mention that my identification here on OKCupid is somewhat misleading: I identify as bi, because I am occasionally -- if rarely -- attracted to men. I list myself as straight here because my attraction has yet to manifest itself to any men on this site.

You should message me if Propose an edit

Is this a question of compulsion or impulsion? Is it relevant? Give it a shot, but please forgive me if I don't answer.

In spite of how busy I am, I'm interested in meeting people, and will usually find time to meet. I am a lousy correspondent.

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