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41 M Redmond, WA

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Yesterday – 8:58pm
6′ 0″ (1.83m)
Body Type
Graduated from masters program
Relationship Status
Relationship Type
Doesn’t have kids, but might want them
Likes dogs and likes cats
English (Fluently), Spanish (Poorly)

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My self-summary
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I just moved back to Seattle after a stint in California, where I learned a lot about my trade but made no money. Now I am poor. But I'm starting my own business, so that should fix that right up, right?

I make eye contact and listen closely. I crave quality interaction. I'm interested in just about everything, and I love to think about things intensely and thoroughly! and talk about them! (So please don't be one of those people who says, "You think a lot.") I love to laugh and once in a while I even say something kind of funny. I'm fairly comfortable with myself and can handle intense situations pretty well. I've done a few unusual things with my life, like study music in India. I like walking around in nature but I'm not hardcore. (I really don't get rock climbing.) I find I'm often out of step with what everyone else is into... but I did get bored with digital photography and I'm shooting mostly film these days, which I guess puts me in a certain hipster category.

I tend to get INFP when I take that test, but my "I" score is very low. I'm pretty outgoing.

I was inspired by another user to take the 5 love languages test:

12 Physical Touch
8 Quality Time
5 Acts of Service
5 Words of Affirmation
0 Receiving Gifts
What I’m doing with my life
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Helping people solve problems. (That is, counseling. But not “therapy”. I'm not a healer, dammit, Jim.) Taking photos. Writing.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Understanding and using the English language. Thinking. Listening. Scrabble. I’m slowly getting better at photography.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
Glasses or beard first, I suppose. Then my friendliness. Then my thoughtfulness (in either sense of that word).

Some people I know have never noticed my sense of humor, which makes me sad. :-( But a few people notice it right away, so I guess I can't complain too much.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Authors I love: Jane Austen, E.M. Forster, Homer, William Shakespeare, J.R.R. Tolkien. (Yes, I’ve read a lot of Tolkien, but I’m afraid I can’t speak in Elvish.) I just finished Delusions of Gender, which argues that currently popular ideas about "innate differences" between men and women (different brains, different 'ways of communicating', etc) are a load of pseudo-scientific nonsense that simply serve and reinforce old prejudices. I've started reading the "game of thrones" books. I would not say I love them. In fact they're very upsetting. But I can't seem to stop myself. (Update: I just finished the most recently published book. Oh my god those books are frustrating!)

Authors I hate: Jonathan Franzen.

Movies/directors I like: Two recent movies I really liked are Philomena and Nebraska. Long-time favorites include The Lion in Winter, Life of Brian, Top Hat, Ang Lee, Woody Allen, and Alfred Hitchcock. I enjoy the occasional sci-fi/fantasy/superhero blockbuster.

Directors I probably don't appreciate as much as you do: The Coen Brothers, Wes Anderson, Joss Whedon.

Music to my ears: Beethoven, Diane Birch, The Black Keys, Florence + The Machine, Hariprasad Chaurasia, several Indian musicians named Khan, Melody Gardot, Neko Case, later Philip Glass, Rachael Yamagata, Soundgarden, U2, Willie Nelson. Lately I've been digging up stuff from the early 80s that I remember from my childhood but had no idea what it was at the time. (I was raised on John Denver.)

Nails on chalkboard: The Decembrists.

Favorite Food: Homemade Indian.

TV shows that make me happy: The Daily Show. Past great shows: Lost (even though it doesn't always hold up under scrutiny) and My So-Called Life.

TV shows that don't make me happy: most of them. Game of Thrones, which I discovered just recently, also does not make me happy, in fact I find it incredibly depressing, but I can't stop watching. Yuck. Filthy habit.

Comedians: Bill Cosby, Eddie Izzard, Mitch Hedberg, Louis C.K.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Oh, you know, the usual.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Relationships. Communication. Words. Music. Justice. Are our "inalienable rights" really inalienable, or does that word just mean that they're important to us? How can we agree on what's good and what's bad? How can we know anything for sure? What IS the air speed velocity of an unladen swallow?
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Oh, you know, the usual.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I'm not really a grown-up.
I’m looking for
  • Girls who like guys
  • Ages 28–40
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating
You should message me if
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You like what you see and/or you're looking for a worthy Scrabble opponent.