Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
I try not to hold too tightly to my story of who I am, but we gotta
start somewhere. So... The focus of my life is spiritual and
psychological growth. I believe our deepest purpose is to
understand and become who we truly are. I've been a Zen
practitioner for many years and am now involved in the Diamond
Approach, which I love.
With all that, humor is the great lubricant of life. Let's find
what there is to laugh about.
I admire and aspire to emotional transparency. Can we all express
and take responsibility for our feelings and needs? I find
Nonviolent Communication very helpful in this area. As much as
possible, can we talk about what is really going on? (You know- not
like the families most of us grew up in.)
I am smart in a did-well-in-school kind of way. I recognize that
there are infinite forms of intelligence and doing well on the SATs
is not necessarily one of the most useful in the longer term. I am
funny and delight in finding the humor in life. I love words and
like to write.
I am healthy and generally eat well. I love a day when I can leave
my car by the curb and ride my bike where I need to go. I don't
drink alcohol or do drugs anymore- life is getting shorter and I'd
rather have a clear mind.
I am a psychotherapist (MFT) who has just begun a new career as a
government bureaucrat. I think everyone should be a government
bureaucrat at least once in a lifetime, don't you?
Sometimes, I feel lonely and would love to have a companion to
explore ourselves and our world, to play and laugh with, to give
comfort and support. Mostly, I'm happy and would enjoy being happy
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
Trying not to get in its way.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Listening, puns, paint-by-number Van Gogh, seeing the humor,
reading aloud (especially if there's someone to listen), waking up
before the alarm, haiku, introspection, learning new words,
kissing, taking at least one good photograph a year, appearing calm
(not actually as useful as I once thought), saying "please" and
"thank you," cooking steel cut oats, parenthetical remarks (when
appropriate), remembering to water the plants, walking and talking
(at the same time!), laughing in the face of death (okay, I made
that one up)
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
I don't know about this question. I mean, what if you are the
otherwise perfect woman for me but I mention some band or HBO show
that you hate, so you write me off? Seems too risky.
(I suppose that's my glib way of avoiding having to make lists of
these things. Such preferences are fun to talk about, but don't
really seem essential)
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
I can definitely do without answering questions like this.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Patriarchy- it's the root of so many problems.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I am scared of profile pictures that contain images of other people
whose faces have been digitally erased. They are like some kind of
sci-fi nightmare, and do not put me in a romantic mood.
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.
This one is up to you. Hey, I can't do all the work. (Though, I
will say that I'd love to connect with a tender heart and a lively
mind- someone who sees her life as a spiritual journey, with
relationship as part of that journey)
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