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40 M Seattle, WA

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6′ 0″ (1.83m)
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Graduated from masters program
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Doesn’t have kids, but might want them
Likes dogs and likes cats
English (Fluently), Spanish (Poorly)

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My self-summary
I just quit my job (internship, actually) and I'm moving back to Seattle. I’m still in California now and actually I don’t know that I’ll be in Seattle itself. Might end up in a suburb, you know.
What I’m doing with my life
Helping people solve problems. (That is, counseling. But not “therapy”. I'm not a healer.) Taking photos. Writing. Figuring it all out.
I’m really good at
Understanding and using the English language. Thinking. Listening. Scrabble. I’m slowly getting better at photography.
The first things people usually notice about me
This probably isn’t the first thing, but I think people quickly get the sense that I’m thoughtful. (In either sense of that word.)
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Authors I love: Jane Austen, E.M. Forster, Homer, William Shakespeare, J.R.R. Tolkien. (Yes, I’ve read a lot of Tolkien, but I’m afraid I can’t speak in Elvish.)

Authors I hate: Jonathan Franzen.

Movies/directors I like: Two recent movies I really liked are Philomena and Nebraska. Long-time favorites include The Lion in Winter, Life of Brian, Top Hat, Ang Lee, Woody Allen, and Alfred Hitchcock. I like the occasional sci-fi/fantasy/superhero blockbuster.

Movies/directors I can’t stand: Braveheart, the Coen Brothers, and Wes Anderson.

Music to my ears: Right now I’m really enjoying Tegan and Sara’s Heartthrob. I also like: Beethoven, Diane Birch, The Black Keys, Florence + The Machine, Hariprasad Chaurasia, several Indian musicians named Khan, Melody Gardot, Neko Case, later Philip Glass, Rachael Yamagata, Soundgarden, U2, Willie Nelson.

Nails on chalkboard: The Decembrists. Any over-produced teen-pop anthem telling me never to give up, follow my dreams, I'm a firework, etc. Any over-produced teen-pop anthem telling me to fuck off and die.

Favorite Food: Homemade Indian.

TV shows that make me happy: The Daily Show. Past great shows: Lost and My So-Called Life.

TV shows that annoy me: I couldn't get past the first few episodes of Game of Thrones. It just seemed like a big cliché-fest to me. I mean, of course the dwarf has an enormous sexual appetite, of course the evil twins are incestuous. Everything struck me as a caricature: the stern, stoic, honorable northerners, the cynical hedonist southerners, the savage klingons whoops I mean horse dudes.... And I can't believe that that stupid, weak king could hold onto the throne for more than a few years, if his subjects were actual human beings. Kings in the real world (before they became figureheads) had to be extremely competent and personally involved in running their governments, or others would quickly step in to the power vacuum. Weak or absentee kings tended to end up with lawlessness, civil wars, coups, and/or parliaments. (This is me being a pedantic contrarian with a degree in history.)

Comedians: Bill Cosby, Eddie Izzard, Mitch Hedberg, Louis C.K.
The six things I could never do without
Oh, you know, the usual.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Relationships. Communication. Words. Music. Justice. Are our "inalienable rights" really inalienable, or does that word just mean that they're important to us? How can we agree on what's good and what's bad? How can we know anything for sure? What IS the air speed velocity of an unladen swallow?
On a typical Friday night I am
Oh, you know, the usual.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
A lot of people seem to find this idea baffling. "Then it wouldn't be private," they often write in this space. That's true enough, if you take "private" to mean the binary opposite of "not private". But then the phrase "most private" would make no sense. "Most private" implies the existence of "more private", "less private", and "least private"--in other words, a scale. At the very lowest point on the scale is "not at all private", where things you'd tell anyone would go. At the highest point is "utterly secret", where, if anything is up there, you'll never admit it. In between is a wide space with things that you might tell: less reluctantly to more people as we go down the scale, or more reluctantly to fewer people as we go up. What's the highest point on the scale where you're still willing to admit something (on a public but semi-anonymous website)? That's what this question is asking.

Let's see, what am I willing to admit? I'm currently unemployed. In fact I haven't had a paycheck in a while. Grad school and internships, you know....
I’m looking for
  • Girls who like guys
  • Ages 28–40
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating
You should message me if
you like what you see, or you're looking for a worthy Scrabble opponent.