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41 Redmond, WA Man


I’m looking for

  • Women
  • Ages 28–38
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

My Details

Last Online
Mar 3
6′ 0″ (1.83m)
Body Type
Graduated from masters program
Doesn’t have kids, but might want them
Likes dogs and likes cats
English (Fluently), Spanish (Poorly)

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My self-summary
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I just moved back to (the) Seattle (area) after a few years in California, where I learned a lot about my trade but made no money. Now I am poor. But I'm starting my own business, so that should fix that right up, right?

I make eye contact and listen closely. I crave quality interaction. I'm interested in just about everything, and I love to think about things intensely and thoroughly! and talk about them! (So please don't be one of those people who says, "You think a lot.") I love to laugh and once in a while I even say something kind of funny. I'm fairly comfortable with myself and can handle intense situations pretty well. I've done a few unusual things with my life, like study music in India. I like walking around in nature but I'm not hardcore. I find I'm often out of step with what everyone else is into. I don't like being categorized and I try not to categorize others too much. But I did get bored with digital photography and I'm shooting mostly film these days, which puts me in a certain hipster category, whether I like it or not.

I would like to meet someone smart, kind, and pretty. Yes, I care about looks: I'm a terrible, shallow person. Smart means: you really do think for yourself, and don't just follow a herd. Kind means: you feel sympathy for others and care about their well-being.
What I’m doing with my life
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Helping people solve problems. Taking photos. Writing. Reading. Exercising, bike riding, walking, hiking, and generally trying to balance being fit and healthy with being well read.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Understanding and using the English language. Being specific and not generalizing. Listening. Seeing things in different ways. Scrabble. I think I'm getting pretty good at photography.
The first things people usually notice about me
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Glasses or beard first, I suppose. Then my friendliness. Then my thoughtfulness (in either sense of that word).

Some people I know have never noticed my sense of humor, which makes me sad. :-( But a few people notice it right away, so I guess I can't complain too much.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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books. E.M. Forster, Jane Austen, Virginia Woolf, Homer, George R.R. Martin, Tolkien, Bertrand Russell.... A book I hated: The Corrections.

movies. The Lion in Winter (O'Toole/Hepburn, not Stewart/Close), Top Hat, The Princess Bride, The Court Jester, the occasional superhero movie, Woody Allen flicks, Ang Lee.... A movie I hated: Braveheart (and not just because it's wildly inaccurate).

TV. The Daily Show. ... I'm glad Game of Thrones exists because otherwise I wouldn't have read the books; but the TV show is, in my opinion, poop. A big pile of smelly, nonsensical poop. (OK, it has a few redeeming qualities, but they can't make up for the endless onslaught of stupidity.)

music. Beethoven, Diane Birch, The Black Keys, Florence + The Machine, Indian classical music, Lady Gaga (a much better singer than Tony Bennett), Melody Gardot, Neko Case, later Philip Glass, Public Enemy, Rachael Yamagata, Soundgarden, A Tribe Called Quest, U2, Willie Nelson.... I dislike: most country music produced in the last 20 or 30 years, and the Decembrists.

food. I like almost everything, but my favorite is homemade North Indian food.

stand-up comedy. Louis C.K., Mitch Hedberg.... Bill Cosby was on this list; I still think his comedy is funny, but now I find it very hard to laugh.

This might be important for you to know: I don't much care for sports, and I actively dislike (American) football, both the sport itself and the religion around it. (Also, why in the world is it called football?) ... But I will go to a baseball game or some other kind of game, if someone else pays for it.

Mitch Hedberg said it well (as always): "People assume that because I'm a guy I'm into sports. I like gatorade, but that's about as far as it goes."
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Oh, you know, the usual.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Lately I've mostly been thinking about my business: how to advertise/pitch it, how to explain what I do, how to train other people to do it, and how not to bore my date to death by talking too much about it. Seriously, it's a danger. My head is full of this crap these days. ("I'm passionate about what I do" is the positive way of saying that.)
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Oh, you know, the usual.
You should message me if
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you're cute and smart and you think we might get along.