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36 Sebastopol, CA Man


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I’m looking for

  • Women
  • Ages 27–41
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating

My details

Last online
Today – 8:17pm
6′ 0″ (1.83m)
Body type
Mostly vegetarian
Other, but not too serious about it
Aquarius, and it’s fun to think about
Graduated from masters program
Strictly monogamous
Doesn’t have kids, but might want them
Has dogs and likes cats
English (Fluently), Chinese (Poorly)
My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
I've been in Sonoma County for a year, rebuilding my life from the ground up. Before this I lived on a sail boat in Emeryville.

This is me (hi), casting a beacon out to kindred spirits, mind and heart all aglow.

I live up in the redwoods in a cabin in Cazadero, which I love. I moved up here with a partner last year, and when we drifted apart, I found myself in a fascinating and beautiful place, wondering how I would up here. I spend a lot of time walking out among the trees with my puppy, an alchemical medley of Yorkshire and Chihuahua.

I run my own holistic, somatic healing and coaching practice in Sebastopol. The theme is healing childhood trauma for deeper intimacy.

I've come to see the human experience as an epic comedy and a spiritual dance. My life's been a series of intricate awakenings. From literal (near death experiences) to metaphorical. Is there a difference? Anyway, they come and go.

Lately, my creativity overflows mostly in writing. I write about life's mysteries in the Elephant Journal and the Good Men Project sometimes. Though if I get the urge to sketch you in a certain light, don't be surprised. Capturing the ineffable is as priceless as it is futile.

I grew up in Arizona under sweeping desert skies, on the outskirts of Phoenix. Now I consider where I live to be probably one of the most beautiful places on earth. There are many. Something about the rolling hills and the Pacific.

Astrologically, I'm an Aquarius. Can someone tell me why I attract Scorpios like moths to a flame? Not that there's anything wrong with that, but usually something winds up broken and I wind up bruised, battered, crucified, transformed.
What I’m doing with my life
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I'm working to cultivate my own ALIVENESS, so I can make the world a better place. Emanating from this one lone beating heart.

I'm building my own healing / coaching practice where I work with clients as they release the past and cultivate deeper love and intimacy. I work in a somatic style that I'm slowly refining. I've been obsessively learning about business, which used to be torture and now I find to be exciting.

I'm refining and redefining what it means to be vital and alive for me, tearing down and recreating worn out paradigms.

Something is always in the works. I write songs. Once upon a time, they were all heart wrenching ballads of love lost. Now there are some ballads of love found in the mix. (it was 'lost' again). Love is never lost. It's all just a celebration of the human condition, isn't it? (Interestingly, they play a few of my songs on obscure Pandora stations). I'm making a new album in the coming months, which just means a few days of recording.

I have an MFA in fine part from SFAI in San Francisco. That was my sole passion from childhood up. In 2012 I began training intensely as a 'healer.' My own healing work is based on sharing my own epiphanies and catastrophes with clients.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Looking at people and seeing where they are 'stuck' and what they're craving. Lightening up a situation with wry humor. Lightening it up again if it doesn't work the first time. Getting slapped if it doesn't work the second, third, and forth time. Kidding, hopefully. Writing. Ruminating. Endless learning. Reminiscing. Running. Healing. Teaching. Uncovering reasons to smile. Revealing. Reliving. Reveling. Living in the moment. Being intensely present with someone. Touching. Sensing. Feeling. Noticing where I'm not feeling. Seeing the big picture. Falling in love (I'm not sure that's a good thing). Fleeing Scorpios. Constantly learning and growing.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
is that I look European. Ironically, in Europe everyone thought I looked American. I dunno. And then in Japan people thought I looked Chinese. (that didn't happen). People notice my jawline, and people often say that I look like someone famous, though they don't know who. Perhaps I was, in a past life. People notice that I am usually not clean shaven. That I am fit. That my hair is a color that defies definition.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Darjeeling Limited, Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind and Adaptation (my favorites), I Heart Huckabees, Dumb and Dumber, The Matrix, Spirited Away, Constantine, Coraline. Most Wes Anderson, Big Lebowski.

Flight of the Conchords is a reflection of a stage of my life. It reminds me of a friend and I.

Lately I read a lot of non fiction, books on healing and self healing, spiritual literature, books that inspire. I read constantly because I am so curious about the world.

Music? The twang of an acoustic guitar vibrates with my heart and I look for songwriters that inspire me. Lately I'm listening to Bon Iver, Damien Rice. The other day I was serendipitously guided to a Rising Appalachia show after meeting them in a Whole Foods. I also love to listen to audiobooks and lectures on long drives and fill each moment with learning.

Lately I just find myself sitting in silence, listening to my own inner landscape.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
The Ocean.
Intimacy (Physical and Emotional)
Avocados (and Guacamole).
My guitar.
My puppy.
A notebook.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
how to "be the change I wish to see in the world." What real aliveness looks and feels like.

How the mind, body, spirit works and what is the meaning of life and how would I live it if I knew.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
There is no typical, though sometimes I miss having a weekly routine. Something like a regular date, dinner, movie night (etc) would be lovely. I love new and exciting things. I also find grounding in some routine.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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Horror movies scare the shit out of me, so I don't watch them. Except movies on exorcism, which I seem obsessed with. I never understood why people are so bored that they like to feel terror on purpose. ;) I live to write songs and letters for a woman and buy her flowers. I miss that when it isn't around. And I clandestinely listen to Tony Robbins.
You should message me if
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• Your heart is open.
• You're an absolute bright light; a light so fierce it blinds some men.
• You're sometimes serious; sometimes lighthearted.
• You take care of your precious body.
• You're moving through this world gracefully, consciously.
• You're passionate, intelligent, intense, gentle, active, idealistic, realistic, intuitive, logical, faithful, sensual, creative, spiritual.
• You believe in non-religious miracles (like a field of wildflowers).
• You're open to exploring intimate communion as a spiritual path.
• You're aware of your own beauty and cultivating that awareness.
• You're courageous in some areas of life; the more courageous the better.
• Your attention span is long enough to have made it through this profile without skimming (much)
• Bonus: you're a vegetarian, vegan, raw.
• Bonus: we can sing or play instruments together. I write duets sometimes and try to sing the woman's part in falsetto. It does not bode well for the listener.

If any of this resonates, perhaps you and I can explore the threads of connection, and deepen the exploration of what it means to be alive.

Perhaps tea is in order; brave conversations over an Epicurian masterpiece of a lump of food. They both have their place. And later, if it feels right, we can tickle each other, metaphorically. And laugh by candlelight. Or a walk through the redwoods.

Or we could just scowl at each other from afar...