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  • Ages 20-36
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My details

Last online
Aug 25, 2014
5' 9" (1.75m)
Body Type
Full figured
Other and laughing about it
Working on University
Doesn’t have kids
English (Fluently), Sign Language (Somewhat), Vietnamese (Somewhat)
My self-summary
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I'm Steven. I flounder in social situations, unless I don't think about it. I only have one filter so I say almost whatever I'm thinking. I curse like a sailor and have the skills to match. No seriously, I had a sailing license at one point.

I'm big into anti-oppression thanks to some friends who are movers and shakers. I'm working on understanding myself better, and that means understanding what assumptions I make. So don't address me by saying "guys". I'll call you out on it. That being said, please call me out on my own shit.

I become obsessed with things pretty easily, be it a fandom of some sort, an art style, a religion, or a spice. Current obsessions include magical realism, finding weird joints to crack, composting, beehives, making instruments (preferably out of antlers and bones). I can talk your ears off about opera and various vocal techniques. Just tell me when to stop. I will, I promise.

I also have Generalized Anxiety Disorder. It's not severe, but it's there nonetheless. Also, is not the abreviation GAD hilarious? I mean, come on. Hilarity. Right there.
What I’m doing with my life
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I'm studying Massage, but when I graduate I plan on getting a music therapy license. I also teach music on the side.
I’m really good at
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Touch. Making tea. Eating what I'm served. Being in groups where I don't understand the language being used.
The first things people usually notice about me
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That I pull my hair or cover my face when I'm excited.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Anything by: Jacqueline Carey, Jamaica Kinkaid, Dr. Seuss, C.G. Jung, The Harry Potter series, Gabriel Garcia Marquez.
Books of note: A Small Place, Speaker for the Dead, The Book of Lost Things, The Sneeches.

Food: Pho (pronounced "fuh" and said with an upwards inflection) is an all time favorite. Ethiopian, Indian, or any other food that's appropriate to eat with your hands. I grew up eating homemade Mexican food (my step-mom's from Mexico) and it is my ultimate source of comfort. I recently started making mole and I strive to be the king of moles.

Serious Business Times:
I studied opera. I have an affinity for High Renaissance choral music, especially Gesualda. I love anything "art music" from the 20th century (seriously, I enjoy listening to John Cage, but George Crumb is off the fucking charts amazing). I was also part of a modern music ensemble. I write "music" for it on occasion. Sometimes I will make a door squeak over and over as I listen to the sound. No joke, this is what I do with almost all my spare time.

Non-Serious Business Time:
Oh, I also happen to like contemporary popular music too. I'm overly fond of weird sounding singer/songwriters like Regina Spektor, Imogen Heap, Joanna Newsom, and Fiona Apple. I like dubstep and dirty hipster music. I once studied Run DMC for a music class and found myself pleasantly surprised. Music doesn't have to be intellectually stimulating all the time, though: Ke$ha's Cannibal is my anthem.

Shows: the Dr. Whoniverse is the shit. I love Buffy, Archer, My Little Pony: Friendship is Magic, Adventure Time, and other geeky fare. Guilty pleasures include: Abby's Ultimate Dance Competition, Honey Boo Boo, Spongebob, and Teen Mom.
Don't hate; masturbate.

Also, one of my favorite webcomics just revealed that one of the characters is trans and I almost died of pure fankid overload. (I automatically love you if you know which webcomic I'm talking about.)
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
My tea making kit.
Really good myths.
A good anatomy lecture.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Soil. Being a dinosaur. Acoustics. Vocal pedagogy. Folk music. What I want to do with my body when I die (donate all tissues, and those I cannot, I wish to send to the body farm). Constructal theory. Fairy tales. Salamanders and newts.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Making tea. Possibly playing a trivia board game.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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I'm super bad at flirting. Super bad. When I try to flirt, I just end up being really pretentious. It's awful and I'm sorry.
You should message me if
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It strikes your fancy. Seriously, I will try and have a converstation with you. About pretty much anything.