Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
I've been in Sonoma County for a year, rebuilding my life from the
ground up. Before this I lived on a sail boat in Emeryville.
This is me (hi), casting a beacon out to kindred spirits, mind and
heart all aglow.
I live up in the redwoods in a cabin in Cazadero, which I love. I
moved up here with a partner last year, and when we drifted apart,
I found myself in a fascinating and beautiful place, wondering how
I would up here. I spend a lot of time walking out among the trees
with my puppy, an alchemical medley of Yorkshire and
I run my own holistic, somatic healing and coaching practice in
Sebastopol. The theme is healing childhood trauma for deeper
I've come to see the human experience as an epic comedy and a
spiritual dance. My life's been a series of intricate awakenings.
From literal (near death experiences) to metaphorical. Is there a
difference? Anyway, they come and go.
Lately, my creativity overflows mostly in writing. I write about
life's mysteries in the Elephant Journal and the Good Men Project
sometimes. Though if I get the urge to sketch you in a certain
light, don't be surprised. Capturing the ineffable is as priceless
as it is futile.
I grew up in Arizona under sweeping desert skies, on the outskirts
of Phoenix. Now I consider where I live to be probably one of the
most beautiful places on earth. There are many. Something about the
rolling hills and the Pacific.
Astrologically, I'm an Aquarius. Can someone tell me why I attract
Scorpios like moths to a flame? Not that there's anything wrong
with that, but usually something winds up broken and I wind up
bruised, battered, crucified, transformed.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
I'm working to cultivate my own ALIVENESS, so I can make the world
a better place. Emanating from this one lone beating heart.
I'm building my own healing / coaching practice where I work with
clients as they release the past and cultivate deeper love and
intimacy. I work in a somatic style that I'm slowly refining. I've
been obsessively learning about business, which used to be torture
and now I find to be exciting.
I'm refining and redefining what it means to be vital and alive for
me, tearing down and recreating worn out paradigms.
Something is always in the works. I write songs. Once upon a time,
they were all heart wrenching ballads of love lost. Now there are
some ballads of love found in the mix. (it was 'lost' again). Love
is never lost. It's all just a celebration of the human condition,
isn't it? (Interestingly, they play a few of my songs on obscure
Pandora stations). I'm making a new album in the coming months,
which just means a few days of recording.
I have an MFA in fine part from SFAI in San Francisco. That was my
sole passion from childhood up. In 2012 I began training intensely
as a 'healer.' My own healing work is based on sharing my own
epiphanies and catastrophes with clients.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Looking at people and seeing where they are 'stuck' and what
they're craving. Lightening up a situation with wry humor.
Lightening it up again if it doesn't work the first time. Getting
slapped if it doesn't work the second, third, and forth time.
Kidding, hopefully. Writing. Ruminating. Endless learning.
Reminiscing. Running. Healing. Teaching. Uncovering reasons to
smile. Revealing. Reliving. Reveling. Living in the moment. Being
intensely present with someone. Touching. Sensing. Feeling.
Noticing where I'm not feeling. Seeing the big picture. Falling in
love (I'm not sure that's a good thing). Fleeing Scorpios.
Constantly learning and growing.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
is that I look European. Ironically, in Europe everyone thought I
looked American. I dunno. And then in Japan people thought I looked
Chinese. (that didn't happen). People notice my jawline, and people
often say that I look like someone famous, though they don't know
who. Perhaps I was, in a past life. People notice that I am usually
not clean shaven. That I am fit. That my hair is a color that
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
Darjeeling Limited, Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind and
Adaptation (my favorites), I Heart Huckabees, Dumb and Dumber, The
Matrix, Spirited Away, Constantine, Coraline. Most Wes Anderson,
Flight of the Conchords is a reflection of a stage of my life. It
reminds me of a friend and I.
Lately I read a lot of non fiction, books on healing and self
healing, spiritual literature, books that inspire. I read
constantly because I am so curious about the world.
Music? The twang of an acoustic guitar vibrates with my heart and I
look for songwriters that inspire me. Lately I'm listening to Bon
Iver, Damien Rice. The other day I was serendipitously guided to a
Rising Appalachia show after meeting them in a Whole Foods. I also
love to listen to audiobooks and lectures on long drives and fill
each moment with learning.
Lately I just find myself sitting in silence, listening to my own
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Intimacy (Physical and Emotional)
Avocados (and Guacamole).
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
how to "be the change I wish to see in the world." What real
aliveness looks and feels like.
How the mind, body, spirit works and what is the meaning of life
and how would I live it if I knew.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
There is no typical, though sometimes I miss having a weekly
routine. Something like a regular date, dinner, movie night (etc)
would be lovely. I love new and exciting things. I also find
grounding in some routine.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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Horror movies scare the shit out of me, so I don't watch them.
Except movies on exorcism, which I seem obsessed with. I never
understood why people are so bored that they like to feel terror on
purpose. ;) I live to write songs and letters for a woman and buy
her flowers. I miss that when it isn't around. And I clandestinely
listen to Tony Robbins.
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.
• Your heart is open.
• You're an absolute bright light; a light so fierce it blinds some
• You're sometimes serious; sometimes lighthearted.
• You take care of your precious body.
• You're moving through this world gracefully, consciously.
• You're passionate, intelligent, intense, gentle, active,
idealistic, realistic, intuitive, logical, faithful, sensual,
• You believe in non-religious miracles (like a field of
• You're open to exploring intimate communion as a spiritual
• You're aware of your own beauty and cultivating that
• You're courageous in some areas of life; the more courageous the
• Your attention span is long enough to have made it through this
profile without skimming (much)
• Bonus: you're a vegetarian, vegan, raw.
• Bonus: we can sing or play instruments together. I write duets
sometimes and try to sing the woman's part in falsetto. It does not
bode well for the listener.
If any of this resonates, perhaps you and I can explore the threads
of connection, and deepen the exploration of what it means to be
Perhaps tea is in order; brave conversations over an Epicurian
masterpiece of a lump of food. They both have their place. And
later, if it feels right, we can tickle each other, metaphorically.
And laugh by candlelight. Or a walk through the redwoods.
Or we could just scowl at each other from afar...
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